ok so who wants to get pregnant in 2011? (closed group)

[Huggles]

no bd'ing at all for us for the whole duration of the pregnancy (because of my incompetent cervix)

 

[sherylb]

Wow! Hadn't thought about that. That's a long time Huggles.

 

[flyingduster]

Sarah, I'm so happy your'e healing and doing well! Continue to be good for now, it sucks to be on bed rest, but better to do as you're told for now than to ruin it and have to go BACK to even LONGER bed rest later! lol!

ny, I was offered a scan at 8-9 weeks, but I didn't have any time off that week (it was only going to be a dating scan to match size with age) and I'm 100% confident in my dates (lol, there is NO lee-way, I KNOW the date I conceived! lmao!) so it didn't worry me to miss out on the early scan! So hence my first scan is going to be the 13 week one!!! I soooooooooo can't wait, cos I've seen peoples scans at that age and they're little babies by then, not just a blob that they are at 8-9 weeks! lol. Very exciting.


As for BDing... we haven't BD'd since my BFP (though we have. *cough* enjoyed each other still *cough*) but this morning at some stupid hour before 5am we were both awake and must have had some interesting dreams or something cos we were at it like rabbits with no word said about it! LMAO!!!! Just a mutual desire thing... it was nice actually! I'd sorta forgotten the lust thing, all the previous BDing was me worrying about baby making, this was pure fun, and at such an early hour of the morning! lol!


Wow NDH, 6+!? lol!!! Me and hubby only want two but of course this one would be enough, and if we had 3 I'm sure we'd cope!


Huggles, no BD for the whole time is ok, You can still have fun together! Try to still have fun, or it could be really hard. Yes, nothing is quite like a good BD, but it's the intimacy you need to maintain as much as anything... Even when we feel like shite! lol!

 

[Huggles]

I somehow missed a whole page of updates when i was checking in the early hours of this morning

How many children does everyone want?

I used to want 8
Crazy, i know.

Anyway, it's now down to 4. But dh is pretty set on only having 2. And after what happened last year i'll just be happy to have at least one at home with me. But i think i'd really like at least 2. I suspect that's where we'd stop though. I don't really think 4 would be realistic financially.

I used to want to be finished having kids by the time i was 30. I didn't want to be an old mom. I wanted to enjoy my kids and have the energy to run around with them.
Unfortunately i only met dh when i was 25 and we only got married when i was 27 (well, technically 24 and 26 seeing as my birthday is at hte end of the year). And I wouldn't have kids before I was married. And he wasn't ready when we did get married. Then we wanted to go to London for a year (or actually 2) so we agreed that we'd only try once we got back. Got back beginning 2009 and i stopped with depot. AF returned in sept and we got bd'ing. I think my first real cycle was december (really wonky cycles before that) and that's when i fell pg with Jarrod. At that point in time I had already shifted my original plan of being finished by the time i was 30 to being finished by the time i'm 35, but i really wanted my first before i turned 30.

I got that wish, just not quite the way i'd wanted it. Now, if this one goes to term it'll be born just before my 31st birthday - so at least i'll still be 30

I am good. Nothing to report. I have looked into dopplers and heard there are some good ones on Ebay for cheap if you know what to get. I don't yet but I have read some reviews.

I was talking to my neighbor about us not having health insurance and I may try to get on medicaid for pregos Friday. Have to see if we would meet the requirements but she says they cover everything. Her first appt when she found out she was prego w/o insurance was going to be $1200!! Yikes!

Wow, that's a crazy amount for a first appointment! Hope you get cover with medicaid.

 

[Huggles]

Boo, just had a call from the gynae's rooms. He's got surgery the morning my first scan was booked, so the date has been moved on a week

She offered me other days that same week, even the same day just a different time, but I can't make any of the other times. 12 April was also an option, but i have a meeting that morning So now it's Thursday, 14 April.

