No heartbeat at 9 weeks :(

[MaryDo]

Hello ladies. I decided to join this group as i just found out yesterday no heartbeat at 9 weeks after an ivf cycle. I had frozen embryo transferred on october 17th. I am so sad Last week and the week before there was a strong heartbeat. I dont understand what could have happened. I have a DNC scheduled for tomorrow Did this happen to anyone and did they do a genetic test on your baby? They suggested we do that. Me and my husband were so happy. We are devastated now. I had miscarriages before and an ectopic so we finally did IVF and was sure it would work.....

 

[Trying4first1]

Hi MaryDo
So sorry for your loss. It's just such an awful feeling.
We found out our little bean had passed away when I went for a scan on Monday. All was perfect two weeks previously, baby's heart stopped just hours after the scan 😕
We are not having genetic testing on this one as I have miscarried using misoprostol. We had my 3rd angel baby tested in January when I had my D&C and all was perfect. So we decided this time not to as it's likely that nothing is wrong. My body just rejects all embryos.
I would say go for the genetic testing if you havn't had it done before just to rule stuff out.
Wishing you luck with the D&C. Personally I don't mind them. Over very quickly and painless. Better than natural MC xx

 

[MaryDo]

Hi Trying4first1,

Thank you so much for your reply. I had my D&C yesterday and it was over pretty quick as you said. A bit painful but bearable. Yes we are having a genetic testing done just because it is the first pregnancy that made it this far and first IVF. I am very worried also that everything is normal and my body just rejects all embryos. Is there even a reason for why our body would do this? I guess once we get the results from our angel the doctor will let me know what the next step is. I have more frozen embryos but i am scared this will happen with all of them It is indeed a horrible feeling.....I am so so sorry for your losses. This is my 4th miscarriage but first that made it this far.... Sometimes i feel like just giving up. So many treatments and medications and financially draining but we really do want a baby so until they tell us there is nothing to be done we will keep trying!

 

[Trying4first1]

Hi Mary
Glad the D&C went well for you. I have always found them better emotionally. However my MC this time was better than expected. I think because I imagined it to be worse than the reality.
I think genetic testing sounds like a good plan. If it was a genetic issue then it is likely it won't happen again as they are normally one off occurances.
There are many things that can make a women reject embryos. One avenue we may explore if our tests come back clear from the recurrent miscarriage clinic is NK cells. It will be pricey but will be worth exploring if nothing else is found.
You sound just like me! I have been saying that to people too. I tell them that unless somebody sits me down and tells us that we have no hope of ever having a child then we will not give up! No matter how much pain we go through. It is worth fighting for.

 

[MaryDo]

Hi Trying4first1,

It makes me feel so much better talking to you! It has been a harder few days than expected. I find myself just crying out of the blue. I really hope it was a one time occurence and it was a genetic issue. I would definitely do whatever it takes to find out what is causing this if it is not a genetic issue! My appointment with the fertility doctor is January 5 and she will give us the result then and tell us what the next steps are! I hope to God we will still be able to have the family we dream of! Thank you again for your replies! I wish you all the best and keep me posted of what is going on with you! And yes it is worth fighting for and we are strong for not giving up. Not many people understand what we go through. I decided that from now on i wont announce to any friends and family when i am pregnant until and if it will happen and we pass the first trimester. I feel like now i see alot of petty in their eyes. Very few of my good friends tell me to keep trying and be strong because it will happen. It seems like just a dream now after all these miscarriages but dreams do come true.