Need support please

[JRD]

Hi sorry if this is a long story.
Ok so about two years ago my husband and I had a missed misscarriage, 6 months later we got pregnant and we ended up with a beautiful baby girl who just turned a year. I am pregnant again about 7-9 weeks not too sure because can't remember last period due to breastfeeding, ultrasound on July.3. A few weeks ago I lost my mom to cancer a well or so later we found out I was pregnant, I was so excited because I wanted to have our kids close in age and who isn't excited for a new baby??!!
Some days I'm fine and happy and excited but lay let the last few days I'm freaking out that something's wrong I can't shake the feeling something's wrong, I haven't had any cramping or bleeding. And I know every pregnancy is different but this is night and day different than my previous pregnancy, I had morning sickness for about a week and now it's eased off still get neasea sometimes but not much, I'll be constipated one day and then diahrea the next, I'm tired but sometimes I think maybe it's deppression from dealing with the loss of my mom, my husband said he notices I'm moody lol and I'm getting a round belly, he tells me not to worry that everything is fine and I love him for it but normally I would call my mom and cry to her and she would tell me to calm down and everything is fine but I don't have her and I just need a little support..
I can't lose my mom and a baby at the same time, I'm scared...

 

[JRD]

Oh an I have been having round ligament pain, good sign??

 

[maisie78]

All of those things sound like completely normal early pregnancy
pregnancy symptoms to me hun. I think you are bound to be anxious having lost your mum so recently. It might be worth just having a word with your healthcare provider about how you feeling xx

 

[Radkat]

I'm so sorry you lost your mom. How awful. I agree with PP that your symptoms sound like early pregnancy symptoms to me and, certainly with the extra stress, things could be a little thrown off. I would check with your dr and see if they could do an early US just in case. Good luck, sweetie, but I'm sure everything is fine with LO.

 

[skyesmom]

i think it is a lot for you to deal with you know, lots of contrasting emotions of being happy for your new baby and still grieving the loss of your mother.
grief is a complex thing, includes many emotions and phases which can as well overlap and mix, and it takes a lot of time to get a grasp of it (in my case it took about two years when i lost my baby, and all the people i know that have lost their parents, it took them some years too).

i think maybe talking to your mw or a gp or ob/gyn on how you feel and maybe finding a professional support (a psychologist, grief councilor etc) could help you cope with the loss of your mother (a kind of help i'd recommend even if you weren't pregnant now). many people are ashamed of seeing a psychologist/grief councilor/therapist as there is a massive prejudice towards people who admit they need some emotional help, but it is actually nothing different than seeing any other doctor. people have more understanding for someone with a broken leg that someone with a broken heart. so seeing a physiotherapist is more "accepted" than seeing a psychologist/psychotherapist. and IMHO, a hurting soul is worse than a broken leg and is more complex to heal.

i'd really speak to your mw or ob/gyn and see if they can recommend you somebody?

 

[KrissyKris22]

Hun I know exactly what ure going through. I lost my mom last year to Cancer and now I'm pregnant and even though I'm excited I'm still down that she's not here. She was one of my biggest supporters with my first pregnancy. The one thing thats been helping me is that I talk to her everyday and or whenever I'm feeling lonely without her. I always keep in mind that even though she's not here physically she's here spiritually. I also had seen a therapist for some time in which it helped me learn how to cope and grieve. Keep ure head up and try to stay strong cus im sure that's what ure mom would want. I know we don't know each other but feel free to write me since we have similar situations

 

[JRD]

Thanks everybody, I called my us clinic and they can't et me in any sooner so I guess I'll have to wait until July.3.
I'll keep you posted on how it goes ❤️