ok so who wants to get pregnant in 2011? (closed group)

[sarahincanada]

everyone has had their struggles.... be it the loss of a child because of a cervix that doesn't do it's job , or miscarriages at various stages , or LONG term TTC , or polyps blocking the ideal spot for implantation or having to abort due to the laws of the country you live in .... but they make us who we are!!!

omg first I well up when I see NY's baby photos ,and then this little snippet of your post made me cry ....omg perhaps Im pregnant!!!!! only joking. but its so true, we all have lived such different lives but have managed to come together and support eachother and in my mind thats through good and bad. of course we are going to have little tiffs here and there and that normal.

I dont want to comment too much on things as its resolved but I will say a few things...

Preethi - first of all I really dont think anyone felt that you were being mean with what you said, you are clearly a sweatheart and have never had a bad word to say to anyone. Like NY said, its clear you are someone who worries a lot and with that you would prefer to not talk about certain things.

however at the same time Im sure you now realize that asking someone to not talk about a part of their journey, one that would have changed their life, is not really fair. and for example say I got pregnant and had a MC, I would want to talk about it with no worries about hurting someone who is pregnant. Same as when someone is pregnant and wants to share their joy but someone else just got their period. We are all different and have to do our best to listen to all good and bad.

But I think you were saying for them not to mention it to you directly, and I think everyone can respect that. Im glad it all got sorted and lets move on.

 

[sarahincanada]

i insisted he cut the cord which he says he cant do because of all the blood and pulsating veins on the cord

this has to officially be the funniest thing Ive read on here in ages, it made me actually laugh out loud!!!! I can completely understand as the thought of pulsating veins on the cord makes me feel sick! how does he know it looks like that? I had no idea. Im very squeemish about hospital stuff so thankfully I will be lying down otherwise I might pass out! I bet your hubby will be so overcome with emotion to see his child that he will be grabbing those scissor thingys and cutting away while it pulsates and blood oozes

 

[sarahincanada]

THank you sarah, that was such a sweet response! Love it! Yes I know, I told OH before we went this morning that I couldn't remember exactly what a baby looks like on ultrasound at this stage so was excited to see. And wow! A real baby! I am quite proud of producing that!

Im sure Ive seen other scans that are tiny blobs in a large space, so are those scans from weeks before? do people have scans really early on? I had no idea this is what the scan would look like. wow, this makes me so excited to get pregnant before my family comes and I would put the scan on a tshirt and meet my mum at the airport!

so what is the next step for you?

 

[sarahincanada]

Glad you understand I meant no harm.... and pleased you agree...

cos today my DH has annoyed the socks off me! it's like we have a conversation about something and he forgets it ever happened (this particular conversation was about a week ago) and he claims he remembers nothing.... not even the stuff he suggested!

His memory is bad... he knows it... but I get so angry sometimes, because I'm sure if he paid attention a little more, he'd remember things better!

it's like I have to remember everything from him and me!

that is definitely a MAN thing. its so funny as hubby and I will have an argument about something where he remembers something different to me, and I say to him, dont argue as Im always right!!! it usually turns out that I am always right about things to do with memory. But he will still argue and insist his point of view, its annoying

 

[sarahincanada]

I understand totally....I shouldn't talk about MC on this thread with all you beautiful pregnant ladies around...request accepted...sorry if I hurt anyone, not my intention, just get carried away at times....

Dew please feel free to talk about your experiences as we are here good and bad. I think Preethi just didnt want it directly quoted to her thats all.
I just cannot wait for you to get your bfp as so many people have a MC then go on to have a perfect pregnancy. did your spotting end up getting heavier?

 

[NDH]

Whew busy thread since last I checked.

Mummy I don't remember if I commented about Lottie's first pictures - she has got to be the most alert newborn I have ever seen in those photos - amazing!

NY, what beautiful scan pics! I think the 12 week scan pics are the most amazing of all scan pics.

Dew for your trials and I hope you get your keeper baby soon. So many of the mommies to be on this thread are pregnant after a loss. I think Flying is the only one who isn't?

