November 2013 Babies!

[wantb502]

Whit: that sucks! I bet tensions are high. Living in a house with other adults is always difficult. You are right though, room by room is always the best way to manage big projects. Can you guys just donate the stuff or put it on Craig's list? That way you don't have to worry about an all day garage sale. I usually find they are more of a pain in the ass and we just bring our stuff to the thrift store and get a receipt for taxes.

Sorry you have to deal with that. I would go ape shit if I had to live with either DH or my family!

We found out yesterday that DHs car needs a new transmission. What great timing! Ha! Now we have to look for a new car. This sucks seeing I will be getting less then half my pay with short term disability and only for 6 weeks. Ouch. Luckily we can use our home equity loan and just not pay our house off as fast. I think we are going to look at some hybrids. This was the last thing we wanted to be doing 5 weeks before our baby is due. Damnit.

 

[Rockinmomtobe]

BB- GOOD LUCK!!! Im jealous you'll probably go before me too! I know I shouldnt be. Im glad your contractions stopped though. I had problems being in the car for long periods of time. I had bleeding around 28 weeks after a long car ride, so now I cant be in the car longer than an hour a day....which is about what it takes me to get to work and back. I cant believe it takes you so long to get to the hospital!!! Hopefully everything works out

Want- That sucks about the transmission!!! Not what anyone wants to deal with, much less super pregnant! Sorry. I finally got my car in to get repaired yesterday, from the accident and am driving a rental and I meet with the lawyer tonight about my bodily injury claim. Its too much!!!! I just want to focus on my baby! Im sure you'll get everything figured out. Good luck

Whitt- Ugh. MIL are the worst sometimes. Ive talked about OHs mom a bit and let me just say...we lived with them for 2 and a half years before I got pregnant and she NEVER bothered me....like....EVER. We moved out right after finding out I was pregnant and sometimes I want to strangle her. She pops over unannounced, constantly bothers me about if Im in labor...UGH, just thinking about it makes me irritated. I just keep reminding myself that shes excited and everyone handles things differently. Im sorry that was stressful for you, especially because youre already worried about having the baby early. And I wish I had some advice...but I dont deal with OHs mom very well, soooooo...Ill just give you a hug instead

Alchemist- have you used the belly support before? Did you like it? Its supposed to help pp too? I dont have a lot of extra money now, but...I literally cannot sleep my bump hurts to much. Im desperate.

What is this kellymom website everyone is talking about...I feel out of the loop lol.

AFM- I slept half decent last night, but I was EXHAUSTED! OH and I so I dont know if that helped, lol. But I might try again tonight, because I cannot sleep worth a crap.
Ive had some very mild swelling starting the last week or so, which I count myself very lucky about. But yesterday I woke up swollen (luckly had a dr appt and he didnt seem worried) and it just got worse. My ankles were HUGE by the time I went to bed and STILL swollen a bit this morning. Not fun. Im drinking as much water as possible (which comes out to about a gallon and a half) so Im not sure what else to do, but the swelling is pretty uncomfortable. Cmon baby! Time to come out I have a sneaky feeling hes not listening.


OOOOOOH!!!! OH and I watched The Happiest Baby on the Block yesterday....anyone heard of it. It was very useful and informative!!

 

[missjenn]

Want - my hubbies car went two weeks ago....we had to go out and get another one too...we end up getting a 2008 ford escape so we have more room with the baby and a 6 year old...but not an expense we needed. I also have bathroom renos being done now (mold issue for frig sakes) and we didnt need that either....but it was originally a one day project and has turned into a 3 day one...so no shower usage for 3 days....at least our neighbors are our best friends and we can use theirs.

Oh MIL stuff....lol...painful! Almost all of my girlfriends bunt heads with their mil and one of them almost had their marriage end because of how bad that mil relationship was!

My dr told me to put breast milk on nipples after feeding too...I thought that would make them crusty but I guess not?

Wow, a 3 hour drive to the hospital, that is crazy! Especially if labor comes on fast! I am glad thay my hospital is 10 minutes from our place. Hopefully contractions dont kick back in again.

The whole castro oil thing even makes me want to vomit thinking about it....yuck!

