new here, but really need people to talk to

[carol84]

hi i am new here after hearing about this site from a good friend of mine,,i am the mother of a gorgous little boy who is 5 and a gorgeous little girl who is 3,,i parted with their father over 2.5 years ago and always thought i would have no more kids,,since then i had met a lovely, loyal man (not like my ex) that i knew from the minute i met him i wanted to spen the rest of my life with him. nearly 2 years later we fall pregnant!!!! HOW EXCITED WAS I!!!!! to go from not wanting anymore children, to meeting this lovely man and expecting a baby together, my whole outcome on life was well and truly changed and i couldnt have been happier,,we had out 12 week scan and baby was fine and all was well,,i was in good health and nothing was stopping me,,,we decided to have a private scan at 16 weeks as my OH had missed the 12week scan, and once again everything was fine,,active baby with strong heartbeat and ITS A BOY!! i can out the room dancing (although my other little boy was very upset at the fact he wa going to have to share his bedroom) lol,,,,time flies and my 20 weeks scan comes, my soon to be mother-in-law comes with me to the scan as once again my OH is away working, and THERES NO HEARTBEAT!!!!!! my little boy had passed away and i still cant get my head around it!!!!! WHY!!! WHY!!! WHY!!! our gorgeous little boy was born on 19th august sleeping but absolutly PERFECT!!! small but just as gorgeous as my other children....we buried him a week later and i am still finind it so hard at times to get my head around things,,was it something i did?? said??

 

[carol84]

i also have to add that i am really now wanting another baby but its been 5 weeks now since i had him and still not had a cycle yet.....how long should i wait before trying for another baby? i am normally very regular with my cycles (28 days) but will it take longer to have a normal cycle since i was far on??

 

[Twinkie210]

So sorry for your loss. There are so many great ladies on here. Feel free to private message me if you want to talk. I only made it to 7 weeks, so I wasn't as far as long as you and it took me 5 weeks exactly to get AF back. It took me over 6 weeks after the birth of DS.

 

[carol84]

thank you so much for your reply

 

[mhazzab]

Hi,

I'm so, so sorry for the loss of your precious son. 14 weeks ago, I gave birth to my twin girls too soon at 23 weeks when I went into early labour, I miss them so much. please understand you didn't do anything wrong, whatever happened, if you could have changed it, you would have. I know what the guilt is like, I spent a long time blaming myself.

I bled for quite a long time, first ovulated after 8 weeks and got my first period at 10 weeks. Everyone is different though, it happens to most people sooner, I think!

Please feel free to PM me if you want to talk about what you have been through, or to tell someone about your beautiful son, also, there's some fantastic ladies over in second trimester losses, you may find it comforting to join us over there too, I've found it very helpful.

xxx

 

[carol84]

thank you for your reply mhazzab,,i am so sorry to hear of your loss too,,its just so hard at times to deal with,,if i didnt have my other two children keeping me strong i have no clue to what i would do

i know this sounds so silly,,,but i have no idea how to PM you lol,,what do i do?? xx

 

[Hellylou]

Hi Carol,

I'm so very sorry for your loss. What a heartbreaking story. I lost my boy at 16 weeks after my waters went, plus other complications, just over 2 weeks ago. I am mainly in 2nd Trimester loss section, but popped in here to look around.

I have no idea about ovulating after loss, although I did have a d & c a week and a half later, which may put things back further. I think it may vary depending on the person, and they have advised us to wait for at least 1 normal cycle before trying again. I don't know what I will do yet, as without a full picture of what went wrong and why it is so terrifying for me to think about doing it all again.

If you need to talk, I am here, or send a PM (I don't know how to do that either!). Hugs

 

[mhazzab]

i know this sounds so silly,,,but i have no idea how to PM you lol,,what do i do?? xx

If you go to the top right of your screen you should see a link called 'private messages'? Click that, and it should take you to your inbox. Then, over on the left of the screen, there's a link called 'send new message', click that, then enter the recipients name, and off you go. Usually, if someone has sent you one, you get a notification onscreen when you come onto this site.

Alternatively, you can click on the persons name (over on the left) in any post and it will give an option to send a PM.

Carol84, was trying to send you one, but it says you have opted not to receive them...if you want to switch it back on...

Click User CP.

Scroll down to Edit Options.

Click, then scroll down to Enable Private Messaging.

Make sure there is a tick in the box.

Scroll down again and click Save.

xxx

 

[jennijunni]

I am so so sorry!!! I lost a baby boy at 17 weeks, and it is devastating. I had to wait 2 cycles, though we did not, after I delivered him I had to have a D&E to get the placenta, and so they recommended to wait. My first PPAF came exactly 5 weeks after my D&E. I did not ovulate that cycle, my next cycle in August, I did ovulate, and we caught the egg. So we are now expecting again. Hugs to you!! Why dont you join us on the Second trimester loss sub forum sometime! It helps to chat there. Hugs!!

 

[carol84]

thank you all for your replies,,it means alot to me and i cant believe how much of you ladies have been through such a heartbreaking situation!! when i found out Harvey had passed away i thought that things like this rarely happened and felt like the most unluckiest person EVER!!!! how selfish!! i am going to go over to the other forum so hope to speak to u all over there,,a MASSIVE CONGRATULATIONS to jennijunni on your pregnancy!! wishing you all the best xx