ok so who wants to get pregnant in 2011? (closed group)

[sarahincanada]

Yay for no haematoma Baby! Ny, sorry for another scare - sounds like you need to move to Dubai so you can get a scan anytime you worry.

Sarah, glad you seem to be on the mend - I hope the bleeding stops before O so you have a chance of catching this cycle! To elaborate a little on my comment about age as well - I see absolutely nothing wrong with having children in late 30s or 40s if you're blessed to be able to do so. I just didn't want to be still having babies over 35 planning to have so many. I didn't think with 6 already (for example) I'd have the energy to keep having and raising babies still at 35+. But now I don't mind too much how old I'll be when my youngest is born, I'll just be thrilled to have as many as I'm blessed with.

hi fellow non pregnant person!!!! it will be our time soon
whats funny is that I can imagine when I finally have a baby I will wish Id started sooner and want many more. I have 3 rescued dogs and 3 rescued cats so when I like something I like it! I cant wait till you have your first of (5-10) babies!!

 

[NDH]

Lol first of 5-10 - I like it! And now that your polyp is gone and you know your DH has super swimmers you still have lots of time to have a few more if you like. I love that your pets are all rescue animals. No pets for us atm as we'll be renting, but when we have our own house we'll definitely be getting our pets from shelters too.

 

[nypage1981]

awwww, thanks sarah.

I really don't think at THIS point i'd be so worried if it weren't for the spotting. Probably in the very very early weeks of like 6,7,8 i would have been either way, but hitting 10 weeks and having some ultrasounds and stuff should have made that all better. I would be fine if there were no spotting. Especially a blob! That certainly freaked me out. Doc though it to be some clot or just "tissue" he said from the spotting that was old. Because it was dark brown/black, he says its nothing new happening. But still, its making me insane. I told him that, I can't handle many more times of using the restroom and seeing spotting or blobs. He said it is not affecting the baby right now so just have faith.

So, im talking to my bean now. I am begging it and letting it know i do have faith in it. I told it today, it is not you, baby, that im losing faith in, it is my own body. Hope it helps. LOL. Listen to me all wacky! BUT, they've done studies on the success of talking to plants, flowers, seeds, etc and that it helps them grow and thrive so why not a baby!

--I think the reason people get the bfp's right after something like that is maybe mind set. Seriously. Think of the kind of sex you will be having when you can again. It will most likely be the "baby making kind". When we were in New York we had this amazing sex that just felt like the baby making kind and here we are! I hope you are quick- it would be fun to be your bump buddy

 

[sarahincanada]

awwww, thanks sarah.

I really don't think at THIS point i'd be so worried if it weren't for the spotting. Probably in the very very early weeks of like 6,7,8 i would have been either way, but hitting 10 weeks and having some ultrasounds and stuff should have made that all better. I would be fine if there were no spotting. Especially a blob! That certainly freaked me out. Doc though it to be some clot or just "tissue" he said from the spotting that was old. Because it was dark brown/black, he says its nothing new happening. But still, its making me insane. I told him that, I can't handle many more times of using the restroom and seeing spotting or blobs. He said it is not affecting the baby right now so just have faith.

So, im talking to my bean now. I am begging it and letting it know i do have faith in it. I told it today, it is not you, baby, that im losing faith in, it is my own body. Hope it helps. LOL. Listen to me all wacky! BUT, they've done studies on the success of talking to plants, flowers, seeds, etc and that it helps them grow and thrive so why not a baby!

--I think the reason people get the bfp's right after something like that is maybe mind set. Seriously. Think of the kind of sex you will be having when you can again. It will most likely be the "baby making kind". When we were in New York we had this amazing sex that just felt like the baby making kind and here we are! I hope you are quick- it would be fun to be your bump buddy

I dont think that you have gone then, is when people are worried for no reason, and you have had reasons. I do think its been hard from the start for you to get excited about this pregnancy as you had the MMC before. Then you started to spot just like before. I think its very natural to feel how you have been feeling. At the same time, I think it is possible to shift your mind to more positive thoughts even in times like these, but its hard. and I think its good you are talking to the baby!

