I'm almost 22 weeks pregnant and I've my anomoly scan tomorrow afternoon. I found out I was pregnant quite far into the pregnancy, about 10 weeks, and I'd split from the father as he wanted children and I had been told I wouldn't be able too. By this time he'd been seeing someone else (who he is now living with) but said he'd support me in what I chose; although he said he was unsure how he would support me financially. (He earns over £15000 a year, he is self employed so his income can change often, but that is enough for him!) I then lost my job, redundencies were being made and as I'd not been in the job for too long I was obviously one of the first to go. Since the split I've been back home with my mother and sister, which is hard for us all, my mum owns a small house. I'm looking for temporary work just for 12/16 weeks so I am able to help myself rent and furnish a house before the baby is born, but obviously it is hard to do so when pregnant. This is leaving me in the situation that for a short while it seems that I need to rely on the benefits to help me sort this out, while I still look for work. The money I have had is going towards things for the baby so even though I'm in need of it, I have no maternity clothes, no new bras that fit, and the father (even though I believe he will not support financially) won't even come to the anomoly scan tomorrow as he says he has too much work.
I kow it's an awful situation but I'm doing everything I can to try and make sure the baby will be ok and have everything it wants, and I'm planning on beginning a degree in September, soon after the baby is born to give me a better chance of getting a job (like a teacher) that would make it easier to work around the baby. However my family now I've told them and spoken to them about the pregnancy are pushing and pushing for me to have an abortion. I told them I wasn't able to but they looked into it and found I could. I don't agree with abortion in general, however I do in exeptional circumstances, but I don't see my circumstances as that exceptional.
Has anyone else had problems like this? With all the hormones and all the things to consider and pressure how are you meant to know your own mind when people are pushing for you to change it so late? I love this little baby already it seems, I'd do anything I could for him/her but I don't know how to stay strong against so much!
I kow it's an awful situation but I'm doing everything I can to try and make sure the baby will be ok and have everything it wants, and I'm planning on beginning a degree in September, soon after the baby is born to give me a better chance of getting a job (like a teacher) that would make it easier to work around the baby. However my family now I've told them and spoken to them about the pregnancy are pushing and pushing for me to have an abortion. I told them I wasn't able to but they looked into it and found I could. I don't agree with abortion in general, however I do in exeptional circumstances, but I don't see my circumstances as that exceptional.
Has anyone else had problems like this? With all the hormones and all the things to consider and pressure how are you meant to know your own mind when people are pushing for you to change it so late? I love this little baby already it seems, I'd do anything I could for him/her but I don't know how to stay strong against so much!