her shower is feb 9. she'll be like 32 weeks or so by then. i, also (stupidly...?) thought i would have become pregnant between then (july) and now... wth? i also have a strong suspicion that i will have either have just started or just ended my period. fyi, i have already spoken with my mom, and told her while i will help with the planning of the shower, i will not be attending. last time, i went at the beginning and said hello to people, then left. also, i'm going to call my bf tonight and tell her in advance of any baby shower invitations showing up in the mail that "i love you, i cannot WAIT to meet you baby, but i am unable to attend your shower, and i truly hope you understand that it is not a reflection on how i feel about your, your pregnancy, or anything else." - but seriously, who wants a weepy guest at their shower? no one. so i'm tactfully excusing myself ahead of time.