ok so who wants to get pregnant in 2011? (closed group)

[Dew]

Sarah, do you want to change thread title....2011/2012....?

what do you think? if we change it I guess we would get more people joining in, or if we leave it then its just the original thread which i dont mind either.

OK leave it the way it is

 

[Dew]

NDH and Sarah: the cycle I got my BFP, I had pink CM after BD @ 2dpo....but last cycle also I had pink CM once after BD @ 1 dpo so I am guessing for me it was due to ovulation/BD. However, NDH is already about 6 dpo so there is a chance for it to be IB. I don't like to raise hopes or even discourage anyone from hoping as I think there is not much we can do in 2ww other than analyzing...at least this way we learn our cycles better. Sarah, last cycle I had loads of creamy CM post ovulation and I have also had 2 cycles where my temps didn't fall for AF and remained high until CD4 or 5. In one of the cycles AF was late by 2 days, I had myself convinced that I am pregnant only to be disappointed at negative test results. So, no one thing except a positive....really positive test result means pregnancy. Good luck to the three of us....it's just the matter of luck now as we are trying our best for so long

 

[sarahincanada]

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Sarah, it's possible, though ovulation yesterday would give me the longest cycle of my life at 29 days. My longest cycle was 28 days and I'm pretty sure that was a chemical/early mc more than two years ago. Haven't had a cycle over 26 days since or previously. We'll see though whether AF comes on the 21st or not though.

oooh I didnt realize that, so FX'd it was IB!!! yay this will make things exciting while I wait for the big O

 

[babyhopes2323]

im so upset with DH all evening its been so bad and now after waiting three months for this 12 week scan to come and he was going to come with me tomorrow for the first time to see the baby and now he suddenly says theres some meeting at 9:30 and he dosent know if he can make it to the 11:30 appointment,. ive waited so long for him to come and take interest on his own and come to one appointment with me. hes not come to any appointment with me and i was sooo looking forward to this..

ive been crying all evening and im so upset and its not just this one thing.. xxx i hope everything becomes ok soon.. i feel so light headed and dizzy when we argue its almost like i cant stand there .. i hope he can make it to this appointment to see his child.. hes been so distant emotionally and im sick of showing him scan pics and hes come all the way many times to drop me to the hospital but not once has he entered it.. because he didnt want to come to any other than the 12 week one..

 

[nypage1981]

Preethi its really awful the way he is being. I mean, I thought all alongit was crazy selfish of him to just " not want to go until 12 weeks". You've been through so much and so many worries and appointments and he has just dropped you off?? I'm shocked. Now that oh know nothing is wrong and have been waiting for him to come, I sure hope he makes it. You have every right o be upset right now and I pray he makes it happen. Have you found the heartbeat with doppler yet to show him?

 

[Dew]

Preethi: I have a feeling he will make it to the appointment tomorrow, leave the argument right there, relax and go to bed thinking of how your baby is gonna look in tomorrow's scan. Or you know, just reschedule the appointment to fit in his schedule. You had a scan few days back so I think you can wait another 3-4 days for another one. He might appreciate you for doing this for him as he always wanted to go for 12 week scan and now because of this meeting he can't. He might himself be feeling bad about it and just can't express it to you, right?

 

[Dew]

I have overheard my friend's DH say to his friends that when his wife was pregnant with first baby, she would tell him all about how baby was kicking inside the tummy and similar stuff but he could never understand that or feel connected emotionally until the day she delivered the baby and he could see it right in front of his eyes. My friend tells me that during entire pregnancy, he never cared how she was doing, what she was eating etc etc but once the baby was born, he became such a good father and took care of baby from day 1.

 

[babyhopes2323]

i tried to reschedule the appointment but they are closed now so will have to call tomorrow morning to see if they have a slot available in the afternoon or maybe on sunday instead.. lets see what happens.. i am upset but to be honest, its not worth all my worrying and crying over.. im just causing more stress to myself and the baby

Nyp, i couldnt find the heartbeat with the doppler at all.. so am just not trying anymore.. xxx he says he wanted to come tomorrow.. its just that this meeting has come up etc. lets see what happens.

 

[babyhopes2323]

thanks for all the encouragement dew and NY.. cant find the thanks button again.. i sure hope he will feel differently once hes been to the scan.. the thing is.. i dont expect much from him because he has never ever been the type to show emotion at all and he never speaks out about how he is feeling or anything where as i am the exact opposite.. he does care but he does not know how to show it.. thats the problem

 

[nypage1981]

Hope he an make it for you. I have very high expectations for my oh, and he best be there for all of it! He is very close to bean and very involved in what I'm eatig and doing while incubating his bean. Lol. I would bring your doppler to the doc and have him show you how because you would definately be able to hear it by now. He may become more attached if can hear its beating each day.

 

[Dew]

thanks for all the encouragement dew and NY.. cant find the thanks button again.. i sure hope he will feel differently once hes been to the scan.. the thing is.. i dont expect much from him because he has never ever been the type to show emotion at all and he never speaks out about how he is feeling or anything where as i am the exact opposite.. he does care but he does not know how to show it.. thats the problem

That's the problem with most men Preethi, and those who are different lack in some other aspect, no man is perfect and neither are we...I don't think men go to a forum and talk about how their wife argued with them over a silly thing and expect consolation from other men, they have a different way of dealing with stress...they would rather ignore and avoid it.
I am not men's advocate here , I argue with my DH so often but I also like to look at things from a different perspective when given a chance.