 

[The Alchemist]

Whittnie - you missed American Horror Story! It was a good ep. Jessica Lang (the main witch) is such a great actress, I swear she acts like a realy witch lol. Oh yeah...I understand about the mil thing. I mean...I lived with my in laws for 3 years before we moved out, which was only this year! How the hell did I take it living there??? THey're good people, but it's the privacy issue and also the cultural clash. They're old school Russian.

Rockin - girl, I dunno how your vagina can take anything in there. My vagina and pelvic hurts to even THINK about sex LOL. but good for you though, it is healthy to have sex. All that semen will help the cervix. My OH said to me, jokingly, that the closest action he gets from me is accidently wiping his face with my towel that I use to wipe my vagina LMAO!!! I about choked up laughing when he said that. Oh yeah...the belly support I got is only used for pp. Doesn't matter if you had section or not. It's to be used pp. And the kellymom site, which I was reading while pregnant with dd, is a VERY informative site about breastfeeding. Really lots of infos to catch on. I gotta re-read it again - I forget. OH YEAH! I have the Happiest baby on the block - great stuff! I used the method on dd and it does work (for mine......i'd like to say not all methods work for ALL babies). I was wonderful. I never needed to go all through 5 steps. My dd slept fine being swaddled and with white noise + the shhhh sound you do to get them to stop crying. He's a great ped.

Missjenn - breastmilk is great for so many things. It doesnt get crusty at all when you put some on your nipples. I used it on my nipples and lanolin over on top because my nipples were sore and red as dd took forever to get a good latch.

ASF - I had a good night of sleep. FINALLY. It wasn't achy getting out or back into bed like usual. Now I am home alone. OH and dd went out together to get his car checked. So we're getting things done with our car too hehe.

Cat - I forgot to mention that yesterday, I woke up to my vulva being red and swollen too and was sooooo sore and itchy and I couldnt walk straight at all because of it. It's all better today. I just wore a dress and no underwear. Air heals the skin there and at night I put some sort of barrier cream (I used my dd's diaper rash cream!) so that urine + sweat wont further irritate it during the night. it is all good now. Hopefuully, yours is too.

 

[whittnie117]

Thanks ladies for the support about MIL. It is really frustrating to have that stress on top of all the stress and worry I have about my little one. It's really hard living here with such limited space. We are in a 1 floor, 1250 square foot house and part of that space is the front bedroom and the baby's room. So, not a lot of shared space to live in. They are usually in the living room watching TV and rarely in their own room, and ALWAYS up in my business everytime I go to the kitchen to make something to eat. So I just usually stay in my room anyhow and try not to come out much. I'm used to being a hermit anyways. We have to stay because we have to pay their mortgage. OH and I talked briefly about moving out when I got pregnant, but we decided that it wouldn't be the best idea for any of us. They would lose their house. The house goes to us once his parents pass. Not a pleasant thought at all, but what we've been told. OH has put a lot of money into this house.

Want- it sucks that you have to get a new car! The one thing I can suggest is to make sure that you'll be able to get baby in and out easy. OMGosh, we had bought a new car a year before we got pregnant and it is SOOOOO low to the ground, it's going to suck big time to get the carseat in and out of it. Hindsight sucks. With that being said, I hope you can find a car easily and quickly that works for you guys!

Rockin- Just like Alchemist, I couldn't imagine having anything inserted into my vagina! Not that I could anyways even if I wanted to. Good for you on the sex. Get as much as you can. Enjoy it =P Out of all the sucky pregnancy issues I've had, swollen ankles is not one. Yet. I have slightly swollen fingers and when I wake up my face and lips are swollen, and both go down a few hours after waking up. But other than that no swolleness. Also, I don't think any of our babies are listening Though, my baby is still in there, so MAYBE!

Missjenn- Sounds hectic too! A new car and a bathroom reno=not fun for you or your checkbook.
I hope my marriage doesn't end because of in laws. I'd be pissed.
I've also heard that breastmilk is good for healing the nipples and to apply it every time after breastfeeding, but I am still breaking out my cream.

Alchemist- Ugh! I am so pissed I missed American Horror Story. I was looking forward to it. And I even thought to myself, "what am I missing?" when thinking of what shows to watch. My in-laws are good people too. It's really just the privacy issue and I don't like talking every time I come out of my room. I get asked questions and I'm like. No talky talky, I just want to be left alone. LOL, like just as I was typing that, she knocked on my door, came in the room and brought me a package, and started remarking about how much more space we have because we moved the desk...Okay, well...thanks for the package, now leave me alone. I'm still mad about last night, lol.

