One Tubers

[katstar]

hi blue. Whats this fertility clinic done? Sounds like you have had an awful time with them? X

 

[Blue12]

They have made some really insensitive comments and basically never read over any of my results until I am there and leave me with half answers and they were supposed to give me a plan of action and they didn't and they are avoiding returning my phone calls and I just bet that at my appt tomorrow that they will do the same things all over again, say some insensitive things, and try to leave me with no plan of action. Unfortunately for them I am coming armed with questions and I am not leaving until they give me answers or they refer me to another specialist or let me speak to their clinic director. Sorry if I sound really angry or crazy.

 

[puppymom32]

Good for you Blue dont take their crap. From what I have read it sounds like the NHS can be pretty difficult to deal with. Sometimes I am glad we dont have one over here.

 

[Blue12]

Hey guys so looks like im out. Been told today that both tubes are no good. Also have two infections that I need medicine for, and got metformin for pcos.

Waiting for surgery...then ivf.

Best wishes everyone.

I know I don't have NHS either... Im in Canada. The doc was much better today.

 

[puppymom32]

Awww Blue so sorry well at least now you know what is going on. Hope the IVF works for you and you can get in real fast. I think I am out this month as DH and I were putting on a new roof building a deck and doing a million things this past week and a half. Got my positive OPK on Thur and my temps have been everywhere so who knows. BD on Wed and Sunday so probably out this month. I am sorry hun you can stay here with us one tubers still if you wanna.

 

[puppymom32]

Hello Ladies,
How is everyone doing. I am 7dpo and trying not to symptom spot this month or think about how long I have to wait. DH and I have been doing major house work. We build a deck on the back of this house the weekend before last and last weekend we tore off and put on