Not sure wat 2 do.

[Clara101]

Wat a mess, just found out I was pregnant after 9 days of being late. Ok so the tricky stuff, im 18 and I work full time making about £12000 a year, my BF of only 1 month I mite add is 21 and goes 2 uni 250 miles away from where I live, he still has 2 years to go till he finishes. It gets worse, im still head ova heels in love with my ex boyfriend who i was with for 2 years and we broke up 4 months ago and he loves me still 2, although he has a new girlfriend. We still text each other and talk alot, but its all really complicated so we couldnt be together again yet so I tried my hardest to get ova him and I thought I was when I met Sam (BF) who is lovely, but then ex pops up again and I know he is my soul mate. But now im pregnant with Sams baby, so wat do I do. If I keep this baby I not only make things exceeding difficult for myself and Sam, but it also means I have 2 walk away from my ex foreva. But I dunno if I can have an abortion either, im scared shitless but also a lil excited ahhhhh, dunno wat 2 do 4 the best.xxxx

 

[leedsforever]

only you will know what to do hun

it does sound very very complicated!! IS there anyone you can talk to.... your mum?? a sister?? a close girlfriend??

What does your current bf think?

 

[nikky0907]

Im not sure if i agree or not, im 18, OH is 19. Im 21 weeks pregnant and it was planned. Sort of, I came off the pill for 6 months 2 see what would happen and we reasoned that what was meant 2 be would happen and I fell pregnant on the 6th month off the pill, was gonna start taking the pill like 4 days later when i found out it had finally happened. I wouldnt change it 4 the world, but then we have our own flat, both work full time and make good money, both drive and have cars. I dont live off benefits and would not dream of doing so, although we arent sure what will happen when babe is born, whether il go back to work or not, probs go back part time, because otherwise we wont be able 2 survive.
Do you live 2gether?
Do you work?
Can you afford to have a baby?
What are your reasons?

This is yours? Posted back in April?

 

[Clara101]

Yer thats my ex, I had a miscarriage at 23 weeks Fetus stopped growing at around 19 weeks. So like 2 weeks after that was posted. The pregnancy had been a bit difficult the whole way through, bleeding and spotting and then I miscarried. I think thats the main reason me and Paul (the ex) broke up in the end, I took it very badly and I felt he wasnt surportive enough. But now after a month of being wid Sam and on the pill I might add, I end up pregnant again and this time I dunno wat 2 do, the situation is so so different. I mean I live back with my Mum now. Sam is freakin out a bit, he says it will ruin both of our lives. xx

 

[leedsforever]

 

[nikky0907]

Oh...thanks for clearing it up.
You gave birth to a stillborn?I'm so very sorry for your loss!


And really don't know what do advise to you.Have a long talk with your bf,your mom.
But first you need to sort out your emotions.If you don't love your bf and you still have feelings for your ex,then I'm sorry to say but your relationship doesn't stand much chance.