need to rant about inlaws !

[MissDanni]

Hey girls I need a rant to try sort my head out! :'( so other day my bf went to his parents and they told him I'm banned from there house and there family all because of somthing I put on facebook that wasn't aimed at them, his brother who's 30 decided it was and told his parents so me and OH argued and I said if I'm not aloud up baby won't be aloud up, after a long argument he left me at side of a road no where near ours I had to walk for over an hour before my mum got there to pick me up! OH went to play football n told his parents we had split then he decided he dint wanna split but his parents have made it clear I won't be aloud round at xmas or when babys born but OH told them he will take baby up when babys born. I'm not letting them see my baby if I ant there i plan on brestfeeding anyways so baby will be will me none stop OH says im been selfish and i cant stop him from taking our baby why cant he see it from my point of view! :'( I don't no what to do I love OH so bloody much but my heads a full mess! Sorry for going on and on just needed to rant somwhere xxx

 

[Mabythistime]

Wow..unbelievable..what happend to them actually asking you about the comment before going off on a witchhunt! I am speachless.

Sorry you are going through this and that it obviously making big waves for you and OH.

Hope it can get sorted out soon. Perhaps you need to let them know what the comment was really about and that the brother had it all wrong?

No excuse for how you are treated though!!!! shame on all of them

 

[bababel]

Your OH left his pregnant girlfriend at the side of a road nowhere near your house because of an argument? Then he caves in to his parents demands? Sorry hun, you deserve much better than this. If my man ever left me at the side of a road I'd break up with him in a second.

 

[blessfull]

OMG in laws are totally unbelievable
Tell him straight how you feel and what if your parents did that to him?

 

[AveryATL]

I know you say that you love him, but your OH sounds like a jerk. I can not imagine anyone leaving their 5 months pregnant partner by the side of the road, to sort it out on their own.

A partnership is supposed to be just that - A PARTNERSHIP, where you make decisions together, not at the expense of one another.

A partner should always be on your side first, and he needs to stick up for you. Whether or not the parents like it, you are the mother of their grandchild, and will potentially be in their lives for a very long time. It is in the best interest of the CHILD for everyone to at least attempt to get along.

Honestly, you need to really look at your relationship, and see what is going on. It doesn't sound like you guys are on the same page, and that is just going to get worse if there is a LO around.

{{hugs}}, I am sure this is incredibly difficult for you, I know I would feel awful in my in-laws decided to cast me aside, and my DH went along with it.

 

[MissDanni]

i went round after work to see his parents but they wasnt in. OH has told them who the comment was about but im still banned as they say im lieing i dont see what i have to lie about :S iv made it clear to my OH if they havent gotten over them selfs by end of October then they will only ever see photos of my little one. he says they will come round when baby's born but that means they will only be letting me into there house becouse the baby has been born. for the last 4 years they have never been nice to me and this has pushed it over edge i could easly just walk away from the relationship and start afresh

 

[MissDanni]

OMG in laws are totally unbelievable
Tell him straight how you feel and what if your parents did that to him?

iv told him if my babys ever banned him i would tell them we are a family you take us all or get none of us. But he dont wanna upset his parents

 

[lissaw]

He left you on the side of the road!!! don't make anything easy for him. I'd throw all his shit out of the house. I'm so sorry he would ever do that to you.

 

[AveryATL]

OMG in laws are totally unbelievable
Tell him straight how you feel and what if your parents did that to him?

iv told him if my babys ever banned him i would tell them we are a family you take us all or get none of us. But he dont wanna upset his parents

The fact that he would rather upset you than his parents speaks volumes.

 

[Fruitmash]

You aren't being selfish, newborns need their mums more than their dads. I'd make it blatently clear that if he takes your baby without your permission, his child or not you're calling the police. That probably is an over-reaction but his parents can't expect to see the baby and not you, and he shouldn't even be entertaining the idea of it. They fly off the handle over something as trivial as a facebook comment?? Damn, that's the kind of idiot I will not be allowing time with my baby without me.
Mothers and children are a package, it is both or neither. Stand your ground on it, they obviously all need that kick up the ass. And leaving you pregnant on a roadside over a petty arguement?? I know it's not that simple but you might need to consider ending that. Baby comes first and at this moment, whilst baby is in you, you come first. What if it had gotten ice cold and you had no jacket?? Or you'd have been mugged?? Or worse?? He doesn't seem to be shaping into a good parent.

 

[MummytoSummer]

Oh hun, that's awful and I'm sorry you're having to deal with idiots like that. Your oh doesn't sound like he's being much help either and is clearly not on your side.

As someone else said he needs to be by your side sticking up for you helping to explain to his parents that whatever the comment was it wasn't intended at them.

He needs to be on the same page as you regarding the baby. If they aren't prepared to accept you into their home then they shouldn't expect you to just allow your newborn baby to be taken from you to pander to their wants.

I think they need to grow up and your oh needs to let them know this.

If you don't think your oh is fully on your side with this then you need to lay down the law now before baby comes along. Either he's on your side and you're in this together (no siding with his parents), or you'll go it alone.

I hope you manage to get things sorted and are happy with the outcome you choose. Be strong and don't take any crap. What he did in leaving you stranded was unacceptable.

X

 

[nicmum2b]

I agree with these other women! Your OH is a complete and utter idiot to be honest!! I'm in a kinda similar situation except my OH is 100% backing me. I HATE it when people make things up to do with Facebook. My OH's family have done that.. they said I wrote a horrible status about OH but I never did !!! I've even asked them what it was meant to have said but they ignore the question! I asked OH if he thought I wrote a status up about him and he said 'Yeah you did' and I said, 'Well did you see it??' and he said 'No but everyone's telling me you did'. I was like 'James, they're lying!!' I can't believe in laws can be so interfering and horrible! I feel for you and I certainly wouldn't let my baby go up my in laws house without me being there so I 100% agree with you on that one!! Stand your ground!! xx

 

[MommyJaan]

Your inlaws dont sound like good people, BUT that being said, I dont think baby should be dragged into the drama. If you can talk sense into your OH, well and good otherwise just say we'll see or okay, then decide around that time what you want. You dont need the fighting now...

 

[Kristin52]

Honeslty, I would slap the shit out of him. Excuse my language. But really, if that was me and Doug's family was saying that about me and how I wasn't welcome in their house and they think he'll just bring the baby to them without me, OH HELLLLL NO! This is my child, not yours, and guess what? If I say he's not allowed up at your house, that's that. They need to grow up and be more mature before they should even be allowed to be around a little baby.