Not sure where to post, pg/partner related

[LilMiss_91]

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[babybambi]

Oh men can be idiots, fortunately im quite lucky I don't have to ask my husband to do things he just does them. But if he'd let me carry our heavy toddler and then saw to himself while I wrestled our son, I'd be pretty pissed. Especially if he knew I was on doctors orders. I think some men think pregnancy is easy, and when they say they're tired....they haven't got the vaguest concept of what tired actually is!

 

[AngelofTroy]

I'd be annoyed... But I also would have outright asked OH to takeover the carrying! I think people don't always know when to offer to help and it helps if you can ask for help before resentment builds.

 

[Nibblenic]

I would have told oh what to do, men can be rubbish sometimes. Don't be a matyr though, think about your health if you need something doing instruct people

 

[LilMiss_91]

They can indeed be idiots! You're lucky your OH is more innately helpful than mine!!
Man is that true, I suffered with SPD terribly last time and it was only a few months ago that i made a comment and OH was like, "but your hip was never painful though was it?". I could do nothing but stare at him for a good few moments when he said that.

I would usually agree and generally I don't hesitate to ask for help. But I usually feel he thinks I'm being a wuss or just shirking responsibility when I do, it also wasn't the first time I'd carried him while were out today and the previous time I had asled him to take over. Also he never picks DS up to carry him, it has to either be me asking him to carry him or me carrying him first and then asking OH to take over when I can no longer manage. I would just be nice for him to not need constant direction and instruction. I have to ask him to do pretty much everything, from changing DS's bum, to brushing his teeth, even things like staying with him while ge finishes pudding if I need to pop to the loo. I didn't say anything the other day, popped to the loo and came back to find DS sitting on his own at the table eating his ice cream and OH had gone off into the kitchen. It just mames my head want to implode.

 

[minties]

If you need help, sometimes you gotta ask. No point in fuming quiet to yourself. He would have just assumed yout were ok with the carrying as you continued to do it. Speak up for yourself

 

[misspriss]

Men can be oblivious sometimes, I don't think it's on purpose. Sometimes you have to tell them exactly what you need.

If my DH were being dense in your situation, I'd day "DH, DS wants to be held, you know the doctor said I shouldn't be lifting, so you need to do it." Don't mention that you hurt, or you are tired, etc - just lay it out for him in facts, not feelings.

Men also have never been pregnant and haven't had dietary restrictions, so they sometimes forget that there is something about a monster that makes it "unacceptable". That seems like more of a slip up.

 

[Marumi]

Men can be so oblivious My husband has moments like this and to top it off he would have wanted a foot rub or sex after

 

[wannabemomy37]

My OH is completely oblivious to lots of things...lol.
I need to tell him everything...several times...before it gets done. It's partly the reason we fight so much and nearly ended things.
I'd have a sit down and explain your built up anger. If he's anything like my OH he will be shocked I never said anything at the moment and would be all "oh babe you should've said something"...because, you know, he has half a brain....

 

[Gem_Clem]

Sometimes I think men don't even notice these thing, totally oblivious. I just ask when I need help and he does it right away. I would've just said 'Here take her shes too heavy for me' Theres no way I'd be struggling home with a toddler while he's happily toddling along lol