one aspect of the day i am dreading

[kezza2012]

FAMILIES! omg i am dreading it, i wont go into detail cause i would be here for ages explaining it all lol, so.. my family seems to be abit messed up at the moment, here goes.. my mum and dad spilt up last year so they hate each other at the moment.. well more my mum hating my dad lol.. then my sister and my mum dont talk.. my sister and brother just dont have any time for each other and havnt spoke for god knows how many years. I am dreading them all being in the same room on the day, i can sense the atmosphere already. i know none of them would start any trouble, but the atmosphere will be there if you know what i mean. Plus i will have to keep an eye on how much my mum has to drink as she does like to talk when shes had a few.... last year at my brothers wedding she was telling total strangers about her and my dad, it got to the point where my brother had to pull her to one side and not so politely tell her to keep her mouth shut

arrghh im probably just panicking already and for nothing, but i do plan on telling them all if they aint gonna be civil on the day then to not bother coming, and if any of them do start on the day i will personally escort them out of the building. lets hope things change by next year!

Dont really know what the point of this post it, guess i just needed to get it off my chest lol ​

 

[aly888]

Aww hun, families are probably the trickiest bit of any wedding. I'd suggest doing as you say and just mention to them all that you haven't got time to babysit them on the day so they either behave or don't bother. Balls in their court then. If they then decide to show themselves up on the day then that's exactly what it'll be, 'showing THEMSELVES up'!
As for the tension, try and ignore it. Don't spend your day trying to relieve it. None of your other guests will notice it and again, they will only ruin the day for themselves.
Fingers crossed the situation is different before the day, but if not I'm sure your day will still be just as lovely

 

[Lauren25]

Aww easier said than done but try not to worry!
As my Mum says everyone should forget whatever's going on because its your day and everyone should go out of their way to make your day perfect!
But then I have MIL going on about things like OHs nan being a bit funny about who she sits with and apparently family friends on OHs side were asking who they'd be sitting with, WTH!!!!! It's our wedding and they will sit where I tell them to and if they don't like it then don't bother to come and sit round the table!

I'd deffo mention something but aswel your weddings 11 months away so maybe things might have settled down by then!

 

[kezza2012]

families eh? lol fingers crossed things will change in 11 months but i aint holding my breath especially with my sister and mum they are both sooo stubborn, they need thier heads banging together lol

 

[wannabemummyb]

I had similar concerns before my wedding, my folks split up 12 years ago and do not talk at all. My mum and her partner are alcoholics, i had never introduced her to dh's parents!
I did not have a traditional top table, which helped!
Everyone was surprisingly well behaved (we left when my mum started getting hammered), mum did go and talk to dad at one point, saying "don't hate me"....luckily i walked out at that moment, so dad came straight over!
Families!