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[Justme43]

Okay ladies, as you know in my earlier posts that I lost my angel the end of August and I am almost 3 weeks post D&C and no AF yet.

On doctors orders, I was waiting until after my first AF before trying again. Well, while we've been careful, we were not using protection . So let's just say that things got out of hand last night and you know........

I think it is too early for anything to happen, but I've heard how fertile you are right after a miscarriage, before AF. So I am a little nervous.

Soooo my question to you is aside from being able to better date a pregnancy, are there any medical reasons why a woman should wait until after AF before trying again?

I see my doc next week for my post examination and I do not want to tell her what happened (Gosh I feel like a teenager).

 

[dinky]

I too had a d&c 3 weeks ago tomorrow. I'm ttc again straight away I think it's just for dating purposes they tell you to wait a cycle. I'm currently waiting to ovulate, I've been getting ewcm for 4 days now but I'm still getting bfps so not sure if I will yet or not. Sorry for your loss

 

[Justme43]

Hi Dinky, it looks like we're on the same schedule. It will be exactly 3 weeks for me tomorrow as well. It's been a rollercoaster of emotions, but I am finally feeling better.

I am so sorry for your loss as well.

I haven't been doing any of the testing so I have absolutely no idea where I am at or what my body is doing other than no AF. I just downloaded an app that will help me start tracking. I see how helpful it is to track all the other stuff, so I will start.

I hope we both continue to heal both emotionally and physically. Baby dust to you. Keep me posted on your progress.

And thanks for responding to my post.

 

[ILoveme29]

Around the same as you was in the same situation but AF showed up anyway , so now its off to October.

I know theres really no reason except for dating purposes, there are woman who got pregnant right away and had healthy pregnancies.

 

[Justme43]

Hi ILoveme29.

Getting pregnant with a healthy baby is music to my ears. We can only hope.

I'm sorry AF showed up for you. We are almost through September, so October will brings more opportunities (fingers crossed).

Baby dust to you..... Hang in there.

 

[fairycat]

The only medical reason they give for telling you to wait is that the uterine lining needs time to thicken up again to have the egg implant and be able to stay there. My doc also told me it gives the "leftovers" a chance to clear out. There are women who go on to have healthy pregnancies, they are women who go on to miscarry, and there are women who won't be able to conceive. It really depends on the person.

 

[Justme43]

Thank you fairycat. I will stay prayed up and hope for the best. From what I've experienced the last few months I know so much is out of our control. So I will remain hopeful and try to follow my doc's instructions more closely ;-).

Thanks for your feedback.

 

[fairycat]

Thank you fairycat. I will stay prayed up and hope for the best. From what I've experienced the last few months I know so much is out of our control. So I will remain hopeful and try to follow my doc's instructions more closely ;-).

Thanks for your feedback.

No problem. I hope if you do end up getting pregnant this month, that everything goes off without a hitch Definitely do tell your doctor, don't be afraid to. I'm sure they have heard and seen it all! No judgment, it's life.

 

[Justme43]

Thank you..

 

[dinky]

Hi Dinky, it looks like we're on the same schedule. It will be exactly 3 weeks for me tomorrow as well. It's been a rollercoaster of emotions, but I am finally feeling better.

I am so sorry for your loss as well.

I haven't been doing any of the testing so I have absolutely no idea where I am at or what my body is doing other than no AF. I just downloaded an app that will help me start tracking. I see how helpful it is to track all the other stuff, so I will start.

I hope we both continue to heal both emotionally and physically. Baby dust to you. Keep me posted on your progress.

And thanks for responding to my post.

It would be nice to have a ttc buddy the next big thing to happen for me is sore bbs lol because it means I ovulate! They always get sore from o to af so I'm hoping they will get sore in the next few days! I don't temp or anything I just watch my body for symptoms. My pregnancy was very much unplanned we were actually preventing as we already have 2 girls and I didn't want anymore but now I've been pregnant I want another! I just feel like I'm supposed to have 3 children and I'm supposed to be going through pregnancy now! My pregnancy stopped developing at 7+3 weeks x

 

[Justme43]

It would be nice to have a ttc buddy the next big thing to happen for me is sore bbs lol because it means I ovulate! They always get sore from o to af so I'm hoping they will get sore in the next few days! I don't temp or anything I just watch my body for symptoms. My pregnancy was very much unplanned we were actually preventing as we already have 2 girls and I didn't want anymore but now I've been pregnant I want another! I just feel like I'm supposed to have 3 children and I'm supposed to be going through pregnancy now! My pregnancy stopped developing at 7+3 weeks x

Hey Dinky, I am praying for your 3rd baby. I know what's it like to want a child now that you've been pregnant. I feel the same way, but this will be my first. It is just what I need to complete my life.