I got a good night's sleep too. How strange that some of us did. I didn't get to sleep until 4 am, but once I did, I slept like a rock and I didn't get up to use the restroom once. I woke up with my bladder hurting, but worth it for the uninterrupted sleep. OH talked to me last night about looking into a different hospital that is about 30 minutes away. He really, really didn't like two of the nurses I had when i went to labor and delivery and he wants to have the option for me to use a bath if I want, which the other hospital has. He also was talking about how much bigger the other rooms are. It's like, why deal with all that added stress? I'm already pre-registered with the one that is less than 5 minutes away from the house. I think he just wants better care for me. Which I appreciate, but it's too much hassle at this point and the other hospital has my records for what they've done for me so far.

 

[whittnie117]

So, the nesting instinct has hit me super hard. I thought I had had it before, but this was different. I HAD To clean, had to throw stuff away. Had to clear off everything. I had to clear out several shelves and drawers for baby's things. I had to box things up and move them out. I had to do all the laundry in the house. I had to get into the newborn diapers and wipes and fill a shelf. And the clear boxes that have all our little stuff in it or our medicine box...Yea, I went through all those again and started tossing stuff. I'm a maniac today. It's even stuff we did last weekend and I went through it again and tossed more. I guess the nesting instinct is good when you have too much stuff and need to get rid of it. Ha! I felt ridiculous.

And before any one says that I need to take it easy...I know, I know, it was just this overpowering urge to do all this. I sat for most of it. Threw stuff on the bed to go through, so I wasn't up and about doing a lot of it. But I am wiped out now. My body can't do any more, lol.

 

[The Alchemist]

Whittnie - I felt that urge last week. Ds's room was a mess with bags of boy clothes that sil brought over, and boxes of toys, and other baby things. It's really an urge you can't control. With my pelvic issues and all, I organized everything + put it all away myself. If I had relied on OH, I'd probably have the baby already. He's the biggest procrastinator EVER. So....yeah. Totally understand you but SHAME on you for tiring yourself! Lol...

Well ladies, please allow me to vent. I've had a thought earlier. Okay well...I don't have many friends at all. I can count 4. One has acareer and 3 kids and works weekends too sometimes, so I can't really include her; we k.i.t. On fb at least. However, it's the other 3 that got me thinking. These 3 I'd met in nursing school. One of three has 2 kids and works. One just got married. And the other is quite young so she's partying it up these days. Alrighty now. I get that everybody has their own life. But you know what? Before I moved out of in laws (fil wouldn't allow friends over), I'd be the one to go see them and hang out. Even would take my dd. I also visited the one with 2 kids, when she was pregnant and then gave birth to that 2nd baby many times. After I moved out, I told them I moved, have my own place + space now so "you guys feel free to come over whenever". I was so excited to finally have my own place and have my friends come over. But none has made a jolt to come over! Nobody bothered to even text me how I am doing in my pregnancy. It's been literally me who has been keeping in touch. Okay sure, they're busy with work and family. But you don't work 7 days! I made my efforts to see them back then. I really feel like I don't have friends at all This sucks. I'll see how they are after I announce the birth of my son. Let's see who would visit, especially the one whom I had visited so many times after during and after her pregnancy. If nobody cares or cherish friendship, I don't even want to speak to them ever again. Is that too much of me to say? Am I overreacting? Please be honest! I mean, I've thought about this even before I got pregnant, sigh....sorry for the rant/complaint/vent. For once, I'd like a friend who cherish the friendship even if life gets busy. It shouldn't be one sided. A simple hi hello text would be nice. Not even.

 

[Nariah01]

Rockin: I guess you and I are the only two having sex these days. lol or at least that's what it sounds like. DH and I dtd last night, as long as we don't do it more than once a day I tend not to get sore.
As for your ankles, I had some swelling and serious pain and soreness in my hips, legs, and back. I couldn't even walk without crying out and needing to stop, it was bad. Anyways, we went to I want to say fredmeyer the other day and I got some bath salts, its made by Dr. Teals I think, you soak 2 cups or that in that bath and soak in it for about 20 minutes. I was a little skeptical but OMG it worked! I felt so good after that soak, in fact I haven't had any soreness since, granted its only been a few days, but I can walk and no swelling! It smells super strong at first but it dies down quickly. If you can take baths I high recommend it!

