November 2013 Babies!

[luna_19]

Luna- prob cus i not had meds this morning im bit confused u said u are going to th concert (yeeey) then your not (boo).. lol its been aages since i went to a concert

No we're not going, my main concern at that point will be recovering from birth, establishing breastfeeding and getting sleep whenever I can. There will be plenty of concerts to go to once baby is older

 

[Rockinmomtobe]

Rockin.. Can i ask y ur mil turnd down looking after baby?? Thats th first iv heard a nan do tht..

Im in hospital now just maternity inpatients and there r 4 beds in here. And im guna sound mad but id rather b here then in a private room they scare me im scared of hospitals been here 3 weeks im 32+4 in th morning and looks like i may b here until 37 weeks so im glad of th company. Durin labour u get your own room and then ur bk in room with 4 beds could b interesting lol xx

MIL is just....lazy. Its not a nice thing to say, but its true. Shes never really worked (even when financially she probably shouldve) and would rather 'just be a grandma' Yea well....Id rather just be a mom, but I have to work to help pay the bills. GRRRR. She had a part time job a few months ago and quit after 3 weeks because it was too tiring....she was a lunch mom working 3 days a week for 2 hrs a day. I KNEW she couldnt do it, but OH kept telling me itl be ok, its all worked out, dont stress. and now here it is, a little over 6 weeks until Im due and now we really have to worry. Im just scared is all. We'll figure it out.

Wow I can't believe the rude comments! No one has said anything like that to be but I'm pretty sire I give off a vibe like I don't want to talk to strangers about it, hardly anyone even asks when I'm due!

This is me exactly! No one has DARED say anything like that to me lol. I think after such a rough first tri everyones a bit scared of me

AFM- dr yesterday, baby is still head down and Im measuring a bit big they said, but didnt seem too worried.....AND I gained 7 lbs in two weeks. I cant win. Ive just given up on trying to control it. Im still exercising about 3 days a week and eating healthy so not much I can do. Im FINALLY starting to swell a bit, not much, but enough that I notice. Im drinking TONS of water, but it doesnt seem to be helping...honestly, I think its my bodys way of telling me no more work but I cant do that, so...it is what it is. Im trying to stay positive.

Any FTM concerned about what the new baby will do to your relationship with your SO? Its something Ive been thinking about lately....those first couple of weeks will be hard and tiring, I already 'miss' my OH because Im going to bed so early, I feel like we never see each other. ...it was just something I was thinking about. Anyone else?

 

[The Alchemist]

Bernie - yesterday, I text my OH at night (he works graveyard shift) and told him I I have been nervous and sad about having 2. He said he is too. It's going to be a new set of challenges! Let's hope things will go smoothly for us. Hugs!

Whittnie - do you think you can call the advice line or call to speak with the OB about it? I wanna say it's pinched nerves, as I've had that last pregnancy, but I can't be too sure. I hope you get answers.

Asf - I slept okay last night. Trying to enjoy every opportunity to nap and trying to enjoy my sleep now before all of that will be taken from me basically. Today, if I feel okay, I would love to take dd out to the park since the weather seems to be starting to cool down now.

 

[The Alchemist]

Rockin - interesting you brought up the effect of baby to relationship. I'll speak from personal experience when we first had dd. The guest few months is pretty much learning new ways and learning about your baby. I was really emotional. I had serious baby blues that turned to ppd. One major factor that contributed to depression was that we lived with his parents. No privacy at all and although his parents just want to help, I felt like I was incapable of caring for dd because mil would suggest this and get mad if we don't do it her way. Plus, back then, OH, as a man who's always lived and got spoiled growing up by his parents and did anything he's ever wanted, couldn't cope with the stress of having a kid. The lack of sleep and the money issues back then really had us arguing a lot. But as time went by, things got better. I think it's normal to feel nervous about this. Maybe try sitting your dh down, have a talk about how baby can change things but it'll be okay. Hugs! I understand your feelings.