Sarah, you could well be pregnant, I see that you're 8dpo. But if that's why you were crying I have no excuse lol, cause I bawled reading todays posts too.

to all.

 

[Dew]

hi dew, i know what an NT is, and really i am only 20 years old so the youngest in the group.. ill speak to my doc on Wednesday and see what he says !

hoping he does not force me into it.. im still waiting on my doppler !

fx'd you get your bfp and a sticky bean this time round.. !

You are almost half my age I am 35. Everything's gonna be just great....don't worry.

At 9 wks 4 days, my gynec did pelvic examination and tried to listen to heart beat with Doppler. She said, it can normally be heard after 10 weeks but since I am skinny, she may find it for me. All she could hear was my HB. I have retroverted uterus so she blamed it on that. Little did she know then that baby's heart had stopped beating at 8 wks we had last seen healthy HB at 7.6 wks

Only the colored portion of text was meant (directly) for Preethi.
Why I wrote the rest, even I can't figure, it was not derived from anybody's current status or condition, was not directly aimed at anyone and was honestly not meant to warn/scare/hurt anyone.
I wish I made a separate post to write it but sometimes feelings just flow out of you in the form of text without any indication or warning (this also goes to show how comfortable I was getting on this thread).
I tend to read all the posts on the forum whether they are addressed to me or not (may be I am not supposed to!??) so I am guessing even if I write about my experiences as separate/general post, I may unintentionally end up hurting someone so will try my best to avoid writing disturbing incidents, as a respect to others' feelings.

Sarah, update from my side is that I am still having brown discharge, cycles might be different now. I also have bad headache which could be due to all the crying I am doing today...what happened on the forum is just a trigger, I am sure it is PMS.

 

[nypage1981]

Woohoo! We got the hormones surging in here Haha.

Sarah I've noticed so many different looking ultrasound but yes, mine at 7 weeks was a blob. Nothing intelligible. I love the 12 week scan. Super happy! You may be implaning as we speak wow, 8 Soo already. Seems seriously like esterday. Just to me I'm sure not to you, but your cycle has gone fast for me! Lol. The ager idea is adorable. That's a good one.

Dew I read comments to others also. Or just ones made in general. It's all good!

Baby, here it is Monday night, so you should be getting your doppler any time now! How awesome!

 

[sarahincanada]

Sarah, you could well be pregnant, I see that you're 8dpo. But if that's why you were crying I have no excuse lol, cause I bawled reading todays posts too.

to all.

haha wouldnt that be great! so you are almost at ovulation, what are your BD plans? I seem to remember that you and hubby dont BD that often, or am I mistaking you with someone else. my memory is fading as I get older!!

 

[NDH]

Yep that's me My plans are to keep getting after DH for BD until it's happened 2-3 times by Friday lol (if this is a typical cycle I'll O around midnight on Thursday so Friday should still be in the running). Managed to BD yesterday, so at least we're in the running. He got a new video game so it might be tricky this cycle to make sure it happens a couple more times lol. Next time I'm fertile though we'll hopefully be in our own place again so it'll be a bit easier. He'll also be out of the "ZOMG new game! Must play it every second of my free time" stage. And being with my parents still there isn't much I can do about it *sigh*

 

[sarahincanada]

hi dew, i know what an NT is, and really i am only 20 years old so the youngest in the group.. ill speak to my doc on Wednesday and see what he says !

hoping he does not force me into it.. im still waiting on my doppler !

fx'd you get your bfp and a sticky bean this time round.. !

You are almost half my age I am 35. Everything's gonna be just great....don't worry.

At 9 wks 4 days, my gynec did pelvic examination and tried to listen to heart beat with Doppler. She said, it can normally be heard after 10 weeks but since I am skinny, she may find it for me. All she could hear was my HB. I have retroverted uterus so she blamed it on that. Little did she know then that baby's heart had stopped beating at 8 wks we had last seen healthy HB at 7.6 wks

Only the colored portion of text was meant (directly) for Preethi.
Why I wrote the rest, even I can't figure, it was not derived from anybody's current status or condition, was not directly aimed at anyone and was honestly not meant to warn/scare/hurt anyone.
I wish I made a separate post to write it but sometimes feelings just flow out of you in the form of text without any indication or warning (this also goes to show how comfortable I was getting on this thread).
I tend to read all the posts on the forum whether they are addressed to me or not (may be I am not supposed to!??) so I am guessing even if I write about my experiences as separate/general post, I may unintentionally end up hurting someone so will try my best to avoid writing disturbing incidents, as a respect to others' feelings.

