OH feels like a spare part :(

[kazer395]

i dont know how to change this!

our LO falls asleep in my arms, stops crying when i pick him up, lets me feed him every time without any hassle or crying... ect.
he doesnt do anything for my OH without crying, so hes having to wake me up when ever our LO needs something and he hates it!

im so happy that he wants to be able to do more. but i can see that hes really hurt. is there any ways hat i can help them bond?

 

[xcharx]

My LO use to be exactly the same!! I think they get more use to their daddy over time x

 

[Belle25]

You could have your OH do the bath times with your LO? So he has got his thing he does for baby?

My OH thought the same sort of thing would happen with our lo, but he does lots of talking to her and pulling funny faces, even when I am holding her.

Your lo is still so young, its perfectly normal hun

xx

 

[kazer395]

he gave LO his first bath the other day but LO kept screaming so he paniced and asked me to take over. but that wasnt because it was OH doing it, that was because LO didnt know what was going on, he smells all lovely now though lol
i will get him to try again with the next, that is a good idea.

 

[kaths101]

yeah its normal and its really only about 3 months my LO interacted and enjoyed cuddles with his daddy.. Give it time and just try and include your OH as much as you can. Even now my LO will only really settle for me when hes having a real meltdown!

Its difficult as when LO cries I automatically want to take baby out of his arms I think its in our nature so I started to just leave him with daddy and walk out and do the washing up or something so I couldnt hear him crying and so daddy got to hold him and try and calm him.

 

[Belle25]

he gave LO his first bath the other day but LO kept screaming so he paniced and asked me to take over. but that wasnt because it was OH doing it, that was because LO didnt know what was going on, he smells all lovely now though lol
i will get him to try again with the next, that is a good idea.

Aww bless. My little girl screamed with her first few baths, they are a bit freaked out by it sometimes. Now at 6 weeks old she is beging to get used to them and enjoy them, so hang on in there as they actually become good fun for all of you!
xx

 

[humphreysbaby]

Evelyn is the same with me and my oh because im her sole carer so she sees me all the time where as only gets to see daddy when hes back from work and a weekend. i just tried to get oh involved as much as poss, nappies feeding and bath time and within no time he was able to settle her straight away. dont forget they get to know your smell, touch, tone of voice in the womb so their more than likley to settle for mum easier xx

 

[LannieDuck]

I think the more he can do, the more comfortable LO will become with him.

My OH takes LO for a couple of hours in the morning so I can have a bit of a sleep. It means that he's become used to having responsibility for her by himself, and LO is totally used to it.

I think I would give him responsibility for bath times, and let him hold her as much as poss - while you're watching TV for example. LO will quickly become used to him

 

[Jennifaerie]

My dh was the same but now I get him to do bath, massage and bed, plus he'll often have Daddy daughter time in the evening/ weekends. She just has to get to know him x

 

[3011busyyear]

how about wearing one of OH's tshirts over your clothes so he gets used to his smells too.

 

[chezziepie]

you lo won't have got used to OH yet or baths hehehe but my OH did bath time and then that bottle everynight and it worked a treat after 3 or 4 times and LO realised what a bath was