 

[whittnie117]

So that pain went away just like the other two times it happened. I don't understand it

Bernie: I'm not sure if I'll be able to handle one other woman with me, I can't even imagine being able to handle eight.

I'm kind of worried how OH and my relationship will change. TBH, even though my OH is a great guy, I was seriously contemplating leaving him. I had one foot out he door before I got pregnant. Then once I got pregnant things started to get better. He pays more attention to me and treats me a lot better. Not that he didn't before, but it was just different. Before he didn't touch me, kiss me, or anything for the most part. When we got pregnant that was the first time we dtd in over 8 months. It was bad, but I had endured little intimacy for over 8 years. So I was pretty fed up. So, now I'm scared that once the baby is here that this new found intimacy will go away and it will go back to how it was, just with a baby in the mix. So, yea, I'm worried. Sorry if that's super tmi.

 

[whittnie117]

Oh! And my nursing bras came in the mail today. I got a 4x because I'm in an I now and it BARELY fits. It definitely won't fit when my milk comes in. Not cool. At least my boobies won't be squished by my normal under wire bras until the baby gets here. Looks like I'm going to have to shell out 110 dollars to buy good fitting bras when he's born. I need to see how big they are going to get.

 

[Rockinmomtobe]

Alchemist- I didnt even think to ask you ladies that already have kids how it affected your relationship I really appreciate your input. OH and I thankfully live on our own, but MIL is very nosey. I worry about silly things too like....will we remember to kiss each other good bye in the morning. Im being hormonal I think But, its a major change, it has to change things. I just hope its not too hard and I will probably try and sit down and talk to him about it too.

Whitt- Im glad Im not the only one worried about this. First of all....I cannot believe you went with little intimacy for that long. Youre a much stronger woman than I am. Its not everything in my relationship, but its a big part of it and I have a hard time when OH and I arent close in that way. Im glad your DH is treating you better though, thats a good sign. Hopefully we'll both figure everything out

 

[whittnie117]

Sorry I'm posting a lot today. I'm now fully frustrated.

I just had my appointment with my nurse, who I trust more than my doctor, and she took my heart rate and blood pressure. She said I'm now tachycardic (non pregnancy rhb was always 68-74 and during pregnancy has been about 98 and was 115 today)and my blood pressure is extremely high. She said I was high risk for getting pre-e, but now I'm extremely high risk. She put me on a low sodium diet and said I need to watch out for swelling and dizziness. Way to scare me, but I guess that's what it will take to whip me into taking better care of myself, then okay. I really hope it doesn't come to pre-e

Edit: This also means no more spicy chicken sandwiches for me. It's my biggest craving.

 

[mama.luv]

Whit: I was told the same thing about my BP when I was about 34wks with my son, but I end up getting pre-e around 38wks. You should be fine, just eat healthy. And my goodness, I can't believe you went 8 months without DTD. We haven't DTD during this pregnancy at all, and I find myself getting sexually frustrated.

Update on my situation: I saw the pediatric cardiologist today and he said Baby B's heart looks fine except for the fluid around her heart which is not really a concern right now unless the fluid increases. The Doc didn't find anything suggesting the baby could have Trisomy 13, which is good. However he also mentioned that ultrasounds are only 75% accurate. Only an amnio can tell us for sure. He also said the cord flow is reversing on Baby B which is why she is not gaining weight. He said if I can make it to 32wks, I should be fine. After leaving that Doc, we were so relieved. Then on my way back to the other hosp to continue my bed rest, my regular Doc called me and she said as soon as I get back to the hosp, I need to get another steroid shot because she wants to induce me tomorrow to give Baby B a better chance at survival. WHAT!!! Now I'm back in the hosp, hooked up to monitors. We spoke with the NICU Doc and he said having babies this early should not be a problem unless the baby is born with health issues. So I'm hoping both babies are okay. Pray for me ladies.

 

[whittnie117]

Oh my mama! That is insane. I'm glad that the new doctor didn't see any signs of trisomy 13. I can't imagine what you're going through. I've read that multiple usually come early, and outlooks for babies are good after 28 weeks. So, if the doctor thinks your best bet is to be induced to have a better chance then I would trust her, but still get a second opinion. Did you ask her if you waited for an extra two weeks what the chances would be either way?

