Not feeling the "want another one" feeling.

[Serene123]

I've always wanted 2-3 children and when I was pregnant I couldn't stop thinking about being pregnant with number 2. Now she's here I couldn't be more willing to wait a few years. I want to enjoy her first few years and to be honest I don't like the idea of being pregnant again anytime soon. I've noticed everyone else seems to look at number 1 and want number 2 straight away. Maybe I'll never want number 2?

 

[xxleannexx]

im exactly the same ive always loved babies wanted to work with them and have about 3 kids but now i have summer i am willng to wait atleast 3 years and i sometimes still say to myself would even want another baby??? sounds horrible but maybe its because they are still so young and we have been put through alot stress so the thought of going through it all again sounds crazy. we are both young ourselves so have plenty of time to change our minds

 

[embo216]

I know what you mean! My little has suffered terrible colic, good chance we could have lost her in pregnancy too, and I always said I wanted an enournmous family! Now shes here though I cant see how id ever have any time for another littlun! A newborn and a toddler say, crazy! I look up and respect anyone who can do it! But then when she smiles at me and gurgles I just melt and think shed love a lil bro or sis! I'm only 21 so I have plenty of time left to decide i think!

Also I feel so isolated, all my friends are still single and going out all the time and we never talk anymore, I dont have a job, I only have my baby to talk too! Crave adult convosation! When OH comes in all he wants is his dinner and the telly

 

[mickey]

I'm also unsure about a second one!

I pay sooo much attention to my LO, can't even let her cry for five minutes, don't get any housework done and I just can't imagine how this should work out with another baby!

the problem is OH def wants a second one

but at the end, it's my body! besides of enormous water retention, I was very lucky this time round and therefore I am even more worried about next time!!! nobody can be so lucky twice! and my age is a problem too, as I am over 30 already and am worried about being pregnant beyond 35!!!

so, waiting a couple of years doesn't help either

as well, I have a friend, were everything was going well regarding her family life and as she got her second baby she got PND! that's another fear of me

 

[Linzi]

dont want a second one either. I don't want Seth to have to share me and Matt with someone else. I know that sounds silly. Maybe Ill change my mind in a few years but for now Im more than happy with him on his own

xxx

 

[pepperflake]

After my first, I definitely didn't want another one for at least 4-5 years. My 2 brothers and I are 4 and 5 years apart and it's worked so well for us, I knew I wanted more than just a year or 2 between my children. Life made things happen differently so there is now 9 years between my LO's but I'm very happy it happened that way. I got to have so many wonderful years with just my DD and me and I know we will always be very close (well, except for the teenage years, LOL). I just couldn't imagine having an infant and a toddler at the same time. I think women who do that and manage not to go crazy are superwomen!

 

[Wobbles]

Everyones different Toriaaa based on many things like 1st baby experience, work, lifestyle, age, etc ...

We're TTC number 2 but I must admit I have days where I think shouuld we really but yer I think it suits for us!

1st baby - hasn't been a bad experience no screaming for hours constant colic etc infact quite a happy smiley baby never been ill otehr than one stage of panic when she wouldn't keep her foods down

Work - we both work from home

Lifestyle - both at home again so 2 parents hands on

Age - Im 28 this year OH is 30 this year I would like 2 kids & I would like to be under 30 (thats just my preference)

Another factor - We had a long ttc journey with Caitlin I'd like to give it a good shot

 

[x-amy-x]

I am currently in the 'never again' stage. I am very happy with one baby at the minute. I always wanted 3 children but i think 2 will be pushing it. Had a bad experience i don't think i'll ever forget...

I'm sure these feelings will pass though and i'll want another one soon enough

xxx

 

[AppleBlossom]

I know I want a second but not for a looong time, at least 5 years after missy is here. Want to enjoy her first x

 

[Serene123]

I know what you mean! My little has suffered terrible colic, good chance we could have lost her in pregnancy too, and I always said I wanted an enournmous family! Now shes here though I cant see how id ever have any time for another littlun! A newborn and a toddler say, crazy! I look up and respect anyone who can do it! But then when she smiles at me and gurgles I just melt and think shed love a lil bro or sis! I'm only 21 so I have plenty of time left to decide i think!

Also I feel so isolated, all my friends are still single and going out all the time and we never talk anymore, I dont have a job, I only have my baby to talk too! Crave adult convosation! When OH comes in all he wants is his dinner and the telly

I'm only 18 so I have absolutely AGES before I need to worry about having another one but I just thought meeting her would make me want to give her a brother or sister! I know quite a few people with babies. One of my closest friends, who's mum was pregnant with her when my mum was pregnant with me (so we've been close since I was born) is pregnant with her first and is due in August so I don't feel isolated. I have loads of people around me. I dunno what it is. I just want to enjoy Caitlyn and I didn't enjoy being pregnant atall.

 

[AppleBlossom]

I'm only 18 so I have absolutely AGES before I need to worry about having another one but I just thought meeting her would make me want to give her a brother or sister! I know quite a few people with babies. One of my closest friends, who's mum was pregnant with her when my mum was pregnant with me (so we've been close since I was born) is pregnant with her first and is due in August so I don't feel isolated. I have loads of people around me. I dunno what it is. I just want to enjoy Caitlyn and I didn't enjoy being pregnant atall.

I understand what you mean Toria. I'm only 19 and have my whole life ahead of me, don't want to rush having all my kids when I'm so young. I am not enjoying pregnancy either. Although all of my friends will be back off to uni and my OH will be starting his new full time job in September I will still have my LO and my family to keep me company

 

[Serene123]

I can't wait for my OH to piss off back to work.. He is just being a nuesense! I'd rather just have her to look after during the day than her and him..

 

[AppleBlossom]

Haha, I can't complain as OH does pretty much everything round here especially cooking. I'll be lost without him!

 

[Serene123]

Mine thinks paternity leave is holiday. He's in bed most of the night and day! Wouldn't mind so much if he was at work all day and had reason to be tired but he does bugger all..

 

[AppleBlossom]

I'd give him a kick up the bum. Or wait till he's up, hand Caitlyn to him and go to bed without saying a word!

 

[Serene123]

I wish I could but I can't leave her. I think he would probably do more if I'd let him. I'd rather he did housework though.

 

[AppleBlossom]

Do you live with parents? Sounds to me like he really does need his arse kicked. You just pushed out his baby for goodness sake!

 

[Serene123]

Yeah I live with my mum but she's at work 8am-8pm, doesn't much want to do anything when she gets in, which is understandable.

 

[AppleBlossom]

Fair enough. If it was my OH I would give him a piece of my mind anyway but maybe that's just me lol does he realise he's being a lazy so and so?

 

[Serene123]

Yeah I told him and all I got was "I'm on holiday." Can't be bothered with the arguements.