I do think everything will be fine and they always say brown blood is fine. I hope we are looking back at all this in 6 months with our growing bellies (you almost ready to pop) saying remember when!!

I think the reason Im not too enthused about this next cycle is because I cannot imagine great baby making sex yet! Ive been really sore in my neck and shoulders which is supposed to be normal from the anesthetic. plus with the bleeding and a little soreness down there. Id love to ovulate in about a week from now! sunday seems too soon so lets hope this is a longer cycle for me.

what Id like is NDH to get her bfp next cycle and then me the one after that I really just want mine by June to tell my family in August so Im ok waiting a few months!!

 

[NDH]

I was just gonna say the same thing then Sarah - wouldn't that be awesome if we could all accomplish pretty much what you hoped when starting this thread? And if I'm pregnant right now (AF due overnight, trying to resist temptation to test until Monday if AF is no show) and you get pregnant this cycle you're on, then every one of us can have a full term 2011 baby (FXd for healthy, full term pregnancies all around)! Fantastic! Even if it takes you and I a couple more months we'll still be doing well statistically on this thread.

 

[nypage1981]

I do agree about the positive thoughts. I definately need more! I will never forget the pregnancy with my 7 year old and how lovely and blissful it was. It certainly has been hard to get excited. Once my MC last year happened for some reason it put me in the mindset that the same would always be my fate. So to even get to 10 weeks has been amazing to me.
Hope we are looking back at it soon too and remembering it all! And shopping for clothes and nursery things.

I would totally feel the same as you. I get kinda grossed out by anything happening Down there and with a surgery I may not muster up the ability to have sex for a week or so. Do you think sex could cause spotting again, if it were to stop or is that totally it once its done? Too bad he couldnt just use a turkey baster and put it up there nicely

Well then thats the plan- NDH- you need to be next! Come on, then!

 

[sarahincanada]

I was just gonna say the same thing then Sarah - wouldn't that be awesome if we could all accomplish pretty much what you hoped when starting this thread? And if I'm pregnant right now (AF due overnight, trying to resist temptation to test until Monday if AF is no show) and you get pregnant this cycle you're on, then every one of us can have a full term 2011 baby (FXd for healthy, full term pregnancies all around)! Fantastic! Even if it takes you and I a couple more months we'll still be doing well statistically on this thread.

omg I didnt realize you were that far along in your cycle. FX'd!
and yes, that would be amazing. it would also be funny if I was the only one who didnt get pregnant and give birth in 2011 of everyone oh well, if I was lucky for everyone thats ok with me!!!

 

[sarahincanada]

I do agree about the positive thoughts. I definately need more! I will never forget the pregnancy with my 7 year old and how lovely and blissful it was. It certainly has been hard to get excited. Once my MC last year happened for some reason it put me in the mindset that the same would always be my fate. So to even get to 10 weeks has been amazing to me.
Hope we are looking back at it soon too and remembering it all! And shopping for clothes and nursery things.

I would totally feel the same as you. I get kinda grossed out by anything happening Down there and with a surgery I may not muster up the ability to have sex for a week or so. Do you think sex could cause spotting again, if it were to stop or is that totally it once its done? Too bad he couldnt just use a turkey baster and put it up there nicely

Well then thats the plan- NDH- you need to be next! Come on, then!

haha good idea perhaps I should get some sort of plastic syringe and push his super sperm up there! Im so worried about germs. my hubby is clean, dont get me wrong, but I do worry about him having a tiny bit of dirt on him and me getting an infection.

I think once the spotting is done that should be fine, and I dont think sex would start it again as the wound is high up in my uterus but you never know....i dont really understand exactly why its still bleeding anyway (it was only 1 cm in size and they cauturize it) but then again I never understand how I can have so much blood during my period either!!
it says no strenuous activity for 2 weeks on my hospital sheet, but FS said I could have sex once the bleeding stops. Guess I will have to lay there while it happens!!

awww I wish so hard that this pregnancy turns into the blissful experience you had with your 7 yr old. we dont talk about her much, its usually about TTC. is it amazing being a mother? does she know you are trying? and is your hubby the father? sorry if too personal I just have a feeling he isnt with the age gap I thought you might have mentioned that before.