I will be exactly 8 weeks, which is the exact same gestational age that we had Jarrod's first scan!
However, it also means that we won't have hte scan before dh's birthday

 

[NDH]

Boo at your scan dates being changed

And it sure is funny how our "best laid plans" never work the way we wanted them isn't it? Just gotta go with the flow cause it's not worth stressing when they don't work out.
I always wanted to be a young mom too - as I wanted a big family I "gave myself" til I was 35 to be done having kids lol.

I've wanted at least 6 for as long as I can remember. When DH and I first met and started talking about kids early in our courtship he wanted 2 or 3. We were going to compromise with 4, but he still wasn't so sure about that as to him, 4 is a number where I would have to stay home and not work. But then he decided we should homeschool, so as that meant I wouldn't be working anyway (out of the home anyway - I'll still try to work from home if possible) he now want's 10 lol. We'll see. At this point dunno if one will even be feasible... might have to fill our home with foster kids. Though we'll probably foster regardless at some point.

 

[babyhopes2323]

Hey Sarah glad you're doing ok

Been to the soca and got confirmation... No hematoma to report yay !!!

Baby was measuring 8weeks and 6 days and had a hb of 175

I'm so glad the clot part is over! The second sac is still there but poses no threat and will take time to dissolve!

No sex for me, just being cautious but I agree with u on other ways to have fun

I don't work here and don't intend to because of the baby
And I'm thankful that I don't have to pay tax here so life is comfortable plus expats from the uk or USA get great packages so I'm blessed that way.

Nyp i muddled the doctors name, it's Marcus pace not page

Lol Sarah the doc who found the hematoma is the one I went to for confirmation today
And to nypages question I would like 2-3 kids

Flying I'm sorry but I'd have to say they are not blobs at 8-9 weeks
I saw Tiny tiny and feet and head has taken shape too

A blob or nothing to see would be between 5-7 weeks and I can says because ive been for scans every week since week 5 I've had about 9 scans on total! Lol

Hope everyone is feeling better xxx

I've fixed the doc I wana see and my next scan is on the 6th of April so I'll be about 10 weeks

 

[babyhopes2323]

Sorry I saw feet arms and head taken shape already

 

[Huggles]

Wohoo for no more hematoma!

I must say that my first scan of Jarrod was at exactly 8 weeks and it was pretty much just a blob. So maybe it depends on the person and on the baby? I know my friend's first scan you could see tiny arm and leg buds already.

Will report back on what i see at this one's 8 week scan in 3 weeks' time.


ETA: Scrap that, I've just found Jarrod's first scan pics and his first scan was at 7 weeks! I was so sure it was at 8 weeks. Oh well, my mistake.

 

[sarahincanada]

I used to want to be finished having kids by the time i was 30. I didn't want to be an old mom. I wanted to enjoy my kids and have the energy to run around with them.

huggles ouch that comment stung a little!! I honestly do not feel any different now at 38 than I did at say 24. Time goes so fast, but you are still the same person and you will feel the same when you are 38 Im sure. My sister is 48 and has a 12 year old, she goes to concerts (we just took her to Justin Beiber!!) and does things with her kids all the time. I used to think 48 was old but my sister acts the same age as me! I think the key is to keep active and take care of yourself. I understand if someone is 50 when they have a child it would be hard to have energy to run around, but I think anytime up until early 40's you are the same as being in your 20s

Preethi yay I am so happy there is no hematoma! so are you still going to see the person on saturday, the one you thought you will keep as your doc for the rest of the time or do you prefer the one today?

 

[Huggles]

I used to want to be finished having kids by the time i was 30. I didn't want to be an old mom. I wanted to enjoy my kids and have the energy to run around with them.

huggles ouch that comment stung a little!! I honestly do not feel any different now at 38 than I did at say 24.

Sorry Sarah, I really didn't mean to cause any offence at all!

It's just I look at my sil (dh's sister) who had her kids at 38 and 41 and I look at how she is with them - never has time for them, finds them an irritation and can't wait to ship them off to daycare, and I look at myself when i used to au-pair in my early 20's. BIG difference.
BUT, we are also very different people and I think that is probably where the main difference comes in, not necessarily in the age.