Sarah, update from my side is that I am still having brown discharge, cycles might be different now. I also have bad headache which could be due to all the crying I am doing today...what happened on the forum is just a trigger, I am sure it is PMS.

I dont think theres anything wrong with how you wrote it. It could look like you are talking to preethi as you quoted her, but I often quote people then babble on about something else, we all do it so dont worry!!! you have not done anything unusual or wrong so please continue being you and sharing your feelings whatever they are.

You are obviously still hurting and I can fully empathize, like I said when reading how you told your hubby I had an ache in my heart as I knew what happened after. I always feel theres a reason for what happens in life, however devastating. My mum had 4 miscarriages before me, and I do think to myself wow I would not be alive if one of those had continued. So Im sure there is a baby in your (near) future that is meant to be with you forever and I cant wait to be here with you when that happens

see when you say brown discharge and headaches it makes me hopeful for you but I know it can easily be the other way too. its so annoying that period and pregnancy symptoms are basically the same. I have sore nipples, headaches and had greenish/yellow cm today. of course I googled it and theres lots of people who had yellow cm and and were pregnant, but equal amounts that had it and were not. I prefer to assume Im not and then be shocked when it actually happens.

 

[sarahincanada]

Sarah I've noticed so many different looking ultrasound but yes, mine at 7 weeks was a blob. Nothing intelligible. I love the 12 week scan. Super happy! You may be implaning as we speak wow, 8 Soo already. Seems seriously like esterday. Just to me I'm sure not to you, but your cycle has gone fast for me! Lol. The ager idea is adorable. That's a good one.

urrgghh for me this has been the l-o-n-g-e-s-t cycle e-v-e-r!! because we didnt really have any good BD sessions I just want it over and to start anew.

as for implanting, thing is I think I would get IB if I was implanting....as it would be in the area of the polyp and seeing as my op was 2 weeks ago surely there would be blood as it wouldnt be 100% healed. thats my thinking anyway!! I do have quite a lot of symptoms, but we know how useless those are.

 

[sarahincanada]

symptoms:

ok I have a question for my lovely pregnant friends.....remind me what symptoms you did or didnt have. I seem to remember NY, Babyhopes didnt have anything as they were shock bfp's due to your wonky cycles. Dew I seem to remember you had symptoms with your pregnancy and thats why you are not enthused about this symptomless cycle. Mummy I remember you had creamy CM and a few other things. So I thought Id ask you all to write them down so I can see if theres anything useful!!!! it does seem everyone is different though, Ive always thought the less symptoms you have the more likely you are pregnant going by people on here, but theres websites with pregnant women writing so many symptoms.

(can you tell that this week is the worst wait ever and I need to be entertained, please entertain me lol)

 

[sarahincanada]

Yep that's me My plans are to keep getting after DH for BD until it's happened 2-3 times by Friday lol (if this is a typical cycle I'll O around midnight on Thursday so Friday should still be in the running). Managed to BD yesterday, so at least we're in the running. He got a new video game so it might be tricky this cycle to make sure it happens a couple more times lol. Next time I'm fertile though we'll hopefully be in our own place again so it'll be a bit easier. He'll also be out of the "ZOMG new game! Must play it every second of my free time" stage. And being with my parents still there isn't much I can do about it *sigh*

ahhh that is hard, you have a few obstacles there! 2-3 times by friday should be perfect. its amazing how many people on here get their bfp from just 1 time.

