On the road again graduates

[RedWylder]

I am finding out the gender and I just cannot wait. This is what I've been waiting 20 week for- to finally be able to say I'm having a little boy. Or a little girl. I really don't care! I'm just done with this whole 'it' business.

I would love to have baby zumba time right now. I've been really trying to hold back to worry that my LO isn't moving yet. I *might* be feeling flutters occasionally but I'm also just as sure that it could be gas. I'm 19 weeks 1 day and dangit something should be going on by now!

 

[Left wonderin]

Red dont worry that all sounds normal !! The gas is it isn't question will start becoming more definite to that has to be baby about 2o - 22 weeks . A lot depends on how baby is lying , and where your placenta is . If you have an anterior one ( to the front ) its harder to feel the kicks as the placenta Shiels you !!!

 

[Starry Night]

Babies all decide to make themselves known on their own time and each woman is different. When I first started to feel DS at 16 weeks my SiL refused to believe me as you apparently can't feel babies until 24 weeks. (she's bit of a know it all at times). So it is obvious that is how long it takes her to feel her babies.

And even though I felt my son early I was not able to do kick counts until past 30 weeks as I simply could not feel him that often. I had enough scans to know he was extremely active. I just couldn't feel half of it.

 

[anchor08]

Well, Evelyn is officially American! She was from birth really, but we took her to the U.S. consulate yesterday to register her and apply for a passport (so we can take her home for a visit soon!). Then today she celebrated Thanksgiving in true American style -- she ate too much and made herself sick. Nothing alarming, she just has barely spit up once or twice before, and tonight she really let it go, at least a full feeding's worth! She's asleep now though, so hopefully everything's settled. I feel like I've been christened as a mommy.

 

[Starry Night]

Aw, bless little Evelyn. Already an American abroad. lol

And baby spit-up always looks worse than it really is. Poor thing. I always dreaded getting the spit-up in the mouth. I've seen it happen and it looked really gross. My son was a spitter-upper (big time) so I rarely ever held him over my head or had my mouth open when he was near my face.

 

[skyesmom]

oh anchor! happy thanksgiving and happy momma christening! that's hilarious!!

red - can't wait for you to find out!!! keep us posted!

hugs to all of u ladies!! can't wait to join u with a super-sticky bean!!!

 

[anchor08]

That's a good reminder, I'll have to be careful to keep my mouth closed! I don't mind it really, it's no worse than any other mess babies make, this was just a very large volume. I just hope she figures out to eat a bit less! She fed like crazy again this morning and then lost it again, though not nearly as much. The fun thing is how happy and peaceful she is afterwards!

 

[skyesmom]

i think this is a necessary part of the learning process - she's learning how the "too full" feels and what are the consequences, so as soon as she gets her hang on "oh, this is a full tummy" she'll stop overfeeding... and decorating u with vomit!!

 

[Starry Night]

Some babies also just have a hard time keeping it in. My son's doctor reassured me that it had nothing to do with my over-feeding him. I mean, over-feeding did make it worse but I just got used to be covered in baby spit-up. He did it until he was about a year. The hard part was getting all the "you're feeding him too much!" criticisms. But he was following his growth chart perfectly and the doctor kept telling me to do what I was doing. DS has struggled with the "full" sensation so I've had to keep a tight control on that. He will often eat until he throws up....and then keep on eating! He's 2 1/2 and is just starting to figure that out. He's also become a picky eater so he's actually starting to fall below the growth curve.

 

[RedWylder]

Well today is the day! My scan is 3:30pm AK time so I wouldn't expect an update from me until late.

 

[Starry Night]

So excited for you!!! I can't wait to find out what you're having. Good luck!!!

afm - today dh and I were supposed to go Christmas shopping and follow it up with a date night but we couldn't find a sitter. I'm actually really depressed about it. We have no family near by and since we live in a small town, there are not many people we trust enough to watch him during the day. Finding a sitter is always tough. There is a Christmas banquet this weekend for the adults in our church and we can't find a sitter for that either. I'm going to have to miss it. I missed it last year for the same reason. DH and I can never go out. With all my m/s in the first tri it's been a long time since we've gone out just the two of us. It's getting to the point where I don't want to get out of bed.

 

[skyesmom]

oh red so so curious for your news!!! i'm all pins and needles !!!! all the best for your scan!!

 

[Left wonderin]

Red wahoooooo , Goodluck with your scan .... I'm guessing a pink bundle
Starry I hear ya can't remember the last date night I had !!!!!!!! But in the grand scheme of things ill cope lol......... Will only get harder when my LO arrives . I live in a rural area so family offers of babysitting will be few and far between !!! Thinking there will be lots of family date nights instead !!!

 

[Starry Night]

Don't get me wrong, I love going out with DS. He's fairly manageable. He's happy in the car seat even though it's 1 1/2 hours to the city and he's usually OK being in the stroller all day (though that now needs a toy or two to keep him happy) and he's good in restaurants. But I want adult time. I want to go to the movies, for pete's sake! And soon he'll be too old just to drag along to Christmas shopping otherwise the gifts won't be a surprise. He's already getting upset when we don't let him play with the toys right away but he's still young enough we can distract him and make him forget about them.

