November 2013 Babies!

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whittnie117 said:
I would look up a physician, then go to the hospital's website that you want to deliver at and see if they have permissions. If they do, call them and ask if they actually deliver at the hospital you want. Just because they have permissions there, doesn't mean that is their hospital of choice. Most hospital websites show what doctors have permissions. Alternatively, there are websites that will show a doctor's rating and what hospitals they have permissions at. I know you have to choose quickly, but it shouldn't take more than an afternoon to do that research.

I chose my doctor first and made sure she had permissions at the hospital I wanted to go to before ever calling her.

Edit: And the reason I'd look at the hospital first is that if you choose a doctor that is in a group, most likely you will not have your doctor deliver you. I found that out the hard way. If I ever get pregnant again, I'm totally finding a different doctor that is private practice or only has one other person working with them rather than a group. I've seen three different doctors because it's who ever is on call from the group gets you. That way, at least you have a hospital you trust to go to. One that has a good nicu unit and has a good reputation for labor and delivery (ratings are online usually).
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Some good points! That helps a lot thank you.
 
Hi ladies. Quick question. The swelling in my feet and ankles isn't getting any better. Without any other risk factors (protein in urine, high BP) do you think the dr would suggest bed rest? I'm due in about 17 days but I can't really afford to not work as long as possible. Physically I feel fine but the swelling is terrible. I'm now waking up swollen. Ugh I don't know what to think. But OH didn't help much this morning when he told me we can't do without my paycheck the next two weeks.

I asked him what the difference was between not working from bed rest or not working from the baby coming and he said 'we can't help if the baby comes' .....I can't help bed rest either. He doesn't see it like that. We had a small disagreement about it but I'd like everyone's opinion because my next appt is Tuesday night and after working all day my feet are going to be as big as houses do I'm concerned about what he'll say. Thanks!
 
Swelling at this point is really normal. My ankles are pretty swollen after my 4 hour shifts and are always at least a little swollen now.
 
I have a little more than 2 weeks to get to your point. As far as I know, swelling is really normal and there isn't much you can do about it besides putting your feet up and wearing those pregnancy compression tights/stalkings. Unfortunately, it's just another one of those lovely side effects of pregnancy. My doctor told me that if it weren't for the chubby little baby at the end of all of this, no one would ever subject themselves to pregnancy :haha: I hope you can get some relief. Also, your OH has the wrong idea. If you DO need bed rest, you need bed rest. Nothing you can do about it and he shouldn't be pressuring you to keep working if it is really taking a toll on you. Right now it should be about getting your body ready for impending labor and taking care of yourself. You're going to need your strength after the baby arrives. That's just my opinion. Thankfully, I wasn't working when I got pregnant, so we already got used to a limited income. Now that I can't do barely anything, my OH is very understanding and does just about everything for us.
 
Alchemist - I forgot to respond to one of your posts that I meant too. Someone once gave me some pretty good advice...you don't know who your true friends are until you are getting married, are pregnant or have kids! And this is so bang on!

Sex 2-3 times a day....omg...even in new relationships it's like once a day...wow...that is nuts and definitely not happening here, ha!

Rockin - hmmmmm.....my husband is all about how I am feeling and not about the money situation...their role during this 10 month journey is to support, help us be comfortable and make sure we are doing okay emotionally. This is the most important time in your life so if you are swelling that badly I would say bed rest it up! When the baby arrives you will not have the chance and you really need to take care of yourself now!

2 cm dilated after the sweep? That's great, if I don't go into labor by Monday night then I am having a membrane sweep done Tuesday morning. Is it painful?
 
Rockin: i would definitely talk definitely talk to your doctor to see what they suggest. I bet your hubby is very worried about the finances. Its understandable (though not right) because he's probably most worried about not being able to support the three of you. Men are much different when it comes to pregnancy, they are not experiencing it first hand and this is what they may choose to focus on. Sorry your swelling is so bad:(

I did absolutely NOTHING today. We woke up, showered, went to brunch, came home and I napped for 2 hours and then met some friends for dinner and drinks! I expended 0 calories today! It was great! Tomorrow, I need to walk!
 
