Need help and am ranting sorry

[Muck_Muck]

My partner doesn't want a child and I have this craving for my very own.
I'm just going to do a little rant first I just have to u feel like I'm going to explode..


So basically, I lost my bub when I was 16 I was 21 weeks and was having a little girl, I named her Imogin-Aleedia. I felt lost without her, and still do a little when I know she's not around. I have craved for that list from the day she went away.
It's been 6 years since I lost my angel.
I don't know what to do anymore, I've tried everything to see if my partner will even consider and see what I see. But he is so head strong and doesn't want children


I know this feeling will never leave me and know I want a child in my heart I want to hold that special little person in my arms and know that love is something that I will forever share.

Any advice would be helpful and if anyone things I'm a idiot and to young, please be nice and let me know what you think but nicely lol
Cheers.

 

[Mammy2Joojx]

think this maybe the wrong section for the advvice yyou're seeking hun as this is for single parents. Maybe post a thread in waiting to try? They might be able to give you better advicee x x

 

[peapod11]

hi
my partner of 4yrs told me he never wanted children although said he was slowly coming around to the idea of having children with me one day.
so when my suprise little bundle came about he bolted, he left me when i was 10weeks, i say left me he asked me to leave if i was keeping it, (it didnt feel like he was being serious but everyday he would tell me he couldnt do it, he was begining to feel like he was forcing me) so which i had no other choice than to leave! im 23weeks now and barely talk to the person i spent 4years with, he never contacts me first, weeks go by without a word.

i would have a serious conversation with your partner. i wish i knew what i know now and wouldnt of spent any of my time with him (although i wouldnt have my daughter) but this way is the hardest thing iv had to do in my life.

xxx

 

[Muck_Muck]

hi
my partner of 4yrs told me he never wanted children although said he was slowly coming around to the idea of having children with me one day.
so when my suprise little bundle came about he bolted, he left me when i was 10weeks, i say left me he asked me to leave if i was keeping it, (it didnt feel like he was being serious but everyday he would tell me he couldnt do it, he was begining to feel like he was forcing me) so which i had no other choice than to leave! im 23weeks now and barely talk to the person i spent 4years with, he never contacts me first, weeks go by without a word.

i would have a serious conversation with your partner. i wish i knew what i know now and wouldnt of spent any of my time with him (although i wouldnt have my daughter) but this way is the hardest thing iv had to do in my life.

xxx

So do you think that you would be better off being a single parent?? I just don't see it working any other way?

 

[dustbunny]

You are relatively young but not too young, I'm only 23 myself. However if you feel now is a good time to have a baby and your current partner doesn't then you have to look at your relationship on a more serious level. Is this the person you want to spend the rest of your life with? Is this the person you want to start a family with? Are they worth 'sticking it out' for another 5, 8, 10 years when they might feel ready?
If he is adamant he does not want children and you are 100% sure you do then, no matter how much you love him, it may be best to separate. It might be a hard thing to do now but in the long run it might also be for the best.

On a flip side, I was with my partner and we rushed things which was both our faults, mine as well as his. I was on antidepressants and came off them at the same time as the pill. It was only then I saw how immature he was and I left him shortly after finding out I was pregnant. I wanted him to grow up and as the weeks went past he showed no signs and I was over him and by the time he 'tried' [his mother wrote his letters/messages etc] it was too late. Needless to say he hasn't contacted me first about the baby, hasn't made any effort both emotionally or financially towards the baby and recently I found out he was still lying to me about things. Needless to say it made me realise I never did love him and although I wouldn't change the impending birth of my LO in retrospect I wouldn't have 'tried' with him. In short... if it is something you are serious about then there are plenty of women who go through IVF etc to conceive that way without a man.

Hope something there helps

 

[Muck_Muck]

ThankYoU

 

[teal]

I wouldn't change my son for the world, I love him beyond words but I would never have chosen to be a single mother.

I'm so sorry to hear that you lost your little girl and are ready for another baby. If you don't think your partner is ever going to change his mind then you do have to decide if having a life with him, but without children, is something you could be happy with. If not then, in my opinion, it might be better to find someone who does want children.

Good luck with whatever happens xx

 

[Muck_Muck]

Thank you both for your advice, it's nice to hear words others won't say to me.. Or I just haven't really wanted to think about.. I don't think I could leave my partner, it's just something I couldn't do.. Maybe I'm not meant to have children.. Sadly..
Maybe I'm still to young but things will work out if I just be postive..
But thank you for your advice