well part of me thinks OH is partially naive, and part of me wonders if he even realizes some of the things he does bothers me. like this girl in his college class asking him for number and email and during break when hes at school in between class, going over to him and sitting with him and chatting. One that really p'd me off was when im talking to him on the phone, hes gone all day one day a week with work and school the rest of the day, and he says he really needs to get off the phone cuz he has lots of school work to get done (while hes on break) and then i find out yesterday that all along he either chats with this chick cuz shes comes up to where he is and sits with him or he sees her while walking to the library and stops to chat for a while. That just really made me mad, cuz if your gonna tell me you cant talk to me cuz you have work to do, you shouldnt be giving your time to talk to another female. maybe its just me, but i dont know.
the reason alot of things bother me that are little things is because last semester, we were going through ALOT of problems, arguing all the time and fighting, just not getting along very well, mainly due to financial burden. well, he started talking to this girl in one of his classes, they exchanged numbers, he told me at the time they had to exchange numbers with their lab partner as she was his along with another person, well she would be texting him all the time and calling him at times, she was a lifeguard and he is too at the YMCA, so he got her some hours at the YMCA where he worked, they worked the SAME shift, then i find out they had been flirting while in class ( they sat next to each other) and they would walk out after class together and all...then how i found all this out was when he told me how he was considering leaving the relationship, and he also tells me how he was attracted to her and would date her and might try to be with her.....i was devestated then. when i told him i was leaving, he broke down and realized how much he DID want to be with me and how stupid he was being, he never DID anything physical like with her, just the flirting (not that for me thats ok).....but because of that, even now the little things bother me and im skeptical.
its real complicated. it sucks too cuz i hate feeling like im being naive and just believing him when he says hes not doing anything now, and that he loves me, but then again, i dont want to not trust him when hes really not doing anything and it hurt our relationship.
, You really are going through it at the moment and I can understand why you are feeling this way with what has happened before. I don't think I would be overly happy with this either, have you tried talking to him about it all and how you feel? I know its hard hun and Im here for you, email me anytime, take care 