There are one or two other reasons as well, but I won't go into them here, I really didn't mean to cause offence so i'm really sorry if i did.

 

[nypage1981]

Good news baby!

 

[flyingduster]

YAAAYYY baby!!! No more haematoma!!!! The lovely doc that you really like was RIGHT, so you can stay with him! YAY! heh.

And I'm sure that there are lil arm & leg buds etc at 8-9 weeks, but the movies and photos I've seen it is still a fairly general roundish shape with a large head and without a face or long arms & legs yet... That's all I meant! I didn't mean it was only a blob, but it wasn't as 'baby-ish' as when compared to a 13 week scan... (cos that's all I'm getting! lol)

Me and hubby have always wanted to be young parents too, and we chatted about kids very early on as well! lol! But somehow over 5 years has gone past since we met before we got pregnant; where the heck did those years go!? lol. But we will still have this bub before we're 30 (we'll both be 27, as bub is due a month after my b'day!) so there's a chance we'll have our second before we're 30 too... Hubby wanted kids before he was 25 though! lol. But 30 is still fine... haha. I have a sister who's 12 years younger than me, so my mum was close to 40 when she had her (and my brother, only 2 year earlier) and there was no problems with her keeping up. Infact, mum did a lot of home based childcare at the same time; taking in a couple MORE young kids every day to care for. Since then she went on to doing teacher collage to become an early childcare provider and has, for the past 10 years, worked with preschoolers ever since! There's no way she's not keeping up with them!!! lol. So don't worry Sarah, I have the fullest expectation you WILL do totally fine!!!



OMG! 11 weeks!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[sarahincanada]

I used to want to be finished having kids by the time i was 30. I didn't want to be an old mom. I wanted to enjoy my kids and have the energy to run around with them.

huggles ouch that comment stung a little!! I honestly do not feel any different now at 38 than I did at say 24.

Sorry Sarah, I really didn't mean to cause any offence at all!

It's just I look at my sil (dh's sister) who had her kids at 38 and 41 and I look at how she is with them - never has time for them, finds them an irritation and can't wait to ship them off to daycare, and I look at myself when i used to au-pair in my early 20's. BIG difference.
BUT, we are also very different people and I think that is probably where the main difference comes in, not necessarily in the age.

There are one or two other reasons as well, but I won't go into them here, I really didn't mean to cause offence so i'm really sorry if i did.

its not a big deal! I put some !! to let you know I wasnt seriously upset. I think its hard as time goes so quick and I feel that exact same as I did 10, 15 years ago but people view you differently and I get quite defensive! Funnily enough someone that works for me thought I was in my late 20's and was shocked when I said I was 38.

For me I feel more ready now as Ive done well in my career and can work less hours per week for better money and so will have more time now than I did 10 years ago. But there are probably a lot of people like your SIL out there too, but like you said I think its more of a personality thing.'

dont worry you didnt upset me, I just wanted to have my say

 

[babyhopes2323]

sarah , ill be sticking with the doctor i liked and saw. not the one from today. so im happy yes. !! it says on your ticker you are in your fertile period?

but are you still bleeding from the polyp? im so excited ab out you getting your bfp soon..xx

cant wait !!

flying, no worries, i know you didnt mean it like that, i was surprised too because the google images didnt show me much, but trans vaginally, its amazing how clear you can see when your not scanning from your abdomen !!

omg 11 weeks..... so excited for you !!! one more week and then you can tell the whole world !!!!

i myself honestly dont think age matters at all , because look at me, i may be young, but me and my dh have a huge age difference and some narrow minded people may not like it, others may talk about it and some maybe ok with it as well. we may have an age difference, but i find myself more comfortable with older people than people my age because i dont find them as mature and im not comfortable with them, i think with babies as well, as long as your good to go, go for it and give them a chance at life ! you will be fulfilling your dream and wish of becoming a mother and thats all that matters.

i was a bit upset with dh because we were arguing a little about the nt scan and what we would do if the results came as high risk. he feels its unfair to the child to bring it into the world with difficulties for it to face and hes talking from the babys point of view whereas im more of ill have it no matter what it comes with.

