I've got 4 boys and just want a little girl. I was pretty sure after DS4 I was done but I am feeling the pull to try once more later on in the future. But that will only be with the father of my children already. If we aren't together then DS4 will be my last baby. While I know relationships end and new ones begin, I don't want another child with another man for my own personal reasons. That doesn't mean to say they don't work because I came from a home with a stepfather and a sister with a different father and he treated me and my 2 other siblings like his own but it's just not something I want to be doing. Is the possibility of having another baby for you? It doesn't have to be so final.
Oh man...four boys. Yes, we will be trying again around December. I really don't want to be pregnant again and I hate the newborn stage, but I need my girl. Don't know what I will do if it's a boy.
I’m so sorry to read how your feeling, I’m not in quite the same situation but I 100% do get it, I currently have 3 girls (6, 4 & 16 months.) every scan I had I kept everything tightly crossed that it would be a girl. Same this time, I desperately hoped for a girl and turned out to be a boy. I’m still trying to come to terms with it, but I can’t help the way I feel, and I know it’s awful a lot of people just want ONE healthy baby regardless of gender and I’m being so ‘picky’ but I just can’t imagine my life with a son. I’m sure they’re lovely but when were out and about and the boys are running about like hooligans pushing and shoving etc I always think I’m glad I had girls. This gender disappointment is so real and it’s hard x
Thanks for understanding. I'm jealous that you have girls. I guess your story gives me hope that my fourth might be something different.
I had gender dissapointment with my first I REALLY wanted a girl, I was on these forums frequently. Honestly I now have 2 boys and 1 girl and another boy on the way and I couldn't be happier to have mostly boys.
It's all to do with personality. My five year old isn't like a hooligan at all he's extremely well behaved, but his sister is constant tantrums and naughtiness, and my youngest boy is a mix of the two XD
I get gender dissapointment, i do, I'm not judging you for it just trying to help you see it's do with personality and parenting rather than gender
I disagree. It is about gender. Imagine how you would feel if you didn't get that girl and you had four boys? It's probably hard to imagine because you do have a girl. There is no femininity in my house, other than me. There are no pink blankets, girly music boxes, or sparkly pictures on the wall. There is no hair to braid or nails to paint. There is no little girl for me to look at see myself in. I'm not trying to be rude, but I truly believe those who have one of each can never fully understand. Same with people who can't have any children. I can sympathize, but never understand the pain they feel.
So because I have one girl and three boys I'm not allowed to have gender dissapointment or have had it in the past?
And i'm trying to say, having a girl isn't a guarantee you get all the girly stuff. My sister refused to wear anything girly, doesn't like makeup, doesn't like girly stuff AT ALL she is all sports and gender neutral clothes even when she was little she wouldn't touch a barbie.
I was trying to be understanding and help you feel better.
Also after watching one of my kids be seriously ill in hospital recently It has made me care a lot less about what gender I get.But that doesn't mean I cant try and speak to others going through what I did.
also as someone who has experienced both genders I think I am qualified to say it isn't just about gender, it's about personality, being female isn't a guarantee of girly stuff, I sit with my five year old boy and watch and bond over disney princess movies.