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hey ladies...minne, don't give up hope yet--much too early to give up hope for the month.

larockera, i've read the same on fertile fluid...ewcm is the best but lots of women get PG without it.

had my appt today and heard HB...171 bpm. :) yay!
 
Yay for the baby's heartbeat...fantastic news!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :)
 
Well, I don't think today could be much worse. I woke up to the witch in full effect, two days early and out of nowhere--I then got a call from one of my best friends to tell me she is 12 weeks along. Seriously, great news--but could the timing be any worse...I mean, I didn't even have one hour to digest the fact that I was unsuccessful yet again.

I feel really, really low right now. Worse than I ever have. I thought we had finally done it. Six months of perfectly timed sex right around ovulation, a clock-work cycle and nothing. Maybe I'm infertile.

:cry::cry::cry::cry:
 
Dh just called to schedule his yearly phsyical and also schedule a SA. I didn't ask him to or even mention it. He said he just want to get it checked so we can move to plan B if it is him, or have peace of mind if his comes back good (well it could still be me obviously...but I have had such a clockwork cycle).
 
MinneGirl said:
I feel really, really low right now. Worse than I ever have. I thought we had finally done it. Six months of perfectly timed sex right around ovulation, a clock-work cycle and nothing. Maybe I'm infertile.

:cry::cry::cry::cry:
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Six months is not nearly enough a time frame for you to infer that you're infertile. I know it feels that you've been trying for ever, so do I, so do most of us who see our periods arrive month after month, but the fact remains that the vast majority of couples conceive between months 6-12. Babydreamer is on her 8th cycle. CedarWood even longer- isn't that right?

Yes, Membas conceived first try. Dragonfly second. Mrs-C, well, seventh. Most of the members of this forum that were here when I joined are still here.

I know how you feel. And I mean, I know how you feel. And I know that you're probably going to drive yourself mad until your DH gets his SA results (mine scheduled his for next week, and I'm shit scared already). Also know that you are very lucky to have such a reasonable, helpful husband. You won't believe the amount of men stubbornly refusing to have themselves checked just in damn case.

Chances are, there's probably nothing wrong with you.

And now I'm going to be brave and ask the following question, not just to MinneGirl, but to Babydreamer and CedarWood, hoping that our team members with the :bfp:s understand:

How comfortable are you reading the girls' news re scans, heartbeats and doc's appointments in this particular thread? I want an honest answer, and I hope the girls understand why I'm asking this. They do have their preggo diaries which we can always stalk, and they know how much we care for them. But if it causes extra stress, insecurity or agitation (and I'm not talking about jealousy here, and this is a most important clarification to be made), then perhaps we should move such discussions to somewhere else.

Month after month agitation and insecurity gets worse, and you can't help one's feelings, and since this is a support forum after all, I'd say let's talk about this. Nobody is going to, or should, get offended, as we trust each other's good intentions, and the ladies have been walking on our shoes.

What do you say? Shall we find a place in the forum to have our weekly update, and whoever want to check it, they can? And this can be kept as a ttc thread. Perhaps we can find a few more girls to make the team bigger again? Membas, Dragonfly and Mrs-C still remain our BnB buddies :flower:.
 
Minniegirl:hugs:
That is really sweet of your DH. I think - I read 9-12 months is pretty average for a normal couple to conceive but good of him to be concerned.

LR - interesting Re the osteopath - never really knew what one was or that they can help ttc....hmmmmm

Babydreamer - thats true healthy spermies can live awhile - 48-72 hrs for best results. I would say 12-13 for you, as usually the last day you see fert cm or the day after is the day of O.

Membas - congrats:flower:
 
LR - we posted about the same time.
Yes, it is true - I have been trying for yonks....:bike:
I am not quite sure how to rank it though....
I found out about one problem last Sept - another in Dec. The issues I have relate to infertility and miscarriage. There is a nutrient deficiency associated with one (Dec) so my body is probably only now getting back to normal.
So I would say 3-5 months maybe with a chance:shrug: I am a bit older as well.
But agree 6 months is too early to assume a problem but nice your Dh is getting an SA so you can rule that out.

Re your question: I have seen this as an issue in a buddy group on another forum. Sometimes it can be hard for people who have been trying for along time or who recently suffered a miscarriage. Myself I deal with it from time to time by not going on the forum(s) at all for a bit. Not as a relation to any group but as a way to deal with disappointment and at those times seeing such things is hard.. (These past few weeks I was away, was because I am in the US and before getting a new computer I wanted to keep my ttc from family.)
Maybe keeping it as a ttc thread is good. We could make a thread for this group over in the preg section - where we can join when we cross over:flower: also as LR said maybe an update somehow weekly? If Mrs C is ok with it we can invite people from time to time we meet in the other sections to grow a bit?
 