but im sure he will be ok no matter what because in the end, im not going to go through a termination come hell. if god wants to gift me a child with difficulties, then thats his choice and im going to have to deal with it.

sarah, hope your feeling better and your usual bubbly self now after recovery ! xx

 

[sarahincanada]

sarah , ill be sticking with the doctor i liked and saw. not the one from today. so im happy yes. !! it says on your ticker you are in your fertile period?

but are you still bleeding from the polyp? im so excited ab out you getting your bfp soon..xx

cant wait !!

flying, no worries, i know you didnt mean it like that, i was surprised too because the google images didnt show me much, but trans vaginally, its amazing how clear you can see when your not scanning from your abdomen !!

omg 11 weeks..... so excited for you !!! one more week and then you can tell the whole world !!!!

i myself honestly dont think age matters at all , because look at me, i may be young, but me and my dh have a huge age difference and some narrow minded people may not like it, others may talk about it and some maybe ok with it as well. we may have an age difference, but i find myself more comfortable with older people than people my age because i dont find them as mature and im not comfortable with them, i think with babies as well, as long as your good to go, go for it and give them a chance at life ! you will be fulfilling your dream and wish of becoming a mother and thats all that matters.

i was a bit upset with dh because we were arguing a little about the nt scan and what we would do if the results came as high risk. he feels its unfair to the child to bring it into the world with difficulties for it to face and hes talking from the babys point of view whereas im more of ill have it no matter what it comes with.

but im sure he will be ok no matter what because in the end, im not going to go through a termination come hell. if god wants to gift me a child with difficulties, then thats his choice and im going to have to deal with it.

sarah, hope your feeling better and your usual bubbly self now after recovery ! xx

hi!! yes I am coming into my fertile period I guess, if my cycle is like last month I will ovulate on sunday. but last month was a 28 day cycle and other months have been 30, 31 so I hope its a little later.

I am still bleeding, this morning there was hardly anything over night so I put on a panty liner thinking that was it, but I just came home and there was more than this morning so I put on a pad. She said we can BD once the bleeding has stopped, so if it stops by the weekend we will probably start trying. Im hoping that my flying and the operation hasnt messed things up at all and I will ovulate as normal.

the age difference thing I hear you....although Ive always thought its accepted for the man to be older but you still have people not approving?? for me having my husband 9 years younger is shocking to many people. I was 29 when we met, and he was 20. He really pursued me as I didnt think Id ever date someone that young. A few weird 'fate' like things happened and we just fell in love and that was that. I barely notice the age difference at all now. At least our baby will have one young parent!!!

Thats a tough thing regarding the high risk scan, but Im sure your hubby would listen to your feelings and be ok if it ever came to that. I feel the same way as you, unless I was told the baby would have a terrible life or something. My cousin was handicapped, but his was caused during birth, I think they used forceps on him and the umbilical cord was wrapped around his neck and he was starved of oxygen for a short time. So sad, it all happened during birth. It was hard for my aunt and uncle raising him, as he was completely physically handicapped. But he ended up writing books and getting a degree! he used to have this headpiece with a stick on it and he could type out words. its like his brain was still working just not his body. Sorry waffling on a bit here!

so flying will you be the first to read the 2nd tri out of everyone? I keep forgetting where everyone is.

 

[nypage1981]

Hey girls-
Sarah- I hope your bleeding stops soon! The one after your surg could be the lucky cycle if you are able to utilize it. I think its cute that your hubby is such younger than you and that you say at least baby will have one younger parent. Thats funny. Your baby will love you and be loved no matter what age. They wont even know if you are old or not. No matter what, they will think their parents are old! I remember looking back thinking my mom was super old and here she had me at 19 so that wasn't possible since she isnt 50 yet!

Baby- I was debating on the NT thing cuz didn't wanna stress about anything else but it gains me a scan that i wouldnt otherwise be getting so i want to do it. I dont know what we would decide on the baby. I see a life of travels and adventure with our children and not sure what I would think of a different one. I work in a hospital also so see it a lot each day.

