Not pregnant by Christmas :( worried. Anyone else?

[squirrel.]

Hi ladies,

Having a bit of a downer moment. Two years ago I ovulated within days of the date I ovulated this cycle (15th this time and on the 19th with my daughter). With that cycle two years ago I got my BFP at 10dpo and the rest is history; my one-year-old little firecracker is sleeping upstairs. Christmas two years ago I was tentatively pregnant and a scan on the 23rd of Dec showed all was well, which allowed us to cautiously tell family and it was a really magical time.

This year with my periods returning at eight months postpartum in March, I really really really didn't think I'd not be pregnant by Christmas. In truth, I thought I'd be heavily pregnant by Christmas. Instead, I'm still here, clinging on to hope that this will be the cycle. With my daughter we fell second month trying (first month of properly timing intercourse) and my little boy came about due to a freakish-one off slip up on the pill (not using back up protection a week after having a stomach bug), so I guess we were pretty fertile back then. This is why waiting 8 months now is feeling like hard going right now and Christmas is bringing everything into a miserable focus for me.

I have two brothers, one of whom I know is trying for his third child with his wife (we were all talking about when we'd plan on having kids this summer) and the other one is a pretty safe bet. That means there are possibly, maybe, potentially two pregnancy announcements in the making this Christmas and we have been trying longer than both. I know there is nothing to base this on, just irrational fear.

It's haunting me though.

By Christmas it'll have been 9 months trying for us, which I know isn't as long as the poor ladies on here who are LTTC, but long enough to be wearing on me. I really really want this cycle to work, as I don't want to face Christmas and potential pregnancy announcements empty, especially with the happy events of two years ago hanging over me reminding me of how easy it was back then. If the chemical I had in August had stuck then I'd be well into the second trimester by now... I could have been celebrating with family... instead...

I'm trying to lighten my mood by thinking: well at least I won't feel rotten (physically) like I did back then; I'll be able to drink; won't feel tired at eight-o' clock; and be able to eat what I like.... but it's not enough to sotp this dread building in me.

Thanks for letting me vent just feel a bit sad right now.

Is anyone else dreading Christmas without a BFP?

 

[annaki]

Hi ladies,

Having a bit of a downer moment. Two years ago I ovulated within days of the date I ovulated this cycle (15th this time and on the 19th with my daughter). With that cycle two years ago I got my BFP at 10dpo and the rest is history; my one-year-old little firecracker is sleeping upstairs. Christmas two years ago I was tentatively pregnant and a scan on the 23rd of Dec showed all was well, which allowed us to cautiously tell family and it was a really magical time.

This year with my periods returning at eight months postpartum in March, I really really really didn't think I'd not be pregnant by Christmas. In truth, I thought I'd be heavily pregnant by Christmas. Instead, I'm still here, clinging on to hope that this will be the cycle. With my daughter we fell second month trying (first month of properly timing intercourse) and my little boy came about due to a freakish-one off slip up on the pill (not using back up protection a week after having a stomach bug), so I guess we were pretty fertile back then. This is why waiting 8 months now is feeling like hard going right now and Christmas is bringing everything into a miserable focus for me.

I have two brothers, one of whom I know is trying for his third child with his wife (we were all talking about when we'd plan on having kids this summer) and the other one is a pretty safe bet. That means there are possibly, maybe, potentially two pregnancy announcements in the making this Christmas and we have been trying longer than both. I know there is nothing to base this on, just irrational fear.

It's haunting me though.

By Christmas it'll have been 9 months trying for us, which I know isn't as long as the poor ladies on here who are LTTC, but long enough to be wearing on me. I really really want this cycle to work, as I don't want to face Christmas and potential pregnancy announcements empty, especially with the happy events of two years ago hanging over me reminding me of how easy it was back then. If the chemical I had in August had stuck then I'd be well into the second trimester by now... I could have been celebrating with family... instead...

I'm trying to lighten my mood by thinking: well at least I won't feel rotten (physically) like I did back then; I'll be able to drink; won't feel tired at eight-o' clock; and be able to eat what I like.... but it's not enough to sotp this dread building in me.

Thanks for letting me vent just feel a bit sad right now.

Is anyone else dreading Christmas without a BFP?

Totally understand how you are feeling. Conceived number 1 very easily (first month). That was 2.5 years ago. Wanted another child close in age gap but delayed trying due to travel commitments. Only started TTC in Sept. Totally expected to be announcing pregnancy and be celebrating the news this Christmas, but it seems our extremely fertile selves aren't what we were.

Have friends expecting. And another friend who has a 2 year old who didn't want number 2 for some years, but think they will be announcing a pregnancy soon as she keeps slipping hints of feeling sick etc.

And everyone knows we are TTC number 2 which has put the pressure on us I feel.

Really thought I had got a BFP last month as AF 5 days late (which it NEVER is) but was just a cruel trick.

Now in my 3rd 2ww but don't feel pregnant

Where are you in your cycle?

I understand how you feel so sending big hugs. It's so frustrating isn't it xxx

 

[squirrel.]

sorry you're going through a similar thing. It's so frustrating isn't it when you're expecting it to happen straight away like before, but then it unexpectedly takes much longer.

I'm only 3dpo, but the last few cycles have taught me that hope just leaves you feeling empty and angry at the end when AF inevitably comes. This is the third cycle since my chemical and for all three our timing has been perfect, I've had lots of good fertile cm and my temperature chart has been perfect... the only thing missing is the BFP at the end.

I wish I could just ignore this TWW and think about other things, but I think the the fact that this cycle is mirroring my lucky happy cycle in terms of dates lining up flukishly, is putting extra pressure on me. I'm putting extra pressure on myself, hoping this cycle is lucky because my period is due the day I got my first BFP with my daughter's pregnancy two years ago: the 29th of November. It will be a cruel day if my period arrives on that day.