 

[mama.luv]

She said if we wait, the baby could die in the womb because with a reversed cord flow, the baby is no longer getting the nutrients it needs. So it's basically best to deliver to give the baby a better chance at survival outside the womb.

 

[whittnie117]

At 30 weeks the survival rates are >95%. You've had steroid injections to help with lung functions and you've done everything possible to keep yourself and those babies healthy. This is a tough situation and I don't know if you believe (and I usually try to not speak of faith), but it's in god's hands and I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Hopefully everything will be fine with your babies and they are born with little to no problems. The technology now has allowed even very premature babies to have a super high chance of survival.

 

[berniegroves]

Mama - oh my goodness! What a nightmare!! I hope that it all works out for the best. I'm sure they will only deliver the babies if they feel its necessary. Xxx

Whit - I had high blood pressure and severe swelling in my last pregnancy but it didn't develop into pre-e. so hopefully you'll be okay and it won't develop.

Rockin - my relationship with DH did change quite a lot. Both good and bad changes. It takes a lot of effort to still stay connected. Honestly for us I think it helped that it was just us and DD, we didn't have any help from family etc. so we had to work together and communicate. I think if other people had been around a lot it would have made it difficult.
The first 6 months were hard as we didn't get much time together, DH was at work 12 hours a day and I was going to bed at 8pm as DD was up and down all night long. I had PPD and that made it harder. But we came throught the first 6 months stronger than ever.
And honestly ladies, you are about to feel love for someone like you never even realised you could! I was totally consumed with love for DD instantly! But remind yourself everyday to make the effort with your partners, kisses, cuddles etc. you're about to create a family, and that's a wonderful thing

 

[luna_19]

Oh mama
Babies have a great chance at this point, I know people that have had theirs even earlier and baby is doing fine. Good luck.

 

[missjenn]

Mama...30 weeks is still great for baby survival!!!! You are obviously in very good hands and Im sure everything will be fine! You must be going through a crap load of emotions right now...I know I would be. I am sending tons of positive vibes and will say a little prayer for you and your little ones tonight. God doesnt give us more than we can handle right...(sorry...being all god crazy ha)...it's what helps me at times!

Bless you are your little family...may you all be super strong tomorrow!

 

[bb1]

Mama- Praying for you and your babies. Have been thinking of you guys. I know I dont post a lot but I do keep an eye on you girls.

AFM- had appointment yesterday and FH is suddenly measuring 5 weeks ahead. before it has just been 1 week. Going for a scan on monday to find out whats going on.

 

[Rockinmomtobe]

Mama- keep us updated bin thinking about you and hoping everything goes well. I'm sure it's a lot up handle but the news from both doctors sounds promising

 

[wantb502]

Oh my goodness so many posts to keep up with!

Mama: you and your sweet babies will do great. We are all routing for you. Keep us updated when you get the chance. I'll be thinking about you!!!

 

[The Alchemist]

Mama - I agree with the other ladies that baby B has an extremely high survival rate. I hope this will put your mind at ease somewhat. I'll be keeping you in my thoughts. Fx everything will be okay.

Berniegroves - I had ppd too. I didn't agree more with you that you feel this immense amount of love for your baby. And to remember to nourish the relationship with ones partner as well. Many think that once you have a baby, everything is about the baby and baby comes first. Yes, they do, but we must also keep a strong relationship in order to keep the family unit strong. It's hard at the beginning but it takes two to get through it. And speaking from my own experience, it changed us for the better. We have grown together as parents and our outlook in life had totally changed.

To the ladies who have kids already and others if you know: do you remember or know if they test baby's first poop for anything as routine screening? I can't remember at all.

 

[Nariah01]

Hang in there Mama! I will send lots of positive thoughts and keep my fingers crossed for you. I've heard of several babies who were born this early with low birth weights that did great, the tech. these days is crazy. Good luck, try to rest, and keep us posted.