Happy 11 weeks flying!

I went to the doc today. Another scare and im getting so sick of it. I went potty and had a brown blob come out. Like a pea size and super scary. They didn't feel the need for a scan Booooo, but told me to come in and he'd do a doppler again. Which we just did 2 days ago so I heard it again but really wished for a scan. Doctor is not worried and said its fine though so said I didn't need one. I think im losing my mind and i'm losing all joy in this. Wish my body weren't so cruel. After a MC and now the spotting and blobs. I think I feel like I was not mentally ever over the MMC over a year ago? This pregnancy is making me realize im not very emotionally strong for this and hope I just get through without being put in a white padded room! Ok, sorry for the ramble, maybe I should just get a therapist.

 

[NDH]

Yay for no haematoma Baby! Ny, sorry for another scare - sounds like you need to move to Dubai so you can get a scan anytime you worry.

Sarah, glad you seem to be on the mend - I hope the bleeding stops before O so you have a chance of catching this cycle! To elaborate a little on my comment about age as well - I see absolutely nothing wrong with having children in late 30s or 40s if you're blessed to be able to do so. I just didn't want to be still having babies over 35 planning to have so many. I didn't think with 6 already (for example) I'd have the energy to keep having and raising babies still at 35+. But now I don't mind too much how old I'll be when my youngest is born, I'll just be thrilled to have as many as I'm blessed with.

 

[NDH]

Oh and I forgot to wish flying happy 11 weeks!

 

[sarahincanada]

Hey girls-
Sarah- I hope your bleeding stops soon! The one after your surg could be the lucky cycle if you are able to utilize it. I think its cute that your hubby is such younger than you and that you say at least baby will have one younger parent. Thats funny. Your baby will love you and be loved no matter what age. They wont even know if you are old or not. No matter what, they will think their parents are old! I remember looking back thinking my mom was super old and here she had me at 19 so that wasn't possible since she isnt 50 yet!

Baby- I was debating on the NT thing cuz didn't wanna stress about anything else but it gains me a scan that i wouldnt otherwise be getting so i want to do it. I dont know what we would decide on the baby. I see a life of travels and adventure with our children and not sure what I would think of a different one. I work in a hospital also so see it a lot each day.

Happy 11 weeks flying!

I went to the doc today. Another scare and im getting so sick of it. I went potty and had a brown blob come out. Like a pea size and super scary. They didn't feel the need for a scan Booooo, but told me to come in and he'd do a doppler again. Which we just did 2 days ago so I heard it again but really wished for a scan. Doctor is not worried and said its fine though so said I didn't need one. I think im losing my mind and i'm losing all joy in this. Wish my body weren't so cruel. After a MC and now the spotting and blobs. I think I feel like I was not mentally ever over the MMC over a year ago? This pregnancy is making me realize im not very emotionally strong for this and hope I just get through without being put in a white padded room! Ok, sorry for the ramble, maybe I should just get a therapist.

hi! I like it when you give long updates, I miss you when you are not around. and that is so true, you always think of your parents as old! I always joke to my hubby that we have it perfect, as the man often passes away before the woman in life (in my family anyway theres always been a widow for 20 or more years), where we have evened it out a little! what a thought to have!

I hope the bleeding stops soon too, Im not holding out too much hope for this cycle and will be more enthused for the next one I think. I know people say they fall pregnant after a D&C and this is similar, but not sure why that is? I googled pregancy after polyp removal and found a site where lots of people got pregnant the month or 2 after their polyp removal, but I dont think their ovulation was as close as mine is to my op. I will be raring to go next cycle!! it will be like trying all over again.

I cant believe you had a brown blob this morning, why cant it all just go away do you think if you werent having any spotting you would be feeling the same, really worried all the time? as the answer to that would tell me whether you should perhaps talk to someone or not. I think its normal to feel how you feel when theres spotting etc. I know my best friend was worried all through hers after she had MC her first, and now she has a beautiful baby girl she says she wishes she could go back and change it all and enjoy it more. I really cant wait for you to move along and be months gone and no more spotting