Thanks everyone for the positive encouragements and comments about my friends - or lack thereof. This past Thursday and Friday was reserved as a maybe-hangout day/night with the friend who has kids+work. I had told her a few days ago to let me know if she has time to see me/go for dinner/hang out a bit. She never called, facebooked, or text me at all. Then I see on my newsfeed that she had gone out for drinks with her coworker buddy on Friday, must've been her friend's bday. I am so sad.....but it seems you ladies are right, your friends disappear on you after you either get married, pregnant, have kids. I just thought this one with kids would understand as I was her only friend who visited her a lot. Sigh...oh well...

@Rockin - for the swelling, since it seems like a normal occurence around this time, and you can't get off work because of the swelling, I'd invest in the support stockings. They have those at drugstores. Also, adding epsom salt in the bath helps with swelling also. Sorry you're having it. The joys of pregnancy, ugh...

ASF - I have been a busy bee this weekend. Well, today. Yesterday, I slept all morning. Then just became a couch potato all afternoon. But after putting lo to sleep, I started exercising. Oh! I also went to see a chiropractor. She did the webster technique on me - boy, it was a loud crack. Plus, got a pregnancy massage. So Friday was a very relaxing, me-time day. OH watched dd all day. Then after dd slept, he and I watched Pacific Rim, great sci-fi movie! ----- And then today, dd woke me up earlier than usual. I started my morning off cleaning the kitchen floor and then went off to scrub the toilet and then sink. OH slept in, it was his work night and he had a bad night - he'd been having diahrrea so that drained him. Made him drink coconut water to rehydrate. He's all well. So...so far, it's been two great days. Since seeing the chiro, I haven't had bad pelvic pain.

I still feel baby boy is breech. A warm hard lump to the right of my navel and many kicks around my groin area. My next appointment is on Nov the 1st, I'll be 36 weeks and if baby isn't heads down, I'm gonna agree to allow OB to do the ECV. In the meantime, I will be doing exercises to help him turn.
 
alchemist- im glad your feeling a bit better!! wish i could afford a massage x

afm- i think iv caught the nesting bug! i spruced th whooole house yesterday and aching like anything today! im trying to fill my days again until thurs and i know when i ring they will say no beds so im gunna make a stand by plan for thurs. i hate this hospital lol x
 
Alchemist-Glad you're feeling better. Sounds like since you're feeling better you got to do some things.

Cat-Thursday, you'd be induced right? Sounds like your body knows the baby is going to be here soon.

Want-Isn't it so great to take a day off and do nothing? Nothing seems like work to me now, lol.

I made the mistake of eating jalepeno chips tonight. Its one of my favorites, but oh the heartburn. Dumb decision.
 
Whittnie - I need a jalapeno chips-eating partner! I love those, better the kettle chips. I like the sea salt and crushed peppers too. I wish I had some but only have mini cheesecake so I devoured that an hour ago...and then realized I was eating too late at night and close to bed time...so now I'm sitting in bed burping and waiting fir it to digest.

Not sure what I have planned for Sunday. Probably will be lazy. But I do want to go costume shopping with +for dd. I'll see how I will feel once I wake up Sunday morning. Oh yeah....I found out a grocery store here has delivery. Think I'm going take advantage of that method while I'm home and the month after I have baby. It'll be my personally choice to stay in for a month. Usually, women in my culture customarily stay in for like 3 months I think? I'm not sure. But I'm not old school though lol.
 
It was wondeful doing nothing! I sure am going I miss it when I have to go back to work tomorrow! I slept 10 hours last night.... I like this whole not workig thing;)

Today I have to get moving... I need to do laundry and I think we are going pumpkin picking. May even get some bump pictures taken by our friend at the pumpkin patch. My cousin was going to do it around my baby shower, but her flight was cancelled. Hopefully these will turn out good.
 
Oh how fun want! I keep forgetting Halloween is so soon. My focus had been elsewhere. I usually carve a pumpkin for fun. Enjoy your day. I hope your pictures turn out well.

