Naming the baby - should I involve him?

[sweetlullaby]

I have this problem as well about naming LO and FOB's involvement....in the early days of my pregnancy we did mention a few names to each other sorta just threw them around and he said that he hated every single name that i thought were "nice" or "cute" etc and then his name suggestions were names he knew i would never use as they were the names of people who had hurt me in the past or that i didnt like, and his "favourite" name for a boy was the name of a guy that raped me when i was 15 (which he knew about for definate) That still upsets me now, as i would never call my baby after someone so evil. Personally i think he was playing mind games with me and done it on purpose. He has text me in the last few days saying hows u? and then it was "is the baby still kicking?" and "have you thought of any names?" I told him i had and he asked what they were and i very politely told him that the names i had been thinking of meant a lot to me and i wasnt sharing them with anyone (i havnt told ANYONE my name choices lol) because i didnt want their opinions putting me off etc and that everyone will know what LO is called when he/she is born. And he said "oh ok". But the whole BC thing, naming baby, his involvement etc it just messes with my head and im just fed up with all of it because i don't know whats gonna happen. The only thing i do know is that no matter what i do he'll more than likely try and make life difficult for me. I wish someone could come along with a magic wand and just swish away all of my worries and fears.

 

[purpledahlia]

oh im so sorry to hear of your rape, and that the FOB even tried to suggest his name!! thats low. hugs x

 

[sweetlullaby]

Its ok, it was nearly 5 years ago! Im strong minded and havn't let it affect me, but when FOB said that it was his favourite name etc I was so shocked and hurt because he knew everything I'd been through etc. But sure what can we do? Some guys are real asses! He won't be getting any say in LO's name because im not giving him the chance to have an opinion on any of the names i like. He really doesn't deserve any say whatsoever! OT but i really like your quotes in your signature

 

[purpledahlia]

thanks!