CedarWood said:
Re your question: I have seen this as an issue in a buddy group on another forum. Sometimes it can be hard for people who have been trying for along time or who recently suffered a miscarriage. Myself I deal with it from time to time by not going on the forum(s) at all for a bit. Not as a relation to any group but as a way to deal with disappointment and at those times seeing such things is hard..

Maybe keeping it as a ttc thread is good. We could make a thread for this group over in the preg section - where we can join when we cross over:flower: also as LR said maybe an update somehow weekly? If Mrs C is ok with it we can invite people from time to time we meet in the other sections to grow a bit?
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My thoughts and feelings exactly.

There's a lounge area section in BnB. Here:

https://www.babyandbump.com/

Scroll down and it's just under the Family Forums section. We could start a thread on General Chatter:

https://www.babyandbump.com/general-chatter/

or on Groups & Discussions:

https://www.babyandbump.com/groups-discussions/

This is where we'll all meet as a group again, and it will be up to each one to have a look or post an update. This can remain a ttc section, and I was actually thinking we could perhaps invite a few more members?

What do the rest of you say? I really hope Membas, Dragonfly and Mrs-C understand why we're discussing this. We know how much you're cheering on us, but sometimes, even the sight of a pregnancy signature can be hard, as I'm sure you already know.

:flower:
 
Yes, I have to agree. I am also scared that with only a few of us left trying, I will be left in the dust by myself and you will all be in 1st (or 2nd or 3rd) Tri without me.

And like LaRockera said, it has NOTHING to do with jealousy or feeling that you girls aren't totally cheering us on--its just a different place and mindset for those of us still tring...and we need to be able to talk just TTC in at least one thread on here :)

So yes, let's start a separate room where the rest of us can join you when we "crossover"...I like that term.

In the meantime, lets recruit a few more to join us.
 
Hey ladies,
I'm fine with whatever is decided about a new thread. I'm also fine just posting in my journal and reading this one from a distance. My feelings are not hurt, I understand, and that's why in the beginning I was hesitant to stay here. Seriously wish nothing but fast BFPs for you all and good mental health in the process :hugs:
 
What ever you girls want, I'm cool with.
I really am cheering you all on.

I'll start a journal, so you can check in when you want. I'll keep reading the original thread, to see how you are doing. I won't post though, I promise.

:hugs:
 
MinneGirl said:
I am also scared that with only a few of us left trying, I will be left in the dust by myself and you will all be in 1st (or 2nd or 3rd) Tri without me.
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You do, really? Because it's exactly what I'm scared of. I'm taking bets for CedarWood and Babydreamer82, too.

I tried to be cool last month, and it didn't work. I'm not cool. I want a baby, and I want it badly. I'm shit scared that there's something wrong with us, that we'll never be able to have our own, and then start telling myself that in the worst case scenario, I'll still be a mum, and a damn good one, because I will adopt.

Like I said, my DH booked his SA for early next week. I'll have results in five days- right before my fertile period; and I can't stop thinking about it already. What if. What if. What if!!!

You're not alone. Even in your thoughts of 'yeah, but what if I'm really the one not to make it?', even in that one, you're not alone.

:hugs::hugs::hugs:
 
membas#1 said:
Hey ladies,
I'm fine with whatever is decided about a new thread. I'm also fine just posting in my journal and reading this one from a distance. My feelings are not hurt, I understand, and that's why in the beginning I was hesitant to stay here. Seriously wish nothing but fast BFPs for you all and good mental health in the process :hugs:
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Mrs-C said:
What ever you girls want, I'm cool with.
I really am cheering you all on.

I'll start a journal, so you can check in when you want. I'll keep reading the original thread, to see how you are doing. I won't post though, I promise.

:hugs:
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I'm really pro starting a team update thread, where we can all go and write our news. Exactly like here, only it will be on a different section. I'm trying to find names for it. Any thoughts? :winkwink:
 
I'm thinking this could be perhaps a good section:

https://www.babyandbump.com/general/

And we could name the thread Mrs-C and buddies or something :)haha::haha::haha:) because she did found our ttc group anyway.

I know the title is ridiculous, any better suggestions anybody will be more than welcome.
 
Crap, could the pic be any bigger? Haha I got engaged last night:happydance::happydance:

Minne:hugs::hugs::hugs: Im so sorry.

Everyone else, thats fine about keeping this thread ttc, Im not actually too bothered by ready the girls updates but I understand how sometimes we could be.
Also I too am so so scraed of being left alone once everyone gets their BFP so inviting more girls is good idea.
 
Congrats, babe! I'm so happy for you!

:happydance::happydance::happydance:

Make sure you enjoy every single minute of being engaged, until your wedding day.

Let us know when you're setting a date! That's always an interesting ticker for a siggy!

And that ring looks exquisite.

:hugs:
 
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