One thing after another ..

[Jayden'sMummy]

ok so does any one else realize that when you think things are starting to go good and then a load of bad things happen one after the other! To start off Adam [bumps dad] fucking with my head which i don't need at all, he cant make his mind up at all, he continually changes his mind or tells different people different things. Then i got a really bad chesty cough and because they wont give me anything for it, its getting worse and now i just found out my Grandad, who has been fighting cancer for the last two years has been took into hospital because he lost a further 3 stone and they found the cancer again but this time its spread to his lungs, this time they cant treat it! am scared because they don't think he will have long, what if he doesn't get the chance to meet bump, bump will grow up not knowing him, he is the bestest man ever!

sorry had to get it out

 

[Vickie]

I'm sorry, it does always seem that when bad things happen they come all at once doesn't it?

 

[jenny873]

i wouldnt let your babies dad bother you, lads love to mess with ur head swapping and changing their minds over babies, at the end of the day i think if he really didnt wana know he would have said from the start. sorry to hear about your grandad though hope he gets better or atleast stable atleast until you have ur baby. xxx

 

[Always&4ever]

Firstly I'm sorry to hear about your grandad *hugs* as for Adam, i'd tell him he is to make a choice and not to contact you until that choice has been made, harsh I know but its the baby that matters in all of this and its not fair on u not knowing whats going on

 

[xarlenex]

Sorry to hear about your grandad I hope hes got the strength to keep him going to meet your little one

 

[xarlenex]

Oh and adam, just try your best not to let him get to you. You have more important things to worry about in the mean time, you dont need him upseting you

 

[Ellianna]

Sorry things are rubbish huni

Like someone said, I think you need to tell Adam that he needs to decide once and for all what he's going to do and how involved he's going to be with the baby because what he's doing now isn't fair on you or the baby.
Hope things get better with your granded, its horrible when things like that happen to people you love. Just try and stay as optimistic as possible (easier said than done I know)
You know I'm here sweetie
xx

 

[Jayden'sMummy]

Thanks for the advice!

Things just don't seem easy for me at the minute and things with Adam don't make life easy, i am going to try and forget about him for know and concentrate on what is really important, Bump and Grandad!! i need both of them to stay strong and healthy, i want them to know each other so badly. its just hard when everything goes bad at once, coming on here and talking to everyone on here helps me so much. just hope my Grandad gets better and carries on fighting. He keeps telling me " everyone has to die at some point " i just don't want it to my Grandad thats all.

xx

 

[Serene123]

MEN!! They're all so confusing. I'll never get them, EVER. Just tell him to make his mind up one way or another because floating around in the middle isn't doing any of you any favours!

Hope your grandad gets to meet bub x

 

[GAURDIANANGEL]

yepp don't even worry about adam.

i hope your granddad gets to meet baby. =]

 

[Jayden'sMummy]

Me too !

 

[vickilouise]

awwww rach, just tell adam to leave you alone till you've had the baby hun. you dont need him adding confusion and messin you around. if he decides to see the baby fine but for the time being concentrate on you and your baby. what ever stresses you feel your baby does too so you dont need is he? isnt he? doubts you've got enough on your plate with your grandad.
keep your chin up!!!
hopefully your grandad will be okay and see your baby.
xxx

 

[jchaney85]

I kno how you feel hun I feel like the same way sometimes just with different things. Your going to feel like its the end of the world and there is nothing u can do but keep your head up when things get at their worst there is always light at the end of the tunnel. Im soo sorry to hear about your grandfather I will keep him in my prayers. As far as bumps dad goes you cant listen to what other people say, people will talk and its just bcuz they have nothing better to do with there lives. dont worry about him you dont need the stress either. Like I said keep your head up and things will get better.

(wow I dont know why I cant take my own advice LOL)

 

[YummyMummy2be]

Hey hun, sorry to hear bout ur grandad!
Don't listen to the babys dad or his m8s cuz lads r always doin this type of thing cuz at the end of the day it isn't them that its hurtin or gettin to..
Keep ur head up hun
Chat sooon
xx

 

[Emmy_Lou]

Sorry to hear about your grandad, I hope he will fight long enough to meet your little'n.
You need to ignore your bumps dad until he can decide what is important in his life. You don't need to deal with him being silly and childish, you already have enough on your plate and babies health is no. 1.
Let people talk, they have nothing better to do. You know the truth and thats all that counts. Let Adam know that until he knows what he wants, you dont need the hassle, and you don't want to harm/upset baby with the stress. It might be the kick up his arse that he needs to realise what counts! Hope everything gets sorted with him, and that your grandad can hold on.

 

[Tam]

ok so does any one else realize that when you think things are starting to go good and then a load of bad things happen one after the other! To start off Adam [bumps dad] fucking with my head which i don't need at all, he cant make his mind up at all, he continually changes his mind or tells different people different things. Then i got a really bad chesty cough and because they wont give me anything for it, its getting worse and now i just found out my Grandad, who has been fighting cancer for the last two years has been took into hospital because he lost a further 3 stone and they found the cancer again but this time its spread to his lungs, this time they cant treat it! am scared because they don't think he will have long, what if he doesn't get the chance to meet bump, bump will grow up not knowing him, he is the bestest man ever!

sorry had to get it out

Sorry you have this going on! I really hope your Grandad is strong and proves everyone wrong and gets to meet your LO, my Mum managed to see my sister's little boy, she held on and more! Sadly when I had Alfie, my Mum was not here and it really kills me that she never got to meet him and that he will never know her, as she was the best person you could ever wish to meet, but he got me thru it all, he kept me sane and gave us all something to look forward to and live for again! I do like to think that my Mum is here somehow and can see him and is enjoying him and enjoying seeing Jade continue to grow up as she idolised her, they idolised eachother!

I really wish your Grandad well babe! x

 

[Jayden'sMummy]

Thank everyone!

yesterday was so hard for me, i just now realize that to get through this is just to ignore what everyone else is saying and concentrate on Grandad and bump like yous have said. Things will hopefully get better, and tomorrow i am going to visit my Grandad, i really hope i can do this with out breaking down in front of him, the last thing he needs is to see me stressin over him.

xxxx

 

[Tam]

Good Luck tomorrow hun, I am sure you will be fine and I am sure his face will light up, seeing you! x

 

[Jayden'sMummy]

Went to see my Grandad today, it was the most emotional thing i have ever experienced in my whole life. To be expected he is on so many drugs to stop the pain he doesn't know who he is anymore, but when i walked in the room he kept calling me Claire [who is my cousin were both pregnant], she showed him her scan picture yesterday and when i showed him mine he kept telling me i had already showed him yesterday, then about 10 minutes later he was asking my auntie who i was and why i was in his house, i couldn't talk or anything because the lump in my throat was ready to explode i had to walk out, i sat in the bath room and cried my eyes out and my auntie came in n hugged me n said it was because he was so mixed up of the drugs and stuff, they said he hasn't got much time, to make the most of our time with him

Am i being selfish for wanting him to stay alive to at least see bump at least once ??
i don't know what am going to do, it was scary looking at him like that, he weighs next to nothing and its like hes shriveling away to nothing, i kept trying to smile when i was in the room with him but it was so hard, which i knew it would be but when your Grandad doesn't remember who you are really hurts!

will keep you updated on how he is xx

 

[Jayden'sMummy]

My grandad sadly passed away the end of march 08 after suffering from cancer for the past two years he was 85 and had a really long and good life i miss him so much but it was time to say goodnight.

peace is yours so gently sleep grandad
youll never walk alone xxxxxxxxxx