Newly single parent... :(

[Cazamatazaaa]

Hey girls
Im 23, have 2 children and ive ended it with my partner as I cant take it anymore. I love him but i just cant be with him. its the early days, but i cant eat, feel sick, just want to loll about and cry.

I know it gets easier, trying to keep myself busy, i work so thats 3 days where im okay, the rest are hard. i just want to cry cry cry....

 

[moomin_troll]

I'm 23 (24on Thursday) and I'm a single mum of 2 boys.
You left u ex for a reason and u no it will get easier, it can get lonely being a single mum but uve got ur babies to keep u busy

 

[Cazamatazaaa]

thanks hun.
its so hard, i can cope with the kids just fine, just hate feeling lonely, knowing i do love him. but i cant be with him anymore, he made me so unhappy. dragging me down constantly. i know he feels that way too...

xxxxxx

 

[moomin_troll]

I'm a single parent for different reasons then u but I no what u mean, sometimes love just isn't enough and if ur not happy then changes need to be made.

Is there a chance ile get back together or do u no this is now it for u both?

I don't mnd being on my own, I don't really get lonely but it's hard when u miss the hugs

 

[dustbunny]

I'm 23 too, seems to be the magic number for life changes!!! Although it is hard now and however condescending this may sound [without intention] it does get easier but only time with annoying element of time.
Although you love him keep in mind the reasons why you split from him. Every relationship ends with rose tinted glasses to an extent, you tend to forget the bad and focus on the happy times. No relationship is 100% all the time. Also if you do consider getting back together, again, give yourself time to think everything over.

 

[Laura2919]

I'm 25 and a single mum to twin girls. It is hard but it does get easier, I said this on another post, this is not how life is going to be forever but don't put off being on your own and thinking because if you don't do it now you'll do it later on and it will be worse, situations change all the time, this time next year you could be with a man who adores you and life couldn't be better, you just got to have hope and remember the reasons you left in the first place

 

[Cazamatazaaa]

ive been okay, not cried much, i know its definately the end. i feel so different now. hes not spoke to me regarding the children, not got in touch at all since sunday.

thanks for the help i hope ur all okay? it is hard, but i just keep positive, well try xx

 

[Laura2919]

It is hard but you know the reason why your not together, keep strong.

 

[george83]

me and my husband have ended things at the weekned too and i feel exactly like you do it's so hard, i'm ok if i keep busy but when i'm alone in the evenings i hate it. hy husband left here on friday morning to go a 'job interview' and since then i've had 2 emails the first asking how our son was but he didn't even read the reply and the second - after i told him our son literally nearly choked to death last night i was completely petrified - just said 'i love my son more than you could know' -yeah clearly he does that's why he's f**ked off to live with his drug dealer. Some men are just a waste of space, whenever you feel sad just remember that he hasn't got in touch and that's not the sort of person you need in your life, i know it's so hard xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[moomin_troll]

I don't understand some people when they just don't bother to ask how their children are.

In cases like this it will do u good to get mad and stay mad at him, when u feel lonely or miss having someone around think about just how crap it would be to have him there.

Hope he gets in contact with u soon about the kids

 

[Cazamatazaaa]

still no contact. why are men such pigs! if we upped and left we would get called the worse names EVER!

thanks for the support girls. it means so much!