OH is finally gone for good I think

[Aimee4311]

I'm sorry you're going through this. As everyone else has said, you don't deserve treatment like that and he doesn't deserve you! Stay strong! I know it's tough!

 

[HappilyaMrs]

Wow. So glad that u got out of that. He doesn't deserve u. Any guy who thinks he "can get better" needs a serious reality check. I don't know why guys do that. They think the grass is greener on the other side and then end up grieving the loss of the family they weren't grateful for. My sisters friend was a happily married girl with 2 kids and then one day her husband just told her he wasn't feeling being married anymore and told her to leave.... I guess he had recently got in touch with some girl he had a crush on in high school. He said that wasn't it but really? Come on...

 

[NoodleSnack]

Just keep thinking about his behaviour when you start to feel sorry for him. He showed no respect for you as a person and as his child's mother to be treating you this way. You only deserve what you accept, don't accept verbal or physical abuse from anyone, but especially from someone who's supposed to be your partner in life, who's supposed to protect you and your children from this kind of behaviour. And there's nothing for you to feel ashamed about if you choose to be open about this in your life, lots of people have to deal with this issue.

 

[pinklightbulb]

He sounds awful

 

[sethsmummy]

oh my gosh hun im so glad you have got out of that. Please do not take him back under any circumstances!! You did NOTHING to deserve what he has been doing to you!! And the fact that he hit lo with the toy also and didnt even bat an eyelid raises serious alarm bells with me.
Any man who raises his hand to a woman unprovoked is a piece of scum. And anyone who can hurt a baby/child is scum. You don't need someone like that in yours and little ones lifes. Seems like he wasn't happy he didn't get a reaction from you.

Stay strong for you and your little one. You will find someone who will treat you like the princess that you are! And that will love your little one and never harm them. One day that idiot will come to his senses and realize what the hell he has lost. If it were me i would be getting a police order out against him so he can't come anywhere near you or l/o at the moment till he gets himself sorted out. And then only would i be letting him see bubs in a contact center

 

[ilysilly]

Ugh. Disgusting... sounds like my OH hun. You are SO strong to end it. Never look back! I'm still trying to find that strength. Good luck hun!

 

[baby287]

Well he already regrets what he's done. Of course. He doesn't remember all that happened that night so I reminded him and he cried. I told him he needs to find a place to live and go to therapy on his own. He has promised to stop drinking completely and not go out again. I told him that's up to him to show me that he can, I refuse to believe it til he shows it's true. I'm done being treated like this. He needs to figure out his issues and fix himself.
I'm so disappointed in him, he CAN BE such a great father but he's ruining everything. I just want him to get help with his issues. He has a twin brother that was extremely cruel and bullied him while they were younger. He was always beaten up and made to feel so unwanted and bad about himself (I used to cry when he would tell me stories of his past) and of course that is no excuse whatsoever, it's just a reason why he puts others down to make himself feel better. He is very sensitive and I think has such low self esteem. He simply needs help.
Thank you all for your support I so appreciate it

 

[preggymammy]

I hope he gets the help that he needs and that you both can be happy one day. In the mean time, focus on doing what's best for you and your LO

 

[sethsmummy]

Im glad youv told him he needs to find somwhere else to live and that he needs help. I hope for his sake and your little ones that he does get the help and sorts himself out well done you for being strong enough

 

[Aimee4311]

It sounds like he's needed some help for a long time. Hopefully this will be the event that finally wakes him up so he can get help!

 

[NoodleSnack]

Well he already regrets what he's done. Of course. He doesn't remember all that happened that night so I reminded him and he cried. I told him he needs to find a place to live and go to therapy on his own. He has promised to stop drinking completely and not go out again. I told him that's up to him to show me that he can, I refuse to believe it til he shows it's true. I'm done being treated like this. He needs to figure out his issues and fix himself.
I'm so disappointed in him, he CAN BE such a great father but he's ruining everything. I just want him to get help with his issues. He has a twin brother that was extremely cruel and bullied him while they were younger. He was always beaten up and made to feel so unwanted and bad about himself (I used to cry when he would tell me stories of his past) and of course that is no excuse whatsoever, it's just a reason why he puts others down to make himself feel better. He is very sensitive and I think has such low self esteem. He simply needs help.
Thank you all for your support I so appreciate it

Whatever his background, you still need to put yourself and your child first, don't be tempted to go back to him too soon out of sympathy, it will just create a pattern. Most abusive people have something dark in their past. I think you should make a lost of things in term of behaviour that he has to meet before considering forgiving him, say sober for at least six month, see the kid so and so many times in the week, work full time, get a place etc. I don't know if this is the first time he does this, if it isn't, you need to limit the number of chances you give him, otherwise you're just wasting your life waiting for someone who's never going to change, just simmering down until the next explosion.