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[MinneGirl]

I thought this was a beautiful poem:

Thoughts on Becoming a Mother
There are women that become mothers without effort, without thought, without patience or loss and though they are good mothers and love their children, I know that I will be better.
I will be better not because of genetics, or money or that I have read more books,
but because I have struggled and toiled for this child.
I have longed and waited. I have cried and prayed.
I have endured and planned over and over again.
Like most things in life, the people who truly have appreciation are those who have struggled to attain their dreams.
I will notice everything about my child.
I will take time to watch my child sleep, explore and discover. I will marvel at this miracle every day for the rest of my life.
I will be happy when I wake in the middle of the night to the sound of my child, knowing that I can comfort, hold and feed him and that I am not waking to take another temperature, pop another pill, take another shot or cry tears of a broken dream. My dream will be crying for me.
I count myself lucky in this sense; that God has given me this insight, this special vision with which I will look upon my child that my friends will not see.
Whether I parent a child I actually give birth to or a child that God leads me to, I will not be careless with my love.
I will be a better mother for all that I have endured. I am a better wife, a better aunt, a better daughter, neighbor, friend and sister because I have known pain.
I know disillusionment as I have been betrayed by my own body, I have been tried by fire and hell many never face, yet given time, I stood tall.
I have prevailed.
I have succeeded.
I have won.
So now, when others hurt around me, I do not run from their pain in order to save myself discomfort. I see it, mourn it, and join them in theirs.
I listen.
And even though I cannot make it better, I can make it less lonely. I have learned the immerse power of another hand holding tight to mine, of other eyes that moisten as they learn to accept the harsh truth and when life is beyond hard. I have learned a compassion that only comes with walking in those shoes.
I have learned to appreciate life.
Yes I will be a wonderful mother

 

[sequeena]

That is a beautiful poem and so very true x

 

[LaRockera]

Hi guys!

Before I update you with our SA results, I'd just like to say thank you so very much for your support. It meant so much to me. And MinneGirl, thank you for taking the time to share the poem with us. It's beautiful.

Our SA:

Overall, it came back just fine. Tomorrow we have an appointment with a urologist for further discussion, but from an initial internet research (MinneGirl contributed ), I have nothing to worry about.

Some further notes: Apparently stress can influence the results a great deal, and it is recommended that the analysis is repeated in a while. Also, SA that analyses semen after ejaculation may give lower results than that by intercourse. They say count and motility may vary a great deal.

That's all for now. I'm generally calmer now, although I am impatiently waiting for our visit to the urologist tomorrow (who happens to be a brilliant one, and a relative ).

I will now give myself a good six months for baby-making. If until next Easter I'm not a mum-to-be, I'll go have an ultrasound myself.

Again, thanks for all the support. I'll let you know what the doc said tomorrow.



ETA: I have deleted the information regarding WHO standards because as I found out yesterday, these have now changed. So it might have been confusing for anybody that researched respectively.

 

[BabyDreamer82]

morning girls!

minne that poem was lovely!

Larockera thats good news! this might sound dumb but what does the urologist check?

 

[CedarWood]

Hi girls

Minnie - thanks for sharing the poem

LR - good news!
I did not know stress in a male could cause so much short term variation in sperm count - interesting

CW

 

[LaRockera]

Larockera thats good news! this might sound dumb but what does the urologist check?

A urologist is the men's doc; just like a gyno is ours.

 

[CedarWood]

I think I am in for another off cycle. I got back on Monday but still waiting for AF. Keep thinking it is coming as get a bit of brown spotting from time to time - thats it. Been like this since Sunday which was my travel day...
DP may need to travel next week - so hoping I do not count from this past sunday - would mean I am out this month as will likely not be together for O if that is the case
(Done griping - am just a compulsive calculator but cannot calculate if do not know when to count AF from.)

