Nervous for tomorrow

[MnMommy]

I'm 35 and we're TTC #2. My doc said to come in if we weren't successful for 6 months. Well, we're there. Almost.Yesterday I called to make the appoinment for the end of the month or beginning of next month (because their schedule and my schedule usually requires some advance notice). Surprise to me they had an opening for tomorrow morning.

I know that 6 months isn't that long compared to a lot of people here, but every day is agonizing. We waited a lot longer than I wanted to after #1. Anyway I am so scared my doctor is going to find something wrong tomorrow. I almost wonder if not knowing wouldn't be better.

Anyway, I really just needed to vent because I know there are a lot of women out there who would understand my fear. So thanks for listening.

 

[vkj73]

sending you good vibes. i had my first when i 37. i'm 39 now, trying for #2.

good luck to you tomorrow

 

[PositiveUs]

I wondered that myself, would it have been better to just not have known? In the end though, it is better to know. I would have never known I had endo and had it treated.
Just turned 40 last week and been ttc for roughly 1 1/2 yrs.

Good luck!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[MnMommy]

Thank you. Doc looked at my charts and said everything looks really normal. She said my temps were good and were BD'ing at the right time. She's going to check my progesterone to make sure that AF is actually AF rather than annovulatory bleeding, but said with the regularity of it and the rest of my chart, she was pretty sure everything was fine. She said we'll give it another 5-6 months (Agghhh!) and then try Clomid. I didn't want to hear that timeline, but at least she said my charts look good.

 

[vkj73]

Thank you. Doc looked at my charts and said everything looks really normal. She said my temps were good and were BD'ing at the right time. She's going to check my progesterone to make sure that AF is actually AF rather than annovulatory bleeding, but said with the regularity of it and the rest of my chart, she was pretty sure everything was fine. She said we'll give it another 5-6 months (Agghhh!) and then try Clomid. I didn't want to hear that timeline, but at least she said my charts look good.

 

[PositiveUs]

So they are not going to check amh, fsh, prolactin, estrogen, tsh or anything???

 

[MnMommy]

So they are not going to check amh, fsh, prolactin, estrogen, tsh or anything???

Not at this point. If we still haven't conceived in 5-6 months she will do more testing. She said that because I have just turned 35 she is going to wait before doing a bunch of testing. She said that my charts gave her a good reason to believe my body is doing what it is supposed to. I guess we will see. I will say I really like this doctor and I trust her opinion, so I'm ok with her not doing a bunch of testing right now.

 

[PositiveUs]

Not to cause problems, but you can have all kinds of things going on and still have a normal chart. I have a cousin that had premature ovarian failure in her 20s and can't have children. My other friend was 33 when they tested her amh and it was very low for a 33y/o, 0.80, they told her to do ivf and she is now pregnant over a year later.
Well, whatever you decide to do is best for you!
Good luck on your journey!

 

[so_anxious]

When I was trying for DD, I was 35 and after 3 months my doc ordered every fertility test that she could order and they all came back pretty good so then she referred me to a fertility specialist of my choice and I got the appointment in my 5th month of ttcing. Before the specialist could get the results back from the thousands of tests he sent me and my dh for I got my BFP that same month. So no fertility treatments were needed. Who knows you may get your BFP next cycle.

 

[MnMommy]

This actually works ok for us. My DH is super anxious about doing fertility testing or doing anything to "enhance" our chances of conceiving because he is really worried about multiples. (They run in both of our families already.) So this gives us a little more time before we have to decide if we are going to do the fertility stuff. Hopefully by then we won't have to make the decision (especially because I think we would have different opinions on what to do).

 

[CaliDreaming]

Hi MnMommy, I'm kinda in the same boat as you. I just turned 38 and have been trying for #2 for over 10 months now. I had my first fertility appointment last week and got a lot of blood testing ordered. I went straight to an RE and bypassed my OB/GYN because I figured if there were anything wrong I could save a lot of time and heartache that way.

My RE told me that even 11 months is not really a long time to be trying, so there's a very good chance you will get your BFP with no help at all. I got my first bfp with my dd on my 8th month of trying. There really is something to the "letting go" approach.

However, if you start to feel anxious, you should not feel bad at all about speeding the process up. Like pp said, even if you have perfect cycles there still could be underlying problems. I went to the RE knowing that we would not be doing an IUI/IVF but only because I wanted to rule out underlying problems. It is nervewracking but I figure if there is a problem it's better to know that now because there are some things that can take several months to resolve.

Anyway, good luck and I hope you get your bfp soon so you don't have to worry about any of this!

 

[MnMommy]

Hi MnMommy, I'm kinda in the same boat as you. I just turned 38 and have been trying for #2 for over 10 months now. I had my first fertility appointment last week and got a lot of blood testing ordered. I went straight to an RE and bypassed my OB/GYN because I figured if there were anything wrong I could save a lot of time and heartache that way.

My RE told me that even 11 months is not really a long time to be trying, so there's a very good chance you will get your BFP with no help at all. I got my first bfp with my dd on my 8th month of trying. There really is something to the "letting go" approach.

However, if you start to feel anxious, you should not feel bad at all about speeding the process up. Like pp said, even if you have perfect cycles there still could be underlying problems. I went to the RE knowing that we would not be doing an IUI/IVF but only because I wanted to rule out underlying problems. It is nervewracking but I figure if there is a problem it's better to know that now because there are some things that can take several months to resolve.

Anyway, good luck and I hope you get your bfp soon so you don't have to worry about any of this!

Thanks for the insight. We will go in and do testing to figure things out after giving it some more time. One good thing I have going for me is my OB actually specializes in fertility problems, which is maybe why I have more confidence in her. We'll certainly go in for testing in the end of the winter/beginning of spring if we haven't conceived by then, but for now I don't want to get too crazy. I think knowing there is a problem at this point would only make me more anxious and make it more difficult to conceive.

Good luck to you, too. I hope you get your BFP soon and get the answers you are looking for from your tests!