Not feeling the "want another one" feeling.

[AppleBlossom]

I'm on holiday? Cheeky sod. Since when has paternity leave been a holiday? Men!

 

[Serene123]

Since God invented the male brain. Great idea that was!

 

[AppleBlossom]

 

[sam's mum]

When I first had Sam I was happy to wait a few years too, then I went through a few weeks when I couldn't wait to have another...now I'm back to wanting to wait just so I can enjoy spending time with him, and I even feel guilty thinking about having another any time soon as he won't get all my time and attention! (Think OH is relieved!)

Get your man up and doing some housework!!! x

 

[mickey]

I think the main problem with our life style regarding LO is, that OH is out at work the entire day. he leaves the house at nineish and comes back at 9pm. and we do not have any family in UK to ask for help. his twin brother turned out not to be great help. alright he does some shopping for me, if I ask him to do it, but he just doesn't know what to do with LO. therefore LO also doesn't feel comfortable with him

as well on the weekends, weh have to catch up on all the housework and we still have to do a lot of stuff in our flat, which we kind of reorganise and refurnish at the moment.

and I am fed up with all the weekends stuffed with work all day long

just want to have nice days out with LO and OH together!!!

at the moment OH is at home, which is really like holiday for me

yes, like this I could have five kids

 

[luckyme225]

I didn't even want to think about another baby until Connor was a month, I felt like he was growing up so fast. Now I want another baby oddly enough but I'm sure I will wait another four years.

 

[xCherylx]

I had such a dreadful and shocking delivery experience that it has terrified me into having another one because I don't want to go through that again. Until we have our own home and I'm out of University etc etc...then I MIGHT start thinking about it as I don't want to Jack to have no one to play with, and being an only child myself I know how lonely it can be

 

[Ratty]

I didn't even want the first one !!! Now that he is here it is a different story.

I hated being pregnant, had a horrible birth experience, but yet my OH and I spoke about me going onto some kind of contraceptive last night and neither of us were really sure we wanted me to. Don't know what the hell has got into me. We both grew up with siblings so I think the idea of him having a brother or sister is quite tempting. Guess we will just have to let fate decide.

 

[Always&4ever]

I'd like another one but not for atleast 2 years

 

[coccyx]

HaHA I remember saying no more after my first. Had baby number 4 seven weeks ago!!!!!!!!!

 

[dizzy65]

aw

 

[Holldoll]

I'm still in the never again stage. I've heard it fades over time and as they aren't so dependent and snuggly that's when you usually start wanting another one.

 

[lorrilou]

i always said i never wanted kids, but then fell pregnant with nicole and after having her didnt want anymore but then after a couple of years i decided i really wanted to give her a brother or sister, it took abit of persuading to get oh to agree to it though. But now we have callum i really dont want anymore.

im glad we didnt have another one straight after nicole, we got to spend 4yrs with just her and really enjoy her.

 

[Shifter]

I'm a long way from this myself, but I've always felt that a four or five year gap is ideal. I have known too many homes full of screaming tantrums when two siblings are close in age, I don't want to go through that as a mother and wouldn't dream of putting kids through it.

My and my brother have eleven years between us, so growing up I felt a lot like an only child (he left home when I was six) and it didn't do me any harm. But we're not very close, so I think some middle ground is probably for the best.

It may be very different when I have my own first LO though... we'll see ;-)

 

[mickey]

hmmm, my sister and me are 11 years apart and we are the opposite! we are very close! possibly 'cos I looked after her quite a lot, when she was a baby and child

my LO gets more independant day by day now and I love the stage she is in atm!!! I think I'm getting broody again, as I would love to experience this time with another one

I think it's like Holldoll said already

but I def want to wait about 4 years, so will TTC over 35

 

[Sara]

I've only just started thinking I might have another baby oneday, but there's still doubt in my mind!
Up until now I've been saying NO MORE! But now I can see that I can get through it and my body can heal so it seems less scary to think about another!

 

[Shifter]

hmmm, my sister and me are 11 years apart and we are the opposite! we are very close! possibly 'cos I looked after her quite a lot, when she was a baby and child

Maybe it's part of being different genders, maybe not. I don't think he was that into helping look after me when I was little!

Don't get me wrong though, me and my big bro get along really well and I count him as a mate as well as a big bro. We're just not overly close. I think it's largely down to him moving out quite young (17) and not seeing much of each other from then until I was in my mid teens. Then I moved to the other end of the country so we've not seen each other that much since I was about 19.

So we only had a few years when I was a teenager to bond.

 

[mickey]

my older bro is 2 years older and we aren't very close too...

think it's the thing big bro aren't too interested in little sisters

 

[Linzi]

I'm still in the never again stage. I've heard it fades over time and as they aren't so dependent and snuggly that's when you usually start wanting another one.

I can imagine that. I love how dependant he is at the minute, he always wants cuddles as well. Ill miss him being like that I think.

xxx