 

[NDH]

You will most definitely BE pregnant for most of 2011 though. Absolutely.

 

[nypage1981]

But hey if you did muster up some baby making time, his swimmers may even be more super. duper since you've taken a few days off. Just go with the flow. Sunday is 3 days away so if it is that day you may be all good!

My OH is not her dad but a very amazing step dad. Her dad and I have a good relationship and its a good situation. Being her mommy brings me to tears with pride. It's my best job in this life for sure. She doesn't know we are trying or pregnant yet. She has been the only one for 7 years so its tough but will be fine. I do love being mommy and Ella though, that is for sure!

Think ill wait a bit to tell her. I'm not ready yet.

I hear you on the germs thing. I mean not to sound gross but men's thingy can have little germs on them from the day, and they dont wipe after peeing! After my miscarriage it was a while union is allow him without a condom which we never use but I was paranoid of infection. Just be careful and maybe have him shower right before? That to me, would feel ok and safe.

 

[sarahincanada]

But hey if you did muster up some baby making time, his swimmers may even be more super. duper since you've taken a few days off. Just go with the flow. Sunday is 3 days away so if it is that day you may be all good!

My OH is not her dad but a very amazing step dad. Her dad and I have a good relationship and its a good situation. Being her mommy brings me to tears with pride. It's my best job in this life for sure. She doesn't know we are trying or pregnant yet. She has been the only one for 7 years so its tough but will be fine. I do love being mommy and Ella though, that is for sure!

Think ill wait a bit to tell her. I'm not ready yet.

I hear you on the germs thing. I mean not to sound gross but men's thingy can have little germs on them from the day, and they dont wipe after peeing! After my miscarriage it was a while union is allow him without a condom which we never use but I was paranoid of infection. Just be careful and maybe have him shower right before? That to me, would feel ok and safe.

yes I was meaning to ask you all about that, I think hubby should maybe ejaculate a couple of days before what do you think, I didnt want stale spermies!! or you think its better to save it up? and believe me the germs on his thingy is exactly what I was thinking of!! I will definitely make him take a shower and inspect it lol I might not be able to go through with it!!!

oh thats great you have a good situation with her dad and hubby is an amazing step father. it must be such a nice feeling to create a baby with him too. a friend of mine had a baby when she was in her 20's but her marriage didnt last. when she was in her mid 30's she met another guy and married. they tried for their own children for ages and even had 3 rounds of ivf but it never happened. they ended up adopting which was ok as her hubby had been adopted. I know she always wanted to have a child with him and Im not sure what changed with her body from 20's to 30's.

I do sometimes worry what if the polyp was nothing to do with it and my eggs are rotten or something. but I quickly get rid of those thoughts and just think of the current goal!

I just looked at my sheets, last month I got a smiley face CD13 and thats actually on Saturday, and I think I ovulated CD14. so that would mean Id be best to BD saturday. hoping its a longer cycle and no smiley face, tonights 2nd line was very faint when I pulled it out so FX'd

 

[nypage1981]

If you have him ejaculated is do it tonight since you'd probably want to sfr Saturday and Sunday if your close to ovulation. That is if you can go through with it!

Maybe with your friend it was the male had issues? Idk just thinking.

Have you had your variant reserve tested? Just wondering as you expressed concern for your eggs. It could put your mind at ease to know the condition of your eggies.

Adoption- I was begging OH to let's adopt a hold of 4 or 5 to bridge the gap between kids but so far no. I would really have liked to though. We need a bigger house though!
We have 2 rescue dogs, 1 cat, and one kid and a "cozy" little house!

 

[flyingduster]

haha baby, well vaginal scans are not an option for me, so unclear abdominal ones it is!