Alchemist- My favorite jalapeno chips are the Kettle Brand ones. Sooooo good. Every bag is different though, some are sweeter, some are spicier, some are thicker, some are thinner. It is all very odd, but I love them anyhow. Cheesecake sounds good, but I have been all over pumpkin pie. OMG! I love pumpkin pie so much.

Costume shopping should be fun. I can't wait to dress my little boy in a costume next year. I have no doubts that my OH will try to make him dress as Tigger every year. He loves tigger, but I have my eye on a monkey costume that I'll buy when stuff goes on sale.

As for staying home. I'll be staying home for 6 weeks, minus Christmas day. I made everyone get their whooping cough and flu shots already and the stragglers will get them on the 28th.

Today is going to be another lazy day for me as well. I still am passing mucusy brown discharge (TMI sorry) and I want it to stop. OH is having his best friend come over and help him move all the 'keep' stuff to our storage and bringing all the 'sell' stuff from storage to the house so we can do a garage sale. He is so weird when he is around his best friend. THey've been friends since they were just little kids and both are in their 40s now. They still act like kids together. So I will be dealing with that all evening I guess.
 
Ohh pumpkin pie sounds good! Now I may have to get some!
 
Oh lord! How could I forget?! I love me some pumpkin pie too! AND sweet potato pie. I think I may need to go and get me one too. I could make one but I don't think I'll have the patience. Would rather just buy, take home, and devour it. Mmmm....Whittnie, you done it to me again! First the chips. Now the pie!

So asf, I didn't end up going ANYwhere today. OH came home from work, took his scrubs off, and drive dd to his parents. I had woken up with awful pubic pain and my upper inner thighs hurt. Dammit, what am I I gonna do once I'm at term?

Anyway, so I've been trying to read up on csection and pp care. I've been focusing on natural/vaginal birth but never gave csection a chance. I thought since it is looking like I may be heading that route, I need to. I was thinking too...that maybe how your placenta is and the alignment of the pelvis makes a difference and affects position of the baby. I noticed my boy is not just breech. He changes from breech to breech oblique or transverse and is posterior all this time. I'm doing all I can to assist him though. But I've come to accept that if a section is going to happen, then it'll happen. Can't always have what you want,, right?
 
It's hard to find pumpkin pies at the stores right now. The ones they have are disgusting. I like Sara Lee's though and they make sweet potato pie. I found them both at a super walmart for 3 dollars a piece. Yummy and cheap. I am so sorry to make you want the good foods! That is what this pregnancy has basically revolved around, food. Most of my emotional outbursts are because of food :haha:

I am sorry that you woke up in pain again. Ugh, pelvic pain sucks bad. As for the c-section I have looked up the options as well. I keep fearing that he is going to go transverse again right before labor or something. But I also know that I will not be given pitocin. If my water breaks and the risk of infection is too great, then I will opt for a c-section before they administer pitocin. I will have them do a membrane sweep, prostaglandin gels, or more natural induction methods first before I opt for the c-section though. I just do not believe in pitocin use. That is just my thing.

It also sounds like you need to visit the chiropractor a few times. Do you get covered for it on your insurance? I'd use whatever you could in that case. Maybe twice a week or something. It could give you relief for a day or two and as you get more adjustments it could help with everything. I heard that chiropractic care is good for labor induction and helping baby get ready too? I don't know how true that is tough.
 
mmmm....pumpkin pie!!!!!!!!!

Want - I WOULD DO ANYTHING TO BE ABLE TO SLEEP FOR 10 HOURS....EVEN 8...OR 6!
 
haha now everyone wants pumpkin pie, that's too funny. I had that bug two weeks ago, since then I have at least half a pie in my fridge at all times for emergency use! :haha:

I got about ten-ish hours of sleep last night, or I should say this morning since I didn't go to bed until like 2am. Then I didn't wake up until about 12, it was sad, I don't think I have slept in that late for a long time. :blush:

But then after that, I did about half the laundry, washed some dishes, went with DH to pick up a load of hay for the horses, went to the feed store and bought fencing, and then did some grocery shopping. And then tomorrow I am going to finish the laundry, go see the horses at the barn, make some bread, and try to finish some of the unpacking from when we moved. I got so frustrated today at the feed store and with the hay because I am used to being able to help but I can't. My DH won't even let me bend over to pick certain things up because hes worried about me hurting myself.