Alchemist: Don't feel to bad, at least you kind of have friends! I have one friend that lives three hours away that I kind of get to talk to once in a while. Other then that I am friendless. I might have to go out back and start making friends with woodland creatures so I don't go mad being by myself all the time.

Now can any of you ladies give some advice about sleeping at night? I don't get to bed until like 2am because I CAN NOT sleep. And then once I do go to bed I can only sleep for about 2ish hours before I have to get up to roll over because of hip pain. And it goes as such for the entire time I sleep. The pain goes away once I am up and walking/not laying on my side. But at this point with how big my belly is I thought sleeping on my back is pretty much out, but right now that's the only position that isn't painful for longer periods. Any suggestions? I am assuming it has something to do with positioning and the relaxin hormone thing...?

 

[cat123456]

alchemist- your not overreacting i too only hav a very small friend pool and it really angers me that they dont bother with me so much anymore.. big hugs x

nariah- me nd my oh dtd all th time lol iv found a position that doesnt hurt we both o and i end up with period cramps after which im hoping means somethings happening
whit- im really glad ur oh has really taken your care into consideration thats so sweet... and as for sleeping i get the exact same pressure pain it suucks iv had it ages x

afm- I MADE ITTTT!! 37 Weeks today im so excited. i have my consultant appointment today and shes going to do a sweep if she can reach i hope all this sex is doing something!! x

 

[wantb502]

Alchemist: sorry about the friend thing. Even with a huge group of friends I feel left out a lot now that I am pregnant. People don't include me in everything especially if it involves going out and drinking. I am definitely joining a new mammas group once LO arrives so i
can hang with other new moms in the area. Only two friends of our have kids (and we hardly see them)!

Nariah: DTD more than once a day?!? DH is lucky if he gets it once every two weeks! As for sleep, my dad gave me his sleep wedge pillow for heartburn. It is glorious! I don't really need it for heartburn but it has saved me many sleepless nights. When my hip hurts, I prop 2-3 pillow up on the wedge and practically sleep sitting up. It actually is very comfortable and helps relieve the pain. I highly recommend it.

DH and I did some serious house work the last couple of days. Redid the iron railings outside on the porch, mulched, steam cleaned the carpets, rearranged the furniture in the living room, sewed curtains for the man cave, and redid broken screens...amount other stuff. It is great to knock all this stuff off the list! I am exhausted though... Luckily I've still been napping

 

[Rockinmomtobe]

Cat- Congrats on 37 weeks!!! It feels good doesnt it. Oooh glad youre getting to DTD as well, also nice

Whitt- yes yes, nesting, nesting, but STILL!!!!! Just TRY and take it easy. Youre makin me nervous! But at least you got some stuff taken care of and I know exactly what you mean, I was in super nesting mode last weekend and after I was done I was so sore. My body hated me.

Nariah- thanks for the tips on swelling. Im not overly concerned because I dont have any other symptoms of something being wrong. I just found it super strange that Ive had almost NO swelling and then BAM since Tuesday my ankles have just blown up. No face or hand swelling though so hopefully Im in the clear Im also having trouble sleeping. Ive started putting my body pillow under my hips and bump. That seems to be helping me, but I had to try a bunch of different positions until I found one that was comfy. I dont have hip pain, but I have muscle pain from the car accident still.

Alchemist- Im sorry your friends are being like that. Im such a hermit. Ive become SO anti-social since I got pregnant and now that Im at the end, I just want everyone to leave me alone. I dont feel like hosting anyone, I dont feel like going anywhere (working is all i can handle). But Im sure its hard to want people around and not have that option We cant come visit, but we're always here


Ive never heard of breast milk on the nipples, but Im going to try it. Nothing new going on here, just...bored and super glad its Friday. Im exhausted

 

[luna_19]

I only started getting swollen ankles about a week ago.
Omg I would be totally up for some sex but my hubby hasn't been interested in a while I convinced him to when I was maybe around 30 weeks but realized it was too exhausting doing all the work so have just left it up to him which means nothing. Oh well

 

[whittnie117]

Cat congrats on 37 weeks. You too luna! So many ladies reaching term! Won't be long now. Let us know how the appointment went.