But I've already told the world! I told them all at around 7 weeks!! lol. It's all over my facebook (I have a weekly thing that comes up with an update, ie this morning it posted a wee blurb saying "I'm 11 weeks!" lol), I've told people in person, and told clients and everything. Everyone knows, so there's no secret for me to spill any more!!! lol.


Sarah, yup I think I am the first one who'll go into the first tri?? NY is close behind me though (6 days)... And technically I think it's not second tri until 13 weeks anyway!

I'm so pleased your bleeding is slowing down hun! I hope it stops soon and you are in the mood this weekend!! lol.


ny, UGH! I'm so sorry you had another blob!!! I'm glad you heard the heartbeat again though, but ugh... sucks. I hope it all clears up ASAP and you have a wonderful happy pregnancy hun!! I think talking to the baby is good. Grow lil baby, grow!!!


NDH! Wow, FX for a BFP!!! I had no idea you were at this stage too, sooo close! FX FX FX!!!



heh, both my dogs are rescues as well, and 4 of my 6 rats are too... lol! The cats aren't though (My boss used to breed burmese, and a few years ago she offered me a choice of either a Christmas bonus [cash] or a kitten... lmao! Guess what I chose! Hubby had to get one too, as they were born on his birthday, and I raised the litter myself so they're my babies, even if they're not 'rescues'!)

 

[babyhopes2323]

Hey sarah, well its a positive thing if youve read that many women get preggo in their second month. you go for it then as soon as the bleeding stops.

unfortunately society always frowns upon people who live their lives a little out of the norm and theres nothing you can do about it. when we got married, we knew what was coming for us so we said if we ever got stares or something from people, we would just think they were staring because we were celebrities or really good looking ! lol !!

and now im past the point of caring about what people think because if they wish to be rude based on our age difference, then theyre narrow minded and havent seen the world and are just not worth talking to.

i dont know about the NT scan to be honest, i dont know if i want to go for it as you know what a worrier i am, even if im given some odd numbers of one in a 1000, i may still be worrying, knowing the kind of person i am, so i may skip it altogether. the doctor said oh looking at your age i dont think it should be a problem but he gave me a leaflet which said the contrary !!

anyway i dont know if i should worry myself about it by going for the scan, maybe after 12 weeks i should just sit back and enjoy it as first trimester is basically the survival stage for most pregnant women and when it sinks in and helps us stay at ease is usually after the much awaited 12 week scan

ny, are you sure your no constipated and it could be a result of that? i mean if you are pushing too hard, it could cause a little spotting and stuff?

funny they wouldnt give you a scan and as NDH says, go to dubai ? maybe because here its all insurance covered and as many scans as they give you, they get that much payment of the insurance companies so scanning.. no problemo here !! although the obgyn ive decided to stick with, marcus, says i dont think you need a scan every week for no reason, i dont know how safe it is and i shall you after two weeks !

and i was thinking yikes ! im so used to a weekly or more, what am i going to do ! but then the 6th of april makes me about 10 weeks so the fetus should look much better then !

NDH and sarah, i really do hope you guys get your BFP's soon xxx

 

[NDH]

Thanks Preethi.

So tomorrow will be CD1 - started spotting tonight. I'll put my ticker up too, I just wanted to see if I taking it down would help me not obsess. I did have a less obsessive cycle but don't think it had anything to do with the ticker lol.

So onto lucky cycle 27.

 

[Huggles]

Fx'd it'll be the magic cyle NDH!

 

[sarahincanada]

hi everyone!

NY- I seem to remember he was tested and ok, she would talk about it being her. Too bad, but as he was adopted he was more than fine with adopting.
Well we didnt end up doing anything last night, so would have to take care of hubby tonight. But then Im thinking perhaps just wait till Saturday and if Im not bleeding anymore attempting a session and then Sunday too. that way I get all of the first load and then a 2nd. sorry sounds awful, the things we talk about!!!! I am still bleeding, its very watery dark brown. Im also feeling a little crampy / tender 'up there' and of course started worrying about infection but I dont have a fever so I think Im fine.