And we are also going to look at tractors tomorrow too! And hopefully I will finally find a frickin' doctor to delivery this little man. And maybe pick up some ducks.....
 
Whittnie - unfortunately, nope. My insurance doesn't cover chiro care so I paid out of pocket, 50 bucks/session. I already made another appointment for next Saturday. But dunno if I will go because of the money. I may just save the chiro care until after baby is born. Idk....we'll see....I've already mentally accepted that if it ends as a section, then so be it. Afterall,, it's baby I want and need to be out lol. Ugh....can't wait to hold my boy. I can't wait for that bond from breastfeeding. Hopefully, this time around, I won't get baby blues.

So OH is looking into an exercise bike for me i told him i want one and that can be early xmas/bday gift. I have cardio plans in mind. Plus, he says he can use it too...he's gained 20 lb during my pregnancy (lol). I also want a juicer, I wanna get into juicing for health but....that's $ we can't spend on.

Let's see...i think I well go to Ross or Marshalls tomorrow to buy newborn onesies. I have NONE at all and I need some for winter. So...things to do tomorrow. Maybe even take dd to the park. If I'm not too sore.
 
Nariah- It sounds like you have been really busy and will continue to be busy. Don't forget to put your feet up sometime. I found it funny that you were going to pick up ducks...like that was a casual statement.

Alchemist- That sucks that you can't go to the chiropractor due to money. I am in the same exact boat. I owe 80 right now, and it's 40 a session. If I had the 80 I'd do it. Oh well. Also, if you can't find anything at Ross check walmart...Sometimes in the clearance rack section they'll have a couple onsie sets on sale. Otherwise they have this
https://www.walmart.com/ip/Gerber-Newborn-Baby-4-Pack-Short-Sleeve-Onesies/19514127
Not the best price, but since we need them soon, it'll do.
And target has 5 packs for 9.99
I'll keep an eye out tomorrow when I go deal shopping. I do that every morning (afternoon).

Baby boy has been making some really painful and uncomfortable movements today. It's...not nice.
 
Hi all,

Alchemist - I feel for you with the friends situation. I think unfortunately that some people don't want to give and take in a friendship. So they will take your support and help when they need it but can't seem to give any back when you need it.
I have just fallen out with one if my best friends for the same reason. We have spent 6 years now helping with their kids, taking them out places, babysitting etc and doing everything on their schedule. Now we have a toddler and a baby on the way they have basically ditched us as we can't be as flexible and they have no interest in the pregnancy etc.
you do learn who your friends are when you have kids!
I think we need to accept that if they can't be supportive when we need it them we're better off without them!

Whit - please take it easy. I know it must be hard as there is so much to do, but as long as baby has somewhere to sleep nothing else really matters. Xx

Missjenn - so you could be getting a sweep tomorrow!! Eek!! So exciting!!

Rockin - I wouldn't be too worried about the swelling. I had it really bad with DD and I had high blood pressure but it was fine. I think at this stage of pregnancy most people will get some swelling as there is just so much pressure on your body. Just try and sit with your feet elevated in the evenings etc.

Afm - 38 weeks today! Yikes!
It's my daughters 2nd birthday tomorrow!! I can hardly believe it.
We had a party for her yesterday so I was on my feet all weekend preparing for that. It went really well and she had a lot of fun. But I am exhausted now! Lol!

Is everyone on here on Facebook?
I was thinking if we all were we could maybe set up a private group on there which we all join. As it might be easier to share pictures of the babies etc after they are born.

I hope you ladies all had a good weekend. I can't believe we are all getting so close to our due dates!!
 
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