visionofmine
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I am pregnant with my third and ready to announce to family. My issue is I have a close relative that has been trying to conceive every since I had my first. She is 39 and has known since she was a teenager that it would be almost impossible to conceive naturally. She seemed okay with it until I got pregnant with my first. She was 36 at the time so her mother told her she need to get to trying. She and her husband looked into different fertility options and even tried an experimental treatment. After nothing happened she said she would just hold off at look at other options and that she was fine waiting. She and I spoke regularly and she seem okay with holding off. On my daughter's 2nd birthday I announced to the family that I was expecting again. Everyone immediately started asking her if she was okay. All of the questioning upset her and she later confronted me and said she wish I would have told her personally that way she could have been prepared. She and I have not really spoken that much since my last pregnancy and when she finally came over 5 months later she barely looked at my baby. She interacts with her now, but we aren't close any more. We've probably only spoken 6 times in over a year. My question is do I need to tell her before I make a facebook announcement? If so, how? Because we haven't spoken and I feel worst calling out of the blue to say hi I'm pregnant.