CW

 

[LaRockera]

Remember you ovulated later than normally a couple of months ago? Here's what I discovered:

9. Can I get a positive OPK and then not ovulate? Yup! It is possible for your body to "gear up" to ovulate, leading to an LH surge-- and then, for some reason (such as stress, illness, travel, or random fluke), your body fails to release an egg. When this happens, your LH surge will dissipate and your cevical mucus (a signal of fertility) will dry up. Once the stress is resolved, your body will try again. This can happen more than once per cycle. Therefore, there is no way to be sure you ovulated, even if you had a positive OPK. OPK's are most accurate when used in conjunction with fertility charting (NFP or FAM.) That way, a positive OPK can be cross-checked with an increase in basal body temperature and/or cervical mucus dry-up.

Source: https://www.peeonastick.com/opkfaq.html#5

 

[MinneGirl]

Thanks LaRockera! Yeah, I read something similar when I was trying to figure out what in the world was going on! Just shows how touchy our bodies are

So I got my softcups in the mail yesterday and tried to one in and it didn't go well. It's big and I couldn't get it in. Oh well. I'll try once again, but maybe they aren't made for my body--or maybe I have oddly shaped lady
anatomy?

Party starts T-O-D-A-Y This month is going quick!

Hope everyone is doing fantastic.

 

[BabyDreamer82]

Cedar when is AF due?

 

[CedarWood]

Cedar when is AF due?

Good question.
I should have been due this past Sunday if I O'd on my regular schedule. I did travel the day before my expected O and I was not sure if I O'd late. I was thinking I did O late but then I began the brown spoting on Sunday and thought - AF is here but proper AF never came....Have had a little bit of brownish spotting everyday since but no red blood. It is almost 4am here so I am not on a normal schedule yetStill jetlagged. I know jet lag can delay AF but 6 days is alot to spot and not bleed.

 

[BabyDreamer82]

Cedar, maybe you should test?

 

[CedarWood]

I thought about that - will probably tomorow if no bleeding. It likely just is from the time change though - 8 hrs time difference and it was right at ovulation time - could be I had an annovulatory cycle.

 

[BabyDreamer82]

good luck!

 

[LaRockera]

Hi guys.

Well, the urologist said that overall our SA was normal. He did send hubby for an ultrasound to check the varicocele vein, and it came out all clear. He said no antibiotics are needed either. So I guess we're cool.

Hubby did agree to go on a prenatal though, and I was wondering whether you guys have anything to suggest? I heard Wellman's are the best?

On a different level, I took my first OPK test today, and I saw the darkest line I've oberved to date. It was still a negative, but I'm only on cycle day 9 today, so I guess it will build up eventually.

So we're off to the countryside again tomorrow, to let the BDing begin!

 

[CedarWood]

Glad you got a good review - LR

I have heard Wellman is good. I supplement my guys with extra vit C and zinc from Boots . Rainbowlite brand from Wholefoods is good also as a mens vit.

Well afm - still spotting but heavier so did not test. I did some research and the DHEA I am taking every other day could be affecting my period as well as the jet lag.

CW

 

[BabyDreamer82]

thats good news LaRockera!

OK so because I love peeing on things that are made for peeing on, I got some tests yesterday. I got a BFN yesterday. Anyway I couldnt help myself & peed on another this morning, it was negative, BUT because Im stupid I checked it again about half hour later & its positive. Crap!!! now Ive got my hopes up & its probably an evap line. I hope not

 

[BabyDreamer82]

Cedar what does DHEA stand for?

 

[LaRockera]

thats good news LaRockera!

OK so because I love peeing on things that are made for peeing on, I got some tests yesterday. I got a BFN yesterday. Anyway I couldnt help myself & peed on another this morning, it was negative, BUT because Im stupid I checked it again about half hour later & its positive. Crap!!! now Ive got my hopes up & its probably an evap line. I hope not

Well, I hope it's not an evap, hon.

 

[CedarWood]

Babydreamer - what time is it there? Test again if you can - fx'd

DHEA -not sure the exact name - very long -
(With my hypothyroidism - I had/have adrenal fatigue - it is geting better but this supplement helps. I wanted to get it a few months ago but it is not sold in Russia - so got it when home in the US.