needing some inspirational words..

[Rolo]

Hi everyone, today i've been feeling so down.. i can tell that AF is on her way.. usually about 4 or 5 days before it's due i'll get very mild achey cramps. I'm so disheartend, every month gets harder and more disappointing. I'm just in need of some comforting words to help me through this journey, i really did not think ttc would actually be so difficult and upsetting. I was so grumpy and down that i said to DH that our cat is probably the closest i'll get to a baby, i know that sounds negative but i'm just so tired of the let down of every month. Sorry to be a miserable cow! someone cheer me up quick!

 

[Mervs Mum]

Aww hun. We have all felt like this at some point during the journey - I think its totally natural. Try to keep positive and believe that your time is coming.

And this is the place to say it - thats what we're here for. x

 

[Rumpskin]

Oh Rolo

I am sorry that you are feeling down.

Sending you a hug

 

[Samo]

big sweetie . It's so hard every month, but one day we'll all be blessed with a miracle . My little dog is my baby, he always fills my heart up when i need some lovings.

 

[xclairex]

aw honey im sorry you feel that way but im sure you will get your bfp soon i hope and pray thinking of you hun and sending big hugs your way!!xx

 

[cupcake]

so sorry you are feeling down, i remember those days when i just wanted to cry, i just wanted to tell you that before i got my bfp i was 100% sure that af was coming had the cramps and all the signs, so dont lose faith, but even if this is not your month, i hope that it happens very soon for you. if af does come then as soon as its over, ure that much closer to more hope for next time and a bfp.
hope something i said was helpful and lots of hugs to you.

 

[Rolo]

Thank you ladies, you've all cheered me up lots! x

 

[anita665]

I know the feeling. Just 2 or 3 months of TTC was too much for me. I remember sitting there crying my eyes out because it was another failed month. Then I gave up and decided I didn't care and refused to think about it.

I have a lot of admiration for those who've been trying for a long time. I can't imagine how hard it must be to keep going through that.

Keep your chin up though. I'm sure it will happen in the end and most probably when you're not expecting it. I reckon one month you'll probably be thinking AF is on it's way and it just won't turn up.

 

[The Catster]

I actually told my OH that I prob wasn't goin to be able to hav e children as it wasn't happening for us (I have PCOS)....he accepted this, but I think he thought I was being melodramatic...
Anyways....we went on to have a beautiful baby girl and have had 2 mcs- so thats 3 pregnancies wen I thought I cudnt have any children!!!!
So believe me it will happen to you, maybe not tomorrow, maybe not next month, maybe not in 2008, but it will happen!!!!
Believe!!!!

 

[Mervs Mum]

Cat's right. Believe. x

 

[parisbeach]

I send you hugs as i get the same every month so far, but our time will come i trying not to be tough on myself this month as i have had factors that may limit me falling this month

 

[Tishimouse]

I can feel your hurt and heartache by your words and sincerely hope these feeling pass really quickly for you .... and they will I am sure.

I would guess that about 90% of the people who post in the ttc forums feel this way and if you look at the hundreds of sites there are, it should give you comfort to know that you are not alone. (I'm with you for a start).

My Mum used to say "it's a long road that has no turning" and she was right. You are on a road to try to conceive and each day gets closer. The trick is in trying to relax and enjoy some of the 'trying'. There's lots of good stuff to focus on for example:

your partner
your physical and emotional relationship together
your functioning body (otherwise you wouldn't even be able to try)
the fact that you want to be a Mum (not everyone does)
the fact that your partner wants to be a Dad (as above)
the fact that you will be a great Mum
and of course, last but not least ....
piddling on a stick!

By the time we have all finished, we should have earned the right to get a BSc (Hons) degree in Fertility and Patience Management.

Now that's got to make you smile.

Hang on in there little cyber buddy, it's not over yet. And besides who would we share 'manic moments' with?

 

[Mervs Mum]

Well said Tishi!

 

[Rolo]

Thank you so much everyone, Tishimouse.. you speak wise words! xx