 

[flyingduster]

Aww Preethi! I know how much you've been looking forward to him coming along to this scan, so I'm crossing my fingers that you can call them in the morning and reschedule it so he can DEFINITELY come. I bet you he's gutted he can't come, he just isn't showing it... And once he sees it kicking around he'll be in awe I'm sure!


NDH, my hubby is very logical too, BUT thankfully his logic says that my emotions WILL be over the top and up and down because of the hormones so there's no other logic needed! He doesn't know WHY I'm crying, he can't understand it at all, except that it's hormones. He knows there doesn't have to be a reason except hormones. lol!

I actually explained it all to him early on, he already knew about it, but I explained to him anyway; my emotions WILL be everywhere, I WILL cry at nothing! I will be mad at you for nothing too. Please don't take it personally, it is only the hormones! Give me a hug and say nothing, and in 10 mins the tears will be gone and all will be well again. It works! If he tries to ask what's wrong, I get mad cos there's usually NOTHING wrong and I feel dumb having that pointed out. If he asks if he can help, I get mad cos I KNOW I can do it myself and don't want to be helped. If he hugs me silently, I can snuggle in, feel loved, sob my heart out for a few mins and be over it. lol! He doesn't understand it, but he knows he can't (hell, I don't understand it!) and it works, so that's all we care about!!!


And yay NDH, you're getting closer to testing, cos I'm sure AF will keep away! lol.

And Dew, you're getting so close to O now! FX you get in some good timing!!!!!!

Sarah, I think sometimes the first TWW is as hard as the second! lol. Good luck!

 

[flyingduster]

heh. I just bought some belly bands! My pants are definitely tighter now, and because they don't fit very well around my waist they sit on my hips, and are prone to slipping down a bit so I'm constantly hitching them back up! lol! So found some locally (online) that others have raved about and bought two.

 

[Dew]

heh. I just bought some belly bands! My pants are definitely tighter now, and because they don't fit very well around my waist they sit on my hips, and are prone to slipping down a bit so I'm constantly hitching them back up! lol! So found some locally (online) that others have raved about and bought two.

Yup those are pretty useful initially, I was about to buy those too....I think I saw some online on Target website for abot 15 buck$.

 

[NDH]

NDH, my hubby is very logical too, BUT thankfully his logic says that my emotions WILL be over the top and up and down because of the hormones so there's no other logic needed! He doesn't know WHY I'm crying, he can't understand it at all, except that it's hormones. He knows there doesn't have to be a reason except hormones. lol!

I actually explained it all to him early on, he already knew about it, but I explained to him anyway; my emotions WILL be everywhere, I WILL cry at nothing! I will be mad at you for nothing too. Please don't take it personally, it is only the hormones! Give me a hug and say nothing, and in 10 mins the tears will be gone and all will be well again. It works! If he tries to ask what's wrong, I get mad cos there's usually NOTHING wrong and I feel dumb having that pointed out. If he asks if he can help, I get mad cos I KNOW I can do it myself and don't want to be helped. If he hugs me silently, I can snuggle in, feel loved, sob my heart out for a few mins and be over it. lol! He doesn't understand it, but he knows he can't (hell, I don't understand it!) and it works, so that's all we care about!!!


And yay NDH, you're getting closer to testing, cos I'm sure AF will keep away! lol.

Ha, thanks - when I do get pregnant I'll hope that works for him too. Cause it's bad enough now when I get emotional and cry over silly things and he just tells me to stop crying and being silly, and if I can't he tells me to go away lol! His "fixit" mentality is such that if the "problem" isn't one he can fix he doesn't want to see it (problem being tears for no reason he can't do anything about).

Preethi, I hope your DH is able to make it to your scan with you I hate when things come up to ruin something you've been looking forward to for ages.

AFM - we went to view a cute little house today (well it's a house that's been divided into three units, two down one up and it's one of the ground floor ones we looked at) and I love it so much! It's not available til 12 May but that's all right. Hoping now that we get approved for it! There's not much in our price range and we were going to "make due" for 6-12 months with something cheap with no expectations to find something we actually like, but I totally love this place.

 

[flyingduster]

heh. I just bought some belly bands! My pants are definitely tighter now, and because they don't fit very well around my waist they sit on my hips, and are prone to slipping down a bit so I'm constantly hitching them back up! lol! So found some locally (online) that others have raved about and bought two.

Yup those are pretty useful initially, I was about to buy those too....I think I saw some online on Target website for abot 15 buck$.

yeah, the two I got were $19 for the two (free postage! yay!) so will be good when they arrive next week. There were lots in America, but postage and the exchange rate kills it (even though the exchange is pretty good for us right now!) so had to find one locally.

 

[babyhopes2323]

well ladies, thank you so much for all your support,.. DH made it to the scan and now he might come to the next one too he says.. im bang on the dates due 24th october and im exactly 12 weeks and 3 days so gotta change my ticker !

beanie was moving bu not a lot. we saw the nasal bone, spine, brain, mouth, eyes arms and legs.. ill try to post a pic i got.. ill put it as my avatar..

hope you all are doing well.. xx

 

[babyhopes2323]

bubs has caught up to my original first day of period. now i can put my ticker date as my actual first day of period and it shows 12 + 3 exactly.. so glad its caught up !

 

[NDH]

Yay that DH made it to the scan!

Boy your baby just keeps growing! Every time you go almost you get put forward!

 

[NDH]

Ah I see - well that's good then that it's caught up to where it should be by LMP