In the past, DH and I have tried to go once a month and out here we've had some success with that but it's always like pulling teeth to get someone to sit. I'm so stir crazy and tired of being in Mommy-mode. I want a fun night out with DH where we can just kick back and have fun.

Like, I'm REALLY depressed. I spent the whole day in bed so far. DH thinks I'm sick but I'm just sad.

 

[Left wonderin]

Oh Starry I'm sorry your feeling so down not having family around must be so hard is there no one in church that could give a dig out ?? One night is not a lot to ask !!!!! And maybe you could return the favour ? Is it that no one is available today or s it an on going problem

 

[Carybear]

so sorry Starry! Are there no teens or young adults who would be willing to earn a little cash? I've already got my eye on two girls for when I ge to the point where I need a sitter. I understand the staying in bed because you feel sad. I don't have any kids yet, but I am with kids ALL day and Sunday too! I understand the desire to just be with adults and talk about adult things without someone wanting your attention every two minutes. I'm praying you find a sitter and get that shopping and date night!

Red!!! I can't wait to see what you are having... Hope he's not camera shy and poses for ya. Did I just say he??? LOL!! Stalking to see if I am right...

Anchor... as the first graduate to have your rainbow, you are definitely making me smile... Careful not to get caught in the spitup... So happy for you. Gives me hope that my turn is coming soon

Rayray how are ya doing?

Left... I'm really glad you passed your diabetes test.

Topanga, how are you?

SKyesmom, how's it going?

 

[Starry Night]

There are a few teens in our church who sit but EVERYONE goes to them for sitting which I think is a bit unfair as they all have family who can watch for them but they all have 'opinions' on asking family to sit. They think it's wrong. Um....what??? That's what grandparents are for!!! My parents sit for my brother all the time. As long as you ask ahead if it works for them then what is the problem?

There is a couple we have an agreement with but both work full time and shopping will take the day (as I said, it's a long trip to the city). I think it being Christmas time makes it harder as well. Dh said he's going to call one of our go-to people and simply ask what day works for them and we'll work around that.

I think I am really just stir-crazy as it's been a long first trimester. And right now I don't know if my depression is making my other concerns seem worse than they are of if it really is all these disappointments making me depressed. And I'm wondering if my iron is getting low. I have been feeling lethargic for over a week now and it keeps getting worse.

My sadness has been building for some time and today's outing was something that brightened me up whenever I got really down. I see the OB in two weeks so I know I need to bring up the depression and lethargy up to her though I am anxious about taking any sort of drugs to help. I don't know if I fully trust them during pregnancy.

 

[Carybear]

I would definitely bring it up to the OB... and know that there is nothing wrong with feeling sad or depressed, but when you have your rainbow in your arms you will be so happy It will all be worth it.

 

[skyesmom]

Starry - so sorry that you're having such a hard time! sounds like your hormones are playing a rough game on you, like having the worst kind of bummer-depression style pms that lasts for months! one that makes everything seem way worse and complicated than it really is and makes you just give up in front of everything. i would definitely bring that up to your OB, maybe she can help you with medication/dietary supplements/diet change?

Carybear i'm also thinking it's a little "he" for Red's little bump, so so anxious to find out finally!!

as far as i'm concerned, i'm fine but feeling really really broody these days, i can't think of anything else but having a baby, i'm longing for my rainbow so so hard and it literally occupies 95% of my thoughts when i'm alone, not to mention before going to bed.
i can't bring it up always with my OH as i'm afraid i'll just scare him from ttc/ntnp, and make him feel under pressure. i have no clue how women cope with this. any advice on this matter??
I feel my entire productivity, organization skills, motivation and creativity is suffering because of this. I invest so many hours on dealing with this (and depression i got after the losses) every day, but i can't help it, emotionally speaking it's my highest priority and all the rest is secondary, even though i really do LOVE my job. I've healed A LOT over the past two years, and my depression is way more manageable and not a daily issue anymore, but baby fever and broodiness... that's a whole other chapter.

 

[RedWylder]

Oh starry im so so sorry. Depression is so damn painful and reallyt akes a toll. Hang in there!

Skyes...i know what you mean. I remember how utterly consuming TTC was. Every hour of every day was spent thinking about a baby. It finally got to the point after two miscarriages that I gave up. I was so unhappy that I just quit and focused on loving my husband and the time we spent together began to mean more than just babymaking. It was a wonderful change of pace and thats when I concieved this little rainbow GIRL!!!!!

Yes im having a girl! It turns out my gut instinct from first tri was completely right. I only began to think boy when I started second guessing my intuition. Baby girl is completely healthy, bendy, ans doing great. I have an anterior Placenta which would explain the lack of movement I feel. Im sooooo overwhelmed with emotion that I just need to go lie down and take it all in. I will post pics tomorrow.