Alchemist- I have one friend left. But even she hasn't made an effort to contact me. I feel so lonely with out friends. It's funny too (not funny haha), that I was involved in a huge thing with about 40 people who all claimed to be my friend and right when I got pregnant and had to quit the production, no one has even ever said hi to me. How sad.

Nariah- I've been having trouble sleeping too. Only three hours last night and I didn't get to sleep until 4 am. I had one good night yesterday. Oh well, seems as it has passed. At least it's preparing us for what is to come, right?

My OH is totally turned off by pregnancy, lol. Even if I could, he wouldn't. Now that I can't, at least he gets left alone about it now, lol.

I'm taking it easy today. I am totally wiped out.

 

[cat123456]

hello ladies update on my situation all great news there had a sweep 1-2 cms dilated startd thinning medium position and soft 4/5 engaged she gave me a bishops score of 5!! i also got induction date of next thurs. she said she could feel the bag of waters around babys head how dilated do u have to be to just have your waters popped? xx

 

[whittnie117]

I think it depends Cat. I've read women getting their waters popped when not that dilated and seen it at 9 cm...So I think it's situational. It's good she can feel them. It means they might bulge and pop on their own soon. I am happy to hear things are progressing. Keep up doing what you've been doing to ripen that cervix. What is a bishop's score? I have never heard of it.

As for me-Sigh...I over did myself yesterday. Just went to the restroom and I had more mucusy (clear) discharge mixed with almost brown blood. It's good that it is not red, or pink, but still. Sigh worthy. I thought I could have one day of doing things, but I guess not. I'll take it easy from now on. I promise. I'm annoyed at myself and my body.

 

[cat123456]

bishops score is when they add up everything eg effacement dilation station etc and they score you to see how favourable etc you are for induction xx

 

[whittnie117]

bishops score is when they add up everything eg effacement dilation station etc and they score you to see how favourable etc you are for induction xx

Oh! That's probably why I haven't heard of it. No induction for me, probably, considering my situation, lol.
Hopefully you progress quickly, then hopefully you caan get your migraines taken care of.

 

[Nariah01]

Man It sucks that some of you aren't still havin at least alittle bed room fun! My DH for some reason thinks pregnancy is sexy...
Which kind of worries me, we were only planning on one maybe two kids, now me thinks hes gonna try knocking me up every chance he gets. lol

Want: It very rarely happens more then once a day, usually its four-ish times a week, sometimes everyday if I feel up to it. And then there are those random days where I feel like I need to jump his bones several times. I don't know where it comes from, never had it happen before, and then usually I regret it later when I am sore and hurting. Sigh, I just can't win.

I will try a couple more pillows and sleep positions, last night was the first night in a while where I was able to sleep fairly well.

I gots another question though for you guys. I have to find a new midwife/OBGYN and a new hospital to deliver at since I have moved, and my plan was to pick a hospital that I liked for delivery and then choose a provider from a list of those that will deliver there, does that sound right? Or do you guys think I should pick a new provider first and then just be ok with wherever they deliver at? I am kind of stumped, a little worried because its so close to my due date.

 

[cat123456]

nariah- me and oh hav an amazing sex life do it 2-3 times a day 4-5 times a week we use toys etc now aswell its been great lol x

 

[whittnie117]

I would look up a physician, then go to the hospital's website that you want to deliver at and see if they have permissions. If they do, call them and ask if they actually deliver at the hospital you want. Just because they have permissions there, doesn't mean that is their hospital of choice. Most hospital websites show what doctors have permissions. Alternatively, there are websites that will show a doctor's rating and what hospitals they have permissions at. I know you have to choose quickly, but it shouldn't take more than an afternoon to do that research.

I chose my doctor first and made sure she had permissions at the hospital I wanted to go to before ever calling her.

Edit: And the reason I'd look at the hospital first is that if you choose a doctor that is in a group, most likely you will not have your doctor deliver you. I found that out the hard way. If I ever get pregnant again, I'm totally finding a different doctor that is private practice or only has one other person working with them rather than a group. I've seen three different doctors because it's who ever is on call from the group gets you. That way, at least you have a hospital you trust to go to. One that has a good nicu unit and has a good reputation for labor and delivery (ratings are online usually).