NDH how many cycles do you think you have actually TTC? Is it all 27? Im asking just because I know there was that time that hubby was away. Have you had any testing at all? I think you said no before but like I said my memory is bad. I just wonder if you have a polyp or something like that preventing things and wouldnt it be good to know now. but Ive witnessed quite a few long time TTC people on here get their BFPs so I have lots of hope that it will happen for you.

ok I better stop talking as the people in the other part of the world will come on tomorrow and have pages to read, a little like me when I got home today so just getting you all back!!!

 

[NDH]

I'm not sure how many cycles we've actually had a shot at, as I wasn't recording my cycles or BD before May. We could well have missed a number of those cycles completely, but most likely had at least one attempt somewhere in that fertile week. I just counted 27 cycles from January 2009 when I had a probable chemical and really started wanting a baby (though we never really did anything about preventing pregnancy before that unless DH asked if I might be fertile lol) until May 2010, then again from November to the present (in other words, the time we were apart isn't counted. I have short cycles so get 14-15 cycles/year). The last 6 cycles though, since being back together, I know with certainty it's been pretty well timed, 2 or 3 tries a cycle (which is probably the best we can expect), and there was for sure one or two months before I came here that we had quite good chances too. But because I'm hoping it's really been lack of BD at the right times for close to 20 cycles I'm not really wanting to do anything about testing for a few more months, mostly from a cost prohibition. Can't really afford $30/doctor visit minimum, assuming fertility testing is covered by medicare which I'm not even sure about so it could cost more. Not to mention treatment costs if necessary... I'm happier blissfully unaware for now lol.

 

[sherylb]

OH, I remember! Had to really think about it. First it was that I felt like AF was coming all day. Clear discharge. Then it was yellow. I didn't get my until I was 2 days late.

 

[babyhopes2323]

sarah thank god for you actually understanding what i meant.. youre the one who has actually and properly understood it and said "yes i think she meant do not quote it to her". that was all !! phew !

still waiting on doppler, phoned ebay and the company as i have always been a bit weary on online shopping and sometimes they take your payment and you dont receive the package.

so dont know what time it is in the states but its 8:55am here and there were going on in their american accents.. yes mam, no mam, but apparently it would take longer for my delivery because it is international. well if that was the case then they should not have confirmed by email that i would get it no later than tuesday.


dew, lets just please drop this, it was clearly a misunderstanding for the both of us and i realize what i did and it was exactly as sarah said. thats what i meant, so please dont feel sad and upset and everything because again the more you feel sad,and talk about it, the more it makes me look and feel like a bad person and i didnt intend to hurt you at all, so lets just drop it. thanks

hope youre feeling great NY, im up for my doc appointment tomorrow to discuss the NT.
and im relying on the americans to deliver my doppler love em and their attitudes.. always have.. very easy going.. especially the americans in dubai.. theyre so open minded and they talk about anything and everything even if its the first time theyve met you !

i watch the colbert report on tv, and its like he makes fun of the americans himself .. saying things like they always want everything larger than life... from their burgers to their slushies ! i cant wait to go to the states at some stage !

 

[babyhopes2323]

sarah hope you get your BFP this cycle and AF stays away... sometimes, all it takes is one session and plus your DH has super spermies !! so praying for you !! xxx

 

[babyhopes2323]

NY, i know most women would prefer a natural birth, but you dont really feel anything at all with a C-section,. thats really good.. !! the only bad part is the excessive bed rest required afterward !

you know what youre having already thats awesome !

 

[babyhopes2323]

i insisted he cut the cord which he says he cant do because of all the blood and pulsating veins on the cord

this has to officially be the funniest thing Ive read on here in ages, it made me actually laugh out loud!!!! I can completely understand as the thought of pulsating veins on the cord makes me feel sick! how does he know it looks like that? I had no idea. Im very squeemish about hospital stuff so thankfully I will be lying down otherwise I might pass out! I bet your hubby will be so overcome with emotion to see his child that he will be grabbing those scissor thingys and cutting away while it pulsates and blood oozes

lets hope so, but mines got a very tough one to crack, he is so sure about what he says, when he says it, ooh he almost irritates me with how sure he is.. he wont budge, to be honest, i couldnt care anymore because id be in too much anxiety at that time to bother !