Ugh! I'm just wallowing now. Sorry.

 

[annaki]

sorry you're going through a similar thing. It's so frustrating isn't it when you're expecting it to happen straight away like before, but then it unexpectedly takes much longer.

I'm only 3dpo, but the last few cycles have taught me that hope just leaves you feeling empty and angry at the end when AF inevitably comes. This is the third cycle since my chemical and for all three our timing has been perfect, I've had lots of good fertile cm and my temperature chart has been perfect... the only thing missing is the BFP at the end.

I wish I could just ignore this TWW and think about other things, but I think the the fact that this cycle is mirroring my lucky happy cycle in terms of dates lining up flukishly, is putting extra pressure on me. I'm putting extra pressure on myself, hoping this cycle is lucky because my period is due the day I got my first BFP with my daughter's pregnancy two years ago: the 29th of November. It will be a cruel day if my period arrives on that day.

Ugh! I'm just wallowing now. Sorry.

Have a good wallow it doesn't half help! I have tried my very best to ignore my cycle, last cycle I was last prob spotting every day and I definitely had symptons. This cycle I have tried to be relaxed about it all, but that might be down to the fact I have had no symptoms 😂😂😂

The best of luck for this cycle, we could both still get our BFP for Christmas. Although i am trying to play it cool and putting the thought to the back of my mind x Although it is very hard to do.

 

[lisap2008]

For me its been many years of TTC with DH low sperm count , in September we found out he had gone from a low count to a total count of 5 so DH finally agreed to let me try donor sperm , the past few months of trying I was hopeful I would be pregnant at Christmas but sadly our last cycle of injectable FSH and IUI with the donor sperm failed and now DH is only allowing me one last try after the holidays, I cried for a few days and now I am feeling okay with accepting whatever happens.

 

[squirrel.]

lisap you are a very strong woman to have gone through all of that and have that attitude at the end of it all. I wish I had some of your strength right now in my moment of self-pity!

 

[jtr2803]

I'm the same. We started ttc in June but as I have slightly shorter cycles in already on cycle 7 since we started, the first and 5th were pretty much write offs so I count this as cycle five but yeah, hadn't expected it to take so long.

We went to the cinema in June and saw a trailer for the new star wars and I vividly remember hubby telling me I'd be all pump by then and I'm not even pregnant! I think hubby is taking it quite hard as he's now convinced he has some problem and we've just found out we need a new roof so the money we planned to put towards fertility tests/treatment if we need it is gone...

 

[gina236]

I am in the same boat. Been trying since May for my first. Have had 2, possibly 3 (didn't confirm with a test) chemicals. I have always wanted to announce it for Christmas. I was so excited that November was going to work perfect for that and then it ended up being a chemical (I think, still have some hope for some reason) but now if I conceive this cycle I will only be 6 weeks by Christmas which is earlier than I wanted to announce it to family but it's the last chance. I am hoping we can time things right again this month and I bought progesterone cream to see if that's the problem. My husbands friends just announced they were expecting. They just got married in July and we knew they would be trying right away. They were the only couple we really wanted to beat to getting pregnant. It hurts so much to see her updates when I have been pregnant 2 possibly 3 times in the last 8 months and still no bump to show. Your not alone. This Christmas will be so hard if we don't get that bfp first.

 

[Ortegapg1]

I am PRAYING for a bfp by christmas. I am currently in month 11 of ttc and after Christmas I will have to go to my one year appointment of trying to concieve I will be so sad if we have to go through fertility specialists because my insurance doesn't cover it and I just never thought it would turn out like this.

I am also dreading the "when are you going to have a baby" question that all of our family members ask everytime we see them. It's so frustrating telling people that we are trying because they give us a "you have to try?" look.

Nothing would make my DH and I happier then a bfp for christmas. My fingers are crossed for you all!! I wish you so much baby dust!!!

 

[t1ff3rs]

Im right here with you too. My 1st 2 happened so fast and with easy but they were not planned. Now that I am planning I feel like every day is torture. I am always over analyzing every change or feeling in my body and praying those are the BFP symptoms I have been waiting for. AF is due any minute now and I am 13 DPO with all BFN because I become a POAS addict no matter how I try to talk myself out of it. As much as I want to have hope I just have this sad feeling that this month again is not my month for a BFP. I hope you all get yours soon

BABY DUST TO YOU ALL!!

 

[cupcake.]

I'm with you.. startes trying in july, i'm only 23, he's 27, i was pretty much sure i'd be pregnant by christmas... Now i can actually imagine that we're still ttc next july better than i can imagine us getting pregnant soon.

Hoping it's finally going to be our turn soon!

 

[squirrel.]

Hugs to all of you ladies

The thing about TTC is I find it sends me through such crazy mood-phases. Right now I'm in a sad, beaten, frame of mind, but give it a few weeks and I'm sure I'll feel optimistic again, or merely ambivalent. I think regardless of how long you've been trying, TTC can twist you round and round and make you feel as though you're reeling even if you've only just started. Celebrations like Christmas just bring it all to the fore for me.

I really hope we all get BFPs before Christmas.

When AF arrives, if I ovulate around the same time as this cycle, then my next AF could be due Christmas Day. That would be terrible!! I am all about Christmas (always have been) and if I get AF Christmas Day with all the pain, discomfort and sadness it brings (I don't get angry with PMS, I just cry all the time), then I'm going to be pretty ticked off

 

[Lost7]

16 months + for us, so definitely know how you feel. It's depressing, upsetting and people wondered why I lost it at one point...