omg! please help me!

[14andpregnant]

I'm 14 and have just found out I'm pregnant and I don't know what the hell to do! I'm so mad at myself for letting this happen. I can no way tell my parents but I don't believe in abortions. Help me please. I'm forever crying at the mo!

 

[HannahGraceee]

All you can really do is tell your mum and dad hun! they may be annoyed at first but im sure they will get used to it and help you! after all your mum and dad will never stop loving you whatever happens

 

[Ju_bubbs]

Sorry you're going throught this, but as said above.. you have to tell your parents, or another close relative maybe? No matter what you decide to do, you're gunna need support to decide, and go through with your choice.

 

[MrsJD]

All you can really do is tell your mum and dad hun! they may be annoyed at first but im sure they will get used to it and help you! after all your mum and dad will never stop loving you whatever happens

I second that.

It will seem the end of the world just now but once you tell them it will be a big weight off your shoulder.

X

 

[14andpregnant]

I know I've got to tell them at some point but how? What's the best way to go about it? They'll be so angry and I have confrontation fears

 

[Jo]

It is better to get it said sooner rather than later, then all the tears and tantrums can be gotten out of the way and then the focus will shift to you and your babys wellbeing
My daughter is only 4 years younger than you and i would prefer she tell me ASAP so i could look after her, yes i would be angry and but probably more disapointed and sad than anything else

Good luck x

 

[HannahGraceee]

I know I've got to tell them at some point but how? What's the best way to go about it? They'll be so angry and I have confrontation fears

Take them to one side and tell them gently, let the sit down ect ect.. im sure they will respect the fact that your grown up enough to actully tell them in the first place!
i know when i told my parents, it was like the world was lifted from my shoulders!

 

[MrsJD]

I know I've got to tell them at some point but how? What's the best way to go about it? They'll be so angry and I have confrontation fears

I would tell one of them and let them tell the other, who are you closer to?

 

[Aidan's Mummy]

hey hun im 17 with a little 7 week old boy. The best way to tell them is just sit them down and talk. This wont go away hunni you will have to tell then sooner or later. Sooner wpuld be great because the ypu can stop worrying
xx

 

[Ju_bubbs]

I was shitting it about telling my parents when I got pregnant at 15.. I told mum, coz altho i knew they'd both go mad, mum would go the least mad! I didn't have the guts to do it face to fae, so I called her from my bf's house, and just said mum, i'm pregnant. She didn't take it well at first, and said you'd better come home so we can sort out an abortion then!

I got home, in floods of tears about that, and told her how much I didn't want an abortion, and she was fine with it! She was even my birthing partner and we shopped together for baby stuff while I was pregnant!

Parents are usually a lot better about these things than we think they will be! Once it's sunk in!

 

[Jkelmum]

Tell them as soon as u can it will be a huge weight of your mind i was 14 when i had jake he is now 13 things work themselves out XxX

 

[nikky0907]

Tell your mom you need to talk to them about something very serious and then you can write it on a paper and hand it to them if it would make it easier for you.

Do it as soon as possible so they have time to get used to it and get over the huge shock.
It's gonna be hard for everyone involved but you need the help and support from your parents to getn through this...


Please, any question you may have you can write down here. Good luck!

 

[x-dannielle]

you'll feel so much better once you've told them. i was15 when i found out i was pregnant mum wasnt to happy at first but soon got round it im 16 now and expecting in 3weeks and my mums dead excited! x

 

[Abblebubba]

Honey please i cant stress how important it is that they know for you and the babys safety
I made this mistake last year i did not tell my mum or dad anything and i went on holiday and i just thought if i forgot about it everything would just go away, but it didnt and i lost the baby on the plane home and was rushed into hospital the next day to have an operation my mum was so scared and so dissapointed in me.
It broke her heart to think i did not trust her enough to tell her.

Your mum will understand and help you, she will be mad at first but it wears off and she will support you, you are still young you cant do this on your own.

Maybe take her to the doctors with you, and they will help you break it to her?

Take care

 

[leeanne]

It is better to get it said sooner rather than later, then all the tears and tantrums can be gotten out of the way and then the focus will shift to you and your babys wellbeing
My daughter is only 4 years younger than you and i would prefer she tell me ASAP so i could look after her, yes i would be angry and but probably more disapointed and sad than anything else

Good luck x

I agree. I have a daughter too and if she was that age and got pregnant, I'd be upset too but would support her in every which way. And I'd hope she'd tell me about it ASAP.

Good luck sweetie.

 

[aidensxmomma]

Hey hun.
I know this can be a really rough time, but you need to try to relax. Telling your parents really is the best thing to do. I know it can be hard. I was 16 when I got pregnant with my son. My mom wasn't the happiest person in the world, but eventually she came around and she was there when my son was born. I had a hard time telling her that I was pregnant again, at 17, but once again, she's started to come around. A good thing to do before you tell them is to have a plan. Figure out different ways you can finish school and all of that stuff. It will be hard, but not impossible. I'm still graduate with my class, on time, this May. So like I said, just relax. Sit them down and just flat out tell them. They will be mad, but they'll come around. Good luck.

 

[esther]

Hey sweetie, big hugs for you! What a scary time it must be at the moment.

Firstly have you been to your doctor and had your pregnancy confirmed? If you haven't, it is probably a good idea to go to the doctors and have them confirm this for you through a blood test, so they can also tell you how far along you are.

I can completely understand how scared you must be about telling your parents, they will be upset but at the end of the day they are your parents and will be there to support you and help you.

Maybe give it a couple of weeks to think about what you want to do before you tell your parents. Do you have a sibling you can confide in at all, or another person apart from your parents??

 

[christinalg]

Just sit them down and tell them. I know it's going to be hard but if you wait to long they might be more hurt that you didn't trust them enough to tell them. They will love you no matter what because your their daughter. The faster you get it off your chest the better for everyone. Good luck

 

[LilMama2be]

Things will only get worse the longer you wait to tell them.
You need to see a doctor early to start prenatal care to make sure you have a healthy baby.

 

[mama2b]

I can see why you would be scared. Im 24 and was terrified of telling my mum and rightly so because she went beserk !! She is still not happy now and the baby is due soon !!

If this had happened to me 10 years ago when I was 14 there is no way on this earth I could of told them !! If you are going to keep the baby then you are going to HAVE to tell them sooner or later if you are going to have an abortion then as long as you have support from other people you don't have to tell them.

Good luck with whatever you decide