New here....WWT...looking for support

[Liz77]

Hi all,

This is my first time on a pregnancy related forum. I'm 37 and have no children. I've reached a point in my life where I feel desperate to have a baby and am struggling with it.

I've finally met the right man (he's 34), and we've been together just over a year. We don't live together yet. We've talked about having kids in the future and I'm aware that I need to wait for a few more things to fall into place before we can try. He's also not ready to try yet.

So I guess I'm on the right track but I worry I'll be too old, my fertility is decreasing and that it will be too late. I've reached the point where I feel envious of friends who are having kids.

Anyway I'd really like to chat to people in similar situations, make new friends etc.

I do talk to my OH about it but he doesn't get the maternal need I have.

Thanks

Liz x

 

[MissN8]

Hi i am 34 and will be ttc end of this year. When do you think you will ttc? Men are not maternal my oh only starting to come around to the idea took a while. Im here to talk if u need to �� will you chart and do opks? Ive already. Purchased mine

 

[Canadianmom4]

Hi there, I'm just newly pregnant with my 6th child. My oldest will be 21 in May, and my youngest will be 3 in 2 weeks. I'll be 42 when this baby is born. I've had kids in my 20's, 30's, and now my 40's. I myself am more mature, patient and and just in a better place in my life overall. I think you're at the perfect age to have a child. Don't worry about what your friends are doing. They say things happen for a reason. Everything will fall into place for you. Don't rush it. You're not too old now, and I'm sure you'll have no problem getting pregnant, and even if you are, there is so much technology out there that will be beneficial. But stay positive and take things day by day. Don't stress and worry about the little things.

 

[tryfor2]

Try not to stress. I know it's hard with the clock ticking. But you can't force things with your guy. Late thirties isn't too late to have kids. I'm having my second at 37 (will be 38 when baby is born) and my OB said it's "perfectly normal" to be having a baby at 37 these days. And though you don't know how fertile you are until you try, I had zero problems. I conceived my first at 35.5 the very first attempt of my first cycle of TTC and got pregnant this time on cycle #3. Those are probably good stats even for a 22-year-old! I know plenty of women who have gotten pregnant and had healthy babies into their early 40s. Yes, statistically your fertility does tend to start declining at 35, but that doesn't mean you'll necessarily have problems. And like PP said, if you do encounter problems there are plenty of options available nowadays. I know things aren't turning out how you imagined, but who's life ever unfolds exactly how they planned? Sometimes things happen for a reason. I think I would have resented my children had I had them earlier. Best of luck to you and we're here if you ever want to talk.

 

[Havmercy]

I'm 40 years old and pregnant with #2. I was 38 when our first son was born. I did have some difficulty getting pregnant at first. I didn't get married until I was 36 years old so my fertility was already on the downslope...BUT, I was on depo provera for a little over 15 years. It took about 2 years for my body to start producing "good eggs". I had consultations with 3 different fertility specialist who all recommended invitro fertilization. I had high FSH and a low AMH. Invitro is expensive and not covered under our insurance. This was an $18,000 a pop procedure. After leaving their offices in tears, I decided to do my own research. I read a book by Dr. Randine Lewis called, "the infertility cure". After following her advice and trying western medicine, (accupuncture) we got pregnant naturally after 3 months. So don't give up hope or feel rushed. You still have time. There are more women waiting to have babies now than before. We are putting careers first and enjoying life before we share it with children. Due to my patience in waiting, I have a wonderful husband who is great with our first son. I don't have to ask him to help do anything with the baby, he just does it. He even cut back on riding his Harley with the fellas so this pregnancy isn't overwhelming for me and so he can take care of our son when I don't feel like it.

 

[Chameleon]

I think you are okay, but if you're currently on hormonal birth control you may want to think about switching to a non-hormonal method now, so that all the hormones get flushed out by the time you are ready to try. I had been on BC for around 20 years straight when we finally started trying and it took nearly a year for everything to settle down enough to get pregnant.