OH really pissed me off!

[FsMummy]

well i think we have a few crossed wires with regard to breastfeeding. ive told him that i intend to pump and i think he assumed i was going to exclusively pump for some reason. anyways we were talking about bits n peices we need to buy for the babies and he kept going on about us needing more bottles. we only have 3 at the moment (one came with my pump) and i said why do we need more, im going to be breastfeeding and he started going on about how i wouldnt be bf long because i didnt with faith. i told him that if all goes well then i would like to bf them for a year and u no what he said? he went "err thats weird why would you do that?" (but he said it with a really disgusted look on his face) i was like wtf? i said that its best to try for 6 months to a year and he said it was weird. he also obviously thinks hes an expert because he turned round and said " they dont need to be breastfed for more than a couple of weeks anyway" what the hell does he know about breastfeeding and how dare he say its weird to bf for a year! i mean come on! it doesnt sound bad written down as you cant see the way he looked at me or the way he said it but i was so annoyed! aaarrrgggghhh! MEN!!

 

[Jkelmum]

*Sigh* Thats men for you ...He really needs to be supportive as Bf is hard enough never mind twins with a unsupportive oh ...could u make him look at the facts ? maybe then he will realize whats best xxxxxx

 

[csmummu]

Poor deliuded man!

I was quite uptight with my DD and she only BF for 6 weeks this time im determined for 6 months at least.. my hubby has been asking questions about my pump ive bought etc and just being really supportive and even though baby isnt here i feel like thigs will go a lot smoother this time round... relaxation is the key!

your hubby needs to get some facts sorted! babies need to bf for 6 months thats a bit more than a few weeks. i really hope he changes his attitude before the girls arrive!

Maybe tell him how you felt when he looked at you with discust

 

[FsMummy]

hes never been negative towards bf before. he said "well if theyre anything like faith they wont bf for long anyway because she wouldnt bf" i told him faith latched on fine and it was me who messed it up. he knew that! hes not usually unsupportive i think its just because its something he cant really get that involved in iykwim. im not defending him coz he was out of line. as soon as he said it was weird i thought of all the ladies on here who bf and i got really annoyed lol id love to bf for atleast 6 months but every day that i successfully bf them will make all the difference and i will be proud of myself

 

[massacubano]

GRRR @ MEN

I am sure you can do it if you set your mind to it, prove him wrong

 

[Mervs Mum]

Men......

It's all the more important that you have a PMA about this if he's going to be giving off negative vibes about BFing.

Maybe you need to get him to look in things a but - a supportive Dad is an ESSENTIAL key to BFing.

https://www.hpani.org/Resources/breastfeeding/pdfs/whatdadsshouldknow07.pdf

https://www.dad.info/health/your-childs-health/breastfeeding-how-it-works/

https://www.storknet.com/cubbies/breast/dads.htm

 

[Samantha675]

Oh hun, I am sorry he is being that way. If he doesn't know how benificial BFing, is then I would suggest educating him. MM has some great links. Send them to him, tell him to read then and then he can decide how he feels. My son is 13 months old, and to be honest, I am no where near ready to quit nursing him, he is not ready either, and it is in now way shape or form weird. He is stll not only my baby, but A baby. Mother's milk has wonderful benefits beyond 6 months and even beyond the 12 month mark.

 

[Rach276]

Thats weird? Typical man!

 

[leighbaby]

The WHO recommend that a baby is bf for at least 6 months, but preferably 12 months...I'd like to see any bloke try to argue with them!!

 

[XKatX]

Come on here a bit late, so it's all been said really. But just to reiterate, 6-12 months is recommended best. You can tell hinm from us that we're breastfeeding well down the line and we're both still very happy with it! We don't get weird looks afrom anyone and, in fact, when I tell people we still are feeding, we get great encouragement, support and admiration!
So print off the links Mervsmum gave you and get educating him! I'm sure he'll come round to it when he reads that.
Good luck hun and enjoy your BF journey!!! x x

 

[channy3232]

I'm sorry he's not being supportive! What a jackass!
My hubby watches we pump and chuckles. When I pump both breasts at the same time, he jokes he's "going to have the guys over to place bets on which bottle will fill up quicker". Nice huh?