Next time...

[Jessa]

I've been thinking lately about what I'm going to be like next time we get pregnant (the third time is the charm for us, I know it!). I'm going to try to be A LOT less obsessed with everything as I was before. That means that I'm going to try and continue on with my daily life as if the entire world hasn't just changed. This last pregnancy I was so focused on the fact that I was actually pregnant that I missed things and forgot about some of the people around me (including my hubby).

So, to aid in me trying to be less obsessed, I'm contemplating not coming on BnB for awhile after I get my BFP, especially while still in first tri. I found last time that there were so many posts about others experiencing bleeds or miscarriages that I got really freaked out.

Anyone else feel like BnB might make their anxiety level increase or am I just being weird?

 

[surreysharon]

I agree. I definately see the advantage of support when you experience a MC (helping me alot) but i think when i try again and hopefully get my BFP i will keep away from the boards.

I would like to think i will just concentrate on trying to be normal with less anxiety but who knows how i will feel at the time. Do entirely what is best for you x

 

[Barneyboo]

No your def not being weird its completely normal to feel that way, and you have to do what is best for you and DH and your own sanity of course...BUT just remember we will be here no matter what to support you along your way always x x x x

 

[Jessa]

I did post on BnB during the last two pregnancies, but got more freaked out than anything, I think. The support while going through a miscarriage is invaluable though. There's something to be said for having the opportunity to discuss how you're feeling and questions you have with people who have experienced something similar.

 

[Belle30]

I completely understand where you are coming from. The day before my m/c started, I had my first appointment with my gp and burst into tears as soon as I walked in as I had completely freaked myself out and become totally obsessed with tiny details by reading posts in the TTC and 1st tri forums. I am very grateful for all the support, advice and kind words people offered me, and I feel I have learnt a lot from BnB, and it is great to talk to people who really understand what you're going through. But I think all the information can mess with your head if you let it.

So after my gp appointment I thought it would be a good idea to take a break from BnB for a while. Actually that only lasted a few hours because I started to miscarry the next morning, and felt I needed to post! But I think when we start ttc again I will stay away. I have learnt a lot and am very grateful, but I really do think I'm going to be happier and more chilled out overall if I just try to take things as they come rather than obsess over every detail.

My DH has never really been overly keen on me talking about anything online, or looking anything up to do with pregnancy as he can see that my little brain processes most of the information in a way that is probably not healthy!!

But I think we all just need to do what we feel is right for our own situations and what will help preserve our own sanity - and we're all different!

best of luck xx

 

[Las78]

I have to agree, as much a support as this site has been I too will take a break when the BFP comes along, I will be worried enough as it is and I'm another who self diagnoses everything and OH has to remove me from the net often lol.

I don't think it's wierd at all Jess, it'll be good for you to focus on the positives and as you said enjoy your next pregnancy with your hubby. Do pop back and chat to us occasionally though, we'll be eagerly awaiting your BFP news.

Lisa