First post on this forum, but I thought this would be the best place to join for some advice.
Basically I've been very broody recently and feel ready to have kids. I told my husband as much last night to which he basically exploded. Got really angry saying we can't afford it, he doesn't want kids, etc.
I tried talking to him, but he was too worked up so we left it.
I do really want to start having a family and only a few weeks ago he said out of the blue that he'd like to try for a baby in a few years. So I'm getting mixed signals. I don't want to wait a few years though. My husband is nearly 30, and we're at a good point in our life to have them. ie settled, happy, he's in the military and we have a lovely house, he's not moving for a long time, etc.
He has issues with affording having a baby. Now I'm not sure how much a baby costs, but we have about £500 a month left over in our account and we tend to spend quite a bit on eating out and new things for ourselves. Surely if we cut back our lifestyle a bit we could afford it? he seems to think we have to be debt free and own a house, to which I pointed out that that hardly happens for anyone and isn't a very reasonable goal.
There isn't exactly any compromise here, is there?
I'm just so totally crushed
Basically I've been very broody recently and feel ready to have kids. I told my husband as much last night to which he basically exploded. Got really angry saying we can't afford it, he doesn't want kids, etc.
I tried talking to him, but he was too worked up so we left it.
I do really want to start having a family and only a few weeks ago he said out of the blue that he'd like to try for a baby in a few years. So I'm getting mixed signals. I don't want to wait a few years though. My husband is nearly 30, and we're at a good point in our life to have them. ie settled, happy, he's in the military and we have a lovely house, he's not moving for a long time, etc.
He has issues with affording having a baby. Now I'm not sure how much a baby costs, but we have about £500 a month left over in our account and we tend to spend quite a bit on eating out and new things for ourselves. Surely if we cut back our lifestyle a bit we could afford it? he seems to think we have to be debt free and own a house, to which I pointed out that that hardly happens for anyone and isn't a very reasonable goal.
There isn't exactly any compromise here, is there?
I'm just so totally crushed