ok so who wants to get pregnant in 2011? (closed group)

[Dew]

Dew, it's too early for her to know what gender she's having at all, but perhaps she's already thought of a boys name, or simply wasn't thinking of them at the time; I know I'd often think of "if I had a boy, I could call him '_____'..." lol. I thought that sorta thing looooooong before I was even TTC, and once we started TTC, we decided on names before we ever for pregnant! lol.

Flying: when I looked at her ticker I realized it's early to know the gender. Honestly, I have been thinking of names for my baby since High School or something and when I think of my child, it's always a girl. So, it was really surprising that when I got pregnant earlier, I felt so sure it was a boy....don't know why but had a feeling and still believe so...only it can't be proved now.

So Sheryl, have fun finding your baby's name. It's cute time pass I do that all the time except I get selfish and don't share the names with my pregnant friends

 

[Dew]

Preethi: Sorry your MIL can't get excited for her grandkid...it's her loss...glad you have a loving family. Hopefully headache won't come again....keep yourself well hydrated at all times. I get headaches when I don't drink enough water or eat my meals late. Have you decided on what movie you are watching this weekend? We might go for 'Hanna' if it doesn't interfere with our BD plans tonight.

 

[sherylb]

I don't get to choose the name if it's a boy. DH does. That is why although I had picked out a girl and boy name I am focusing on the girl name and is that what I want to be saying for the rest of my life.

 

[sarahincanada]

sheryl: I like kristin isabella, betty is a cute name but you will have to think of a different first name that goes with it (the other is definitely too many b's)...any other ideas for first name?
I think we should be thinking about boys names though....isnt the only option chuck wagon or something!!! (editing to say just read your post saying hubby is choosing the boys name, we must have posted at same time!)

huggles: aww great scan photo! Im so excited to see the progression. what is your gender prediction for yourself?

ndh: any news on the apartment you liked?

dew: did you start temping? I have, my temps have been low 36's c (high 96's f). At the end of my last cycle they were high 36's, so I assume Im looking for them to go into the 37's to get my hopes up.
I remember a few posts back you had mentioned your temps didnt go up at the end of your cycle or something like that? or was it down? people on here seem to consider temps as so accurate, so that was interesting.
good luck bding this weekend!!! remind me when are you expecting your Ov? are you doing the ov tests? sorry its early and my mind is fuzzy.

preethi: too bad about MIL but at least you know what shes like and know what to expect! my inlaws are really nice and I cant wait to tell them (I think they have given up hope seeing as Im 39 this year!!). I have had issued with MIL though as she is very different personality to me. also she can talk and talk and talk which drives me crazy....she doesnt stop and I find it very boring!!

mummy: SCAN IS ON MONDAY!!!!!!!!

AFM going for my chiro appointment and a massage. my back is finally feeling a little more normal, but Im keeping up the chiro and massage weekly. Its expensive but for my health I have to do it.

starts tonight woo-hoo

 

[Dew]

Sheryl: I would like to choose the name either ways and hope DH will like my choice...I am being too greedy and selfish in this respect but I honestly feel every mom should get the right to pick baby's name...isn't that just fair?

 

[Dew]

sheryl:

dew: did you start temping? I have, my temps have been low 36's c (high 96's f). At the end of my last cycle they were high 36's, so I assume Im looking for them to go into the 37's to get my hopes up.
I remember a few posts back you had mentioned your temps didnt go up at the end of your cycle or something like that? or was it down? people on here seem to consider temps as so accurate, so that was interesting.
good luck bding this weekend!!! remind me when are you expecting your Ov? are you doing the ov tests? sorry its early and my mind is fuzzy.

starts tonight woo-hoo

No I didn't start temping...just being lazy. I started testing for ovulation from CD9 onwards, been negative last two days, expecting to see smiley today which will indicate that I am ovulating tomorrow...just as the ticker says.

I mentioned that one time my temps didn't go down (like they normally did) on AF due date and remained high until CD4 or 5 of next cycle. Since AF showed up two days late I had myself so badly convinced that I am pregnant....was so disappointing.

 

[sherylb]

I would rather not even discuss boy names until I know it's worth the argument if there is one. Josh William is my boys name.

 

[MummyCat]

Hiya!!

NDH... sounds really promising hun... hoping and crossing fingers for you my dear!

Sheryl... we only have two girls names we liked from our last pregnancy (we're waiting until after 12 week scan to start thinking about it again) but Annabelle and Kirsten were our favs ... not exactly like yours, but similar!

Huggles... great scan pic hun!

Preethi... sorry your MIL wasn't very excited! glad your family is super supportive to make up for it!

Sarah... 3 more days not too long to wait

Hope everyone is good... all's fine here!! xx

 

[Huggles]

Sarah - i'm pretty sure it's another boy.

