Needing Support *tears*

[The Alchemist]

I completely understand your feelings as I was in your shoes last year. We all, as women, want to birth naturally to the point where this primal desire clouds what reality is. I was mentally prepping myself for an all natural birth, just like the first time. But nature has a funny way of throwing sticks and stones in your life's path. But I learned a great deal from that experience and that is to never mind what method. Prepare yourself in all ways for ALL methods of delivery. Natural labor may start out fine itself but right at the end, it might go sour and that's when a different intervention comes in. It's better to be prepared mentally and emotionally for whatever way your wonderful little bundle of joy arrives. That's all it matters. That the little human you created arrive and then will be yours in your house forever and ever....until they grow up and move out, but still, they are yours.

Btw, I got skin to skin with my baby. Maybe not immediately after the doctor pulled my son out. He had to be cleaned and wiped and wrapped first as the surgical room, as with any surgical room, is freezing COLD, I remember.

I say.....don't look at c/s as a sinful way. Like I said, even natural births turn wrong. Pregnancy and birth is part of nature and nature is pretty unpredictable. I mean......I think the weather chick's been wrong plenty of times. Said there might be rain but dammit, it never rained.

 

[Starlightdiva]

If its a planned section you ask for immediate skin to skin! Nothing stopping that happening! The screen is lowered and baby is put onto your chest like a natural delivery! I had my first naturally and it was not a good experience i ended up in theatre afterwards .. anyway with my second i had a planned section and it was such a calm lovely experience! If you do need a section you call the shots! You say what you want and how you want it! What music you want on, where babys placed etc. Hope everything goes your way! Good luck! All the best with your much awaited baby!! xxx

hi im having to have a planned c-section because of health issues,
is it true?? you can have music on in the room????????

 

[bakerh518]

If we had ended up with our scheduled c-section, yes they told us we could have a playlist!

 

[ClaireJ23]

Yes, I've had two emergency sections and had music at both!

 

[seoj]

It would be nice if every woman got the delivery they invisioned- but obviously that doesn't happen all the time. For most women I personally know- it didn't go as planned at all.

I certainly feared having a c-section THE most... and due to placenta previa, I had no choice. It was the way my LO was meant to come into this world. And tbh- it was a lovely experience. Least it was planned-- So things were calm and everyone was amazing! There were some rough recover moments- I had a reaction to the spinal and had horrid itching... but otherwise, things healed great, my LO was happy and healthy and so was I (which, is most important).

I'm not saying it's not disappointing- but after all you went through to get your LO- just try to focus on how AMAZING that alone is! All the years ahead will mean so much more. I feel blessed every day to have finally made this little person. And it's a love un-compared to anything else.

I do hope things change and go smooth-- you never know. But if not, just control what you can (like others said about music and skin to skin). I didn't even honestly think about either of those things- but the moment my LO was placed in my arms- I couldn't think of anything else.

Best of luck hun!

 

[hmommy219]

Ok some comic relief to cheer you up: by having a c section, your vagina stays in perfect shape, (yey), your baby doesn't come into the world hearing its mother crying out in pain (yikes!), and have you seen the swollen, puffy, blotchy faces of babies born vaginally? (Not too pretty my friend) Your precious baby will have a perfect, trauma free face my dear! Lol.., just trying to make you smile ((hugs))

 

[mh_ccl]

Ok some comic relief to cheer you up: by having a c section, your vagina stays in perfect shape, (yey), your baby doesn't come into the world hearing its mother crying out in pain (yikes!), and have you seen the swollen, puffy, blotchy faces of babies born vaginally? (Not too pretty my friend) Your precious baby will have a perfect, trauma free face my dear! Lol.., just trying to make you smile ((hugs))

OMG, thank you for the smiles. I found this thread because I found out yesterday that my baby will not flip, and I'll have to have a c section instead of the natural birth. I've been so upset!

Other positives:
My hemorrhoids can't get worse now, right?
First baby pictures? Nice round head!
I can work on the design for my birth announcements now, since I've already got a date to put on them.

 

[wookie130]

Just throwing in my $0.02...

I LOVED (and I mean LOVED) my planned c-section (also due to placenta previa). It was relaxed, and you CAN have a birth plan...perhaps it includes having music, who is allowed with you in the OR, having skin to skin immediately after the birth (most hospitals will do this), and all baby check-ups, weights, diapering, clean-up, whatever, is done right there in your sight, a few feet away from you...baby is not taken away, or our of your field of vision. I had a lactation consultant trying to establish a latch between my Hannah and I within 45 minutes of my surgery. It was great. The blankets are super warm, and there's this wonderful element of surprise as you wait to feel that pressure, and hear those first cries. It is painless, relaxing, quick, and wonderful, in my opinion.

C-sections are pretty demonized, particularly in the Natural Childbirth Community, and in certain corners of the internet. On the web, there are lots of scary anecdotes, "research" (and a lot of it can be very skewed, and inaccurate) on the prevalence and safety of c-sections. Birth isn't "birth" unless a baby exits through the vagina, and is done with as little intervention and pain control as possible.

Well, my c-section baby was as "born" as the next baby, I'm as bonded to her as the next kid is to his/her mother, and my daughter will never hold it against me that she needed to exit through the sunroof, rather than the nether regions. It's simply another way to be born, and for MANY, MANY women, it is life-saving, and necessary. I thank God that I live in a first world country where there is an abundance of knowledgeable and capable doctors who can perform this surgery, and that it's an option if "trusting my body" isn't enough to get the baby out safely for either of us.

It will be fine. I promise you that the only thing that matters in the end, is that you deliver that baby safely, and get to hold him/her in your arms. I told my doctor that I didn't care if they had to remove a butt cheek to get my daughter out, just do what is necessary! No one gets a medal for natural birth, or home birth, or water birth, or epidurals, or ANY of it, really. What we HOPE to get, is a healthy YOU, and a healthy BABY. The end. Everything else is worth nothing more than mere bragging rights! LOL!