OH still hasn't told family

[CandyDay]

Can you get him to leave and then change the locks?
Otherwise I would suggest if you do want to leave him over this that you start looking for a place of your own if you can afford it. And then move out once you have a place. And then hire a lawyer to start child support/custody proceedings. And if you have any text messages or anything that you save them and give them to your lawyer as proof if it will help your case against him.

 

[HappyAnjeL]

He is DEFINITELY hiding something about his 'other life'. He doesn't want his family to know about your son and sex life because of religion... I'm not buying it, but even if that is true, why does he need to hide you? And if the only issue is you guys being married, why not just lie about being married instead or actually get married?

 

[Blue12]

They are from Sudan and I've heard him on the phone to his mom and he never speaks English to her. I think his dad speaks some English but he doesn't talk to him much.
Trust me I would snoop if I could just to give me some peace of mind but he keeps a lock on his phone and I don't know any of his friends/ family to ask questions.

I'm sorry but the fact that you dont know anyone who knows him is rather suspicious. How many hours a day do you actually see him? Ive never met any person who didnt know anyone that their partner knows. I am sorry for you that this is the situation.

My cousin was dating someone for 8 years who she had never seen where he lived or met any of his friends or family - THAT IS NOT NORMAL. He even had to go places on Christmas day - Without a doubt he had another life going on. He was also really good at talking about the future that would never exist. He was full of incredibly empty promises and lies.

 

[Indigo77]

I'm glad you're LO is too young to know he's being hidden by his own father....

 

[greenbeans12]

Wow, this is extremely shady IMO and something has to be up. You've been with this man for more then a year and he has not told his family about the child he has beared with you nor the fact you two are together? That is EXTREMELY concerning and if I did not know better I would say he either has a second family or he is hiding something huge.

I would demand answers or leave. There is no reason you and your beautiful LO should be kept a secret. If he cared he would want to share the love he has for you and your son with his family. Be careful, something is very wrong with this story.