 

[Dew]

I would rather not even discuss boy names until I know it's worth the argument if there is one. Josh William is my boys name.

I like this name.

 

[nypage1981]

Hi girls-
Sarah- I think OH's parents are pretentious and boring also. They enjoy talking about OH's high school days and old high school families and its so boring I could shoot myself. No way would my mom care about talking about kids that went to my high school with such interest all the time. Ugh.

Sheryl I agree, too many b's in that name but the first one is very nice. I like the boy name also. Hope it flies with OH.

Right now I couldn't care less what OH wants and doesnt want. We are not well right now. Last night I began talking about houses and stuff and he cut me off, said not happening, and that he won't budge. Just like that.This house is not big enough for us 3, let alone a baby now. I get no nursery no closet for its things? Our bathroom grows mold that he has to scrub with bleach every so often, our trim is falling off all over from the walls and nails are sticking ot all over, all our windows are old and screens are ripped every place, we have NO more space for anything, our hard wood flooring is from 1800's and nails stick up...its not even safe for a baby. I just cry every time I think of our conversation (fight) last night because im just so heart broken. I've been looking at houses online, and trying to think of all we need to do here and then its just not even an option. I am angry and hurt because what now? I am just forced to live in a house too small, old, and falling apart because he doesn't want to move and would lose out on this house he bought 6 years ago with his ex wife? I honestly don't care if we lose out on $20,000 right now, we need to get out of this house and it isn't going to get any better any time soon. I would NEVER let anyone buy a house like this and im forced to live here now. How is this going to work? I have been so unhappy with this place and have put up with it for 3 years. He always says I don't pay for it so i can't complain. At this point I don't know....does this break us up? I can't handle bringing another person into this shit hole.....I don't even have a clue where to go from here. He says point blank, no and I have no control and he isn't interested in trying to make me happy obviously. I just feel like leaving but all these years have thought if we ever break up it will be over the housing situation and now im pregnant and want to be so excited and can't leave him obviously and love him and want this forever family, but can't live here either.

Sorry for the rant. I honestly don't think i've ever been so down as I am right now, I feel really embarrassed about that rant but need to really get it out and fine out if im asking for so much here or if this is just my hormones?

 

[sherylb]

Well, I talked to Medicaid today and my application was denied b/c of my temporary job income being too high for April. So I have been referred to a different program and have to contact them late next week if they haven't contacted me first. Great...

 

[sherylb]

Hi girls-
Sarah- I think OH's parents are pretentious and boring also. They enjoy talking about OH's high school days and old high school families and its so boring I could shoot myself. No way would my mom care about talking about kids that went to my high school with such interest all the time. Ugh.

Sheryl I agree, too many b's in that name but the first one is very nice. I like the boy name also. Hope it flies with OH.

Right now I couldn't care less what OH wants and doesnt want. We are not well right now. Last night I began talking about houses and stuff and he cut me off, said not happening, and that he won't budge. Just like that.This house is not big enough for us 3, let alone a baby now. I get no nursery no closet for its things? Our bathroom grows mold that he has to scrub with bleach every so often, our trim is falling off all over from the walls and nails are sticking ot all over, all our windows are old and screens are ripped every place, we have NO more space for anything, our hard wood flooring is from 1800's and nails stick up...its not even safe for a baby. I just cry every time I think of our conversation (fight) last night because im just so heart broken. I've been looking at houses online, and trying to think of all we need to do here and then its just not even an option. I am angry and hurt because what now? I am just forced to live in a house too small, old, and falling apart because he doesn't want to move and would lose out on this house he bought 6 years ago with his ex wife? I honestly don't care if we lose out on $20,000 right now, we need to get out of this house and it isn't going to get any better any time soon. I would NEVER let anyone buy a house like this and im forced to live here now. How is this going to work? I have been so unhappy with this place and have put up with it for 3 years. He always says I don't pay for it so i can't complain. At this point I don't know....does this break us up? I can't handle bringing another person into this shit hole.....I don't even have a clue where to go from here. He says point blank, no and I have no control and he isn't interested in trying to make me happy obviously. I just feel like leaving but all these years have thought if we ever break up it will be over the housing situation and now im pregnant and want to be so excited and can't leave him obviously and love him and want this forever family, but can't live here either.

Sorry for the rant. I honestly don't think i've ever been so down as I am right now, I feel really embarrassed about that rant but need to really get it out and fine out if im asking for so much here or if this is just my hormones?

I think all you can do it hope that he will realize you are only saying the truth and see how inappropriate the home is for a baby.