Baby dust to all of us.

 

[fairycat]

I have the exact same feelings as you Justme... didn't realize I'd feel incomplete after this. This will be my frist too.

 

[ILoveme29]

Hi ILoveme29.

Getting pregnant with a healthy baby is music to my ears. We can only hope.

I'm sorry AF showed up for you. We are almost through September, so October will brings more opportunities (fingers crossed).

Baby dust to you..... Hang in there.

Thank you much I decided I will do iui and Femara to increase my chances so fx and thank you

 

[dinky]

Awww I hope you both get your sticky beans soon! We should keep each other updated are you counting your d&c as cd 1? I am so now I'm on cd21, I've had more ewcm tonight so I think my body might be gearing up although I have pcos and endometriosis so it's not easy for me to conceive. I don't know if you can ovulate with hcg in your body either as my hpt is still positive! Do you have any kind of symptoms ? X

 

[Justme43]

I have the exact same feelings as you Justme... didn't realize I'd feel incomplete after this. This will be my frist too.

- It almost seem so cruel. Not to say that a miscarriage for anyone is easier. But I went the most of my life content with the fact that I could not have children and then I get pregnant - all to have it end like this.

Wow, getting emotional again. It is AMAZING how women you do not know can have so much in common. It's really sad, but I am so happy to have found this site to know that I am not alone and believe it.

Praying for you honey...

 

[Justme43]

Awww I hope you both get your sticky beans soon! We should keep each other updated are you counting your d&c as cd 1? I am so now I'm on cd21, I've had more ewcm tonight so I think my body might be gearing up although I have pcos and endometriosis so it's not easy for me to conceive. I don't know if you can ovulate with hcg in your body either as my hpt is still positive! Do you have any kind of symptoms ? X

Thank Dinky -

I've been walking a lot to stay in shape and keep my mind clear and I've notices a lot of pressure in my lower abs which is what happens prior to my cycle. I usually discharge (sorry tmi) a lot prior to my cycle - so I think it is on its way.

Friday will be three weeks after the D&C so I think my AF will be here next week if it follows the pattern prior to my pregnancy.

It is really hard to be specific as I do not test or chart. I simply listen to my body.

 

[dinky]

The same as me I do not temp or anything either I just go by cm and boob pain! My cycles have changed over the last year or so I never used to get boob pain like I do now it's since I came off the pill it's strange. 3 weeks for me tomorrow as well if I think I'm about to ovulate then I'm guessing my af will be here in about 2 weeks. My cycles ranged from 28-35 days before my mc and if I am ovulating now at cd21 then that's quite normal for me if I'm having a longer cycle. I know af normally shows up after I've had boob pain approx 12 days. Sorry I keep mentioning boobs lol its all I have to go on! X

 

[Justme43]

Lol - I understand the boob thang too. It sounds like AF is on the way for you too.

 

[fairycat]

I have the exact same feelings as you Justme... didn't realize I'd feel incomplete after this. This will be my frist too.

- It almost seem so cruel. Not to say that a miscarriage for anyone is easier. But I went the most of my life content with the fact that I could not have children and then I get pregnant - all to have it end like this.

Wow, getting emotional again. It is AMAZING how women you do not know can have so much in common. It's really sad, but I am so happy to have found this site to know that I am not alone and believe it.

Praying for you honey...

Wow, what a story. That would be so hard, my prayers are with you too. I'm glad to have found this site as well - I'd go completely nuts without other women to talk to.

 

[ILoveme29]

@Justme I feel the same. Nobody understands unless your going through the same thing. Nobody understands how you feel its brushed off. then when I come to this forum its amazing the closure you can get. I really appreciate each one who reaches out and pray we all are able to get our rainbow babies