I havent had my eggs tested but I will ask about that next time. Do you know how they test for it? I dont want to go for any surgery for a while so if they need to go up there I will wait! I have a post op next month and she said to try naturally for about 4 months then come to see her to talk about options like Clomid.

awww your house sounds lovely and cosy. did you get a big dumping of snow there recently? we got a big dumping on wednesday and I was glad it was the day after my op not the day of.

when will your doppler arrive?? I think you said hubby ordered one. Im sure that will be nice to be able to use that. and so when is your next doctors apt?

oh wow your ticker says your baby can now do rolls and stretches!

flying - we will have to have a celebration for our first girl getting into 2nd tri, what date do you think it will be? I will order cake to be sent around the world LOL.

thats so cute you have told everyone! I will tell my sister and 2 friends who know we are TTC. My mum said she didnt want to know till 3 months as shes a big worrier. Thats why Id love to get a bfp by June so I can tell her when she comes late August. I have visions of wearing a cute tshirt saying hi nanny or something.

what kind of dogs do you have? I have 3 jack russells. And rescue rats I didnt know there was such a thing how cute!!!!

babyhopes - I like the sound of this marcus! its not long to the 10 week scan, oh Im so excited for all of you. I wish the next couple of weeks could go quicker, I will be in the boring 2WW (or maybe not if we dont end up BDing so it will be even more boring!) and all of you will be waiting for your milestones.

I dont think you should have that NT scan if it will only make you worry. You've already said that you would give birth whatever the outcome so why have the stress. I am not sure if I will, perhaps due to my age I should but its such a difficult thing.

I agree with what you say about society, and I think you sound like a very mature person so its silly to think people might say you shouldnt be with your hubby. From your small photo you look lovely together so I doubt you get stares unless they are thinking wow who is that beauty!! Luckily hubby and I look about the same age, I look younger and he looks older. He has started to lose a little of his hair in the front so that helps him look older. I am trying to lose 30 pounds as I feel weight makes you look older but I love my food and havent been able to!

ndh - awww sorry about the spotting. I wish we could have a crystal ball and know when you and I will be getting our bfps! we can be happy that we have women around the world praying for us and this has been a lucky thread so it has to happen for us soon! so did you feel better about this last cycle being that you didnt obsess as much? I think it would be good for you to continue what you did this month, it has to be better for your body and soul. its crazy how hard it really is to get pregnant, so much has to line up and work in the one month. thats why Im not too convinced I will suddenly get pregnant now the polyp has gone, as theres still all the other factors that have to line up. dont ever give up hope ndh, there are so many women on here who get their bfp out of the blue after months and years of trying. it will happen!

mummy- where are you and how are you

huggles- how are you doing, whats your plan of action with doctors apts right now?

phew that was a long post, see what happens when Im on bed rest!! im going for a reflexology appointment today. talk to you all later

 

[MummyCat]

I'm here.... just had a few days with little internet activity... mostly because I've been ill. Had a gastro bug that my darling daughter passed on!

Poor Lottie's been so ill... I've done nothing but wash bedding and her clothes. Monday night, she had 4 sessions of getting ill in the middle of the night, all required pyjama and bedding change. for the last few days she's had a runny tummy and each poonami requires a change of clothes as the nappy can not handle that level of explosion. Wednesday she was in 6 different outfits!

Anyway.... I'm resigning on Monday. I'm giving them a months notice and I'm pulling Lottie out of nursery at the end of Easter. I can't have her this ill... it's unfair on her.. it's unfair on me, because I can't go to work, so I feel like a bad employee and a bad wife as I don't get paid if I don't go to work and it's unfair on Mike because on days like today when I HAD to go to work, he had to look after Lottie and have conference calls at the same time!

Anyway... enough about me...

Sarah hope all is okay! Good luck for this weekend!
NDH... so sorry to hear about the spotting! for this cycle!!
Baby.. glad the haematoma is gone!!
Flying..happy 11 weeks hun!
Huggles... good luck for those blood tests today!
Ny... sorry to read about the blob I hope all is okay!!

 

[sherylb]

I am going to get my HSG and progesterone levels checked in a few.

 

[MummyCat]

good luck Sheryl!!