 

[Dew]

NY: my heart goes out to you dear...so sorry you are feeling this way...it's just so hard to convince our OH sometimes...they become hard as a rock when it comes to certain things...right now you are really discouraged so thinking about all things negative....give it some time, you'll both find a solution. I am sure what you told him last night must have gotten registered in his head and he'll be thinking about it next couple of days, if you stay calmer, things may work out finally. It's such a big difference between his financial state and his parents....wish they loved him enough to help him with current situation. How about your family...can they be of some help? Cheer up! He is definitely excited about the baby as he wanted to buy you the scanner so he is not gonna want to lose you. It's better to rant here than to OH

 

[Dew]

Well, I talked to Medicaid today and my application was denied b/c of my temporary job income being too high for April. So I have been referred to a different program and have to contact them late next week if they haven't contacted me first. Great...

When do you stop working? Do you plan on finding another job? Hopefully DH will find a job soon and you'll get insurance coverage through him.

 

[babyhopes2323]

ok ladies.. im trying to remember everything ive read from the last two pages..

Dew, thanks for your support,., no headaches today.. i was drinking lots of water even when i had the headaches so i guess its just the hormones..

Sarah and Dew and Mummy.. well we got a congratulations text from MIL this evening.. asking when it is due and that its good news so i guess she was ill yesterday which she did mention.. so far so good.. i hope it carrys on normally and this way..

Sarah.. yay for your BDing starting tonight.. Mummy.. excited about your scan !

dew... fx'd for your cycle this month..

Nyp.. im so sorry about what you are going through.. you know i dont want to cause you any tension or anything but i saw this show on tv about kids who lived in houses where mould grows.. they could catch this thing called strac something its because of mould that grows in the house..and mould is also not good for pregnant women. so please i would suggest instead of getting mad at DH, obviously shouting at him is not solving the situation, could you maybe try and explain in a nicer way about the health of the baby and the space required?

im praying it works out for you.. i know how mad you must be about the ex thing.. but right now if you maybe dont talk about the ex thing and talk about the baby would be understand? i dont know im just suggesting thats all.. i sooo hope it works out for you and no its not your hormones alone, it is a genuine concern you have , but dont make hasty decisions about leaving etc.. maybe if you brought up some information about health hazards for the baby? hope it works out.xxx


hope everyone is doing ok.. ive had some cramps today so im just about to read on that..otherwise everythings been normal..

 

[sherylb]

Well, I talked to Medicaid today and my application was denied b/c of my temporary job income being too high for April. So I have been referred to a different program and have to contact them late next week if they haven't contacted me first. Great...

When do you stop working? Do you plan on finding another job? Hopefully DH will find a job soon and you'll get insurance coverage through him.

My last day was yesterday. I am hoping that he will find something soon as I had a really hard time adjusting to working through exhaustion and feeling generally like crap more days than not. He doesn't expect me to work.

 

[nypage1981]

Yes all of that advice seems perfectly reasonable to me, but he links it is fine here. I've brought up mold and other stuff health wise and he's not interested to hear about it. Ihave seriously two choices. Leave or live here. This is the hardest spot I've been in my life. He scrubbed all the mold with Blech and thinks that's fine. It isn't and ive told him this and he shut down that conversation too. I'm so lost

 

[Dew]

Yes all of that advice seems perfectly reasonable to me, but he links it is fine here. I've brought up mold and other stuff health wise and he's not interested to hear about it. Ihave seriously two choices. Leave or live here. This is the hardest spot I've been in my life. He scrubbed all the mold with Blech and thinks that's fine. It isn't and ive told him this and he shut down that conversation too. I'm so lost

Considering your situation I would suggest fixing things in the house like doors/screens, re-paint, re-caulk and getting rid of old clothes, furniture, etc, basically clean the mess to create extra space. Get the carpet washed. Warm season is already here in Minnesota, you can either hire college students looking for summer jobs or invite your friends over to help with some of these things. Talk about the above with OH after couple of days. We need to create a positive atmosphere for other person to start thinking positively around us. Your OH needs your support, he might already be freaking out from inside thinking about the same. Since you are not contributing financially, you have bigger responsibility to provide emotional support. Just the way you are thinking, he also needs to know if he is making a right decision by having his baby with you. Sorry for the lecture....hopefully you'll take in a positive way.

 

[Dew]

I just got my smiley on clear blue ovulation detector so assuming I am ovulating tomorrow. We BDed last night and will try it tonight and tomorrow as well. I was wondering if exercising wil push out what we might have deposited yesterday...?

NY: Wish I could meet you for a coffee or lunch or go out window shopping. We might be living in the same city, who knows, but I would like to keep our privacy intact so we can openly discuss things on the forum that we can't discuss with family or friends in real life. Just wanted to tell you that I am thinking of you in that way like a concerned buddy.

Preethi: yay MIL showed interest

Sheryl: Good that you are not working anymore and can relax in a way you had been wanting to. DH will find a job soon and good times will return