not comnfortable here anymore

Discussion in 'Teen Pregnancy' started by Lexi_jaine, Jan 25, 2011.

  1. Lexi_jaine

    Lexi_jaine Well-Known Member

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    I have mentioned here that i am (was??) seriously considering putting my baby up for adoption

    since writing that post i have had a bunch of private messages from people asking to adopt my baby. now for starters there is no way in hell i would just give my baby up to some random person online. but half the reason i no longer post here much is because of this.

    i thought this place would be a good place for me to talk about what i am feeling, and get some good advice but every time i log in theres more and more people asking (some even demanding ) my baby!
     
  2. Yazz_n_bump

    Yazz_n_bump Me, Fiancé & Jack! :)

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    :/ Have you reported these people to the admin?

    That's quite sickening knowing there are people praying on the inernet for babies now, I know adoption is lovely but you don't harrass people that aren't 100% sure..
     
  3. jenniferannex

    jenniferannex Well-Known Member

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    hiya hun, please dont think the forum is like that, some ladies on here are just longing to have a baby of their own after TTC for months if not years. that may explain why your receiving these messages, just tell the admin and see what they can do.
    dont take offence to it :flower:
     
  4. onyxangel21

    onyxangel21 Well-Known Member

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    0_o Wooww..... I'm so sorry you are experiencing that. That's pretty frightening and extremely inappropriate. I wouldnt leave just because of them... I'm not on here very much but is there anyway for you or ADMIN to turn off your mail box? I know that's not a solution but at least it will alleviate the stress. I'm actually shocked by what you said.
     
  5. Lubbird

    Lubbird Guest

    You should definitely speak to admin about this. Its unfair (and completely inappropriate!!) for people to keep sending you these messages.

    I'm sorry you've had to experience this. Maybe admin can bring in some kind of rule that bans anyone that does this?

    I hope it doesn't come to you leaving BnB over this, but ultimately you have to do what's best for you.
     
  6. JWandBump

    JWandBump Well-Known Member

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    I agree dont leave, but is there any way you can block these people from sending you messages??
    I can see how its making you feel uncomfortable being on here tho, i hope they leave you alone. I would report them if i was you, and if anyone else sends you a message just delete it without opening it..

    Good luck in what ever you choose, if you decide to stay or not :flower: xx
     
  7. xx~Lor~xx

    xx~Lor~xx Young mummy of 3 <3

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    Please inform the admin of the users who have sent you these kinds of messages. It is completely wrong to harras someone like it sounds you have been. Don't let it get to you, some ladies are desperate for a baby, but it does NOT make it right to harras someone via internet. Chin up and PLEASE report them.

    xoxox
     
  8. x__amour

    x__amour Mommy.

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    Please contact admin, it's against the rules to be doing something like that. So sorry that happened. :hugs:
     
  9. Lexi_jaine

    Lexi_jaine Well-Known Member

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    how do i contact admin? still trying to get used to how this whole forum thing works
     
  10. Hayley90

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    You can report a message as it pops up (theres a report button in the message) or just send a PM to Wobbles, Stir Crazy or Vickie.

    That must be horrible, and incredibly rude for people to do that... Hope they stop or admin can close your box or something. xxx
     
  11. Hayley90

    Hayley90 Complete

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    Also, if you scroll right to the bottom of the screen, on the far right there is a 'contact us' button xx
     
  12. sophxx

    sophxx Well-Known Member

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    are they long standing messages as people can google and your posts will come up in the search

    def report it to admin xx
     
  13. amygwen

    amygwen Mom to Kenny & Gwendoline

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    Block them? And than report them to the admin. You shouldn't feel uncomfortable in here, def speak to admin!
     
  14. Bittersweet

    Bittersweet Expecting no 2 after losses and premature birth

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    That's horrible babe. :hugs: defa report to admin Hun.x
     
  15. bellexx

    bellexx Well-Known Member

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    i agree, some people on here are really insensitive, judgemental and think they know EVERYTHING. it has taught me to learn to be careful with what i say.
    but in all honesty, if you're gonna post something on the internet where there is a huge variety of people from all over the world, u have to expect to get some weirdo's.
    so remember that everything u post might not get the response u expect because there's no way u can know who's on here. just be cautious.
    good luck with whatever u chose :)
     
  16. aob1013

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    That's horrible.

    Please report it to admin!
     
  17. holly2234

    holly2234 Well-Known Member

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    Like everyone else says, please report! I hope you decide to stick around here as its very unfair for those people to make you feel like you cant come on here anymore.
     
  18. lucy_x

    lucy_x Mummy To Two Stunners

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    hope you have sorted something, Its completly inappropriate!
     
  19. StirCrazy

    StirCrazy BnB Co-Founder ~ Retired

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    I'm looking into this.

    This is something we take very seriously. I'm in the process of downloading the PM backups to get to the bottom of this. In the meantime, can you PM me with the members involved.

    S.C
     
  20. shimmy

    shimmy mummy , daddy and baby

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    thats terrible, i dont think your the first girl to mention it either on this site
    some people are just not right in the head. Even if you did say yes(which u wouldnt) what kind of way is that to "acquire"(couldn't think of another word) a child?
    :hugs: sorry those people are being weird. Hope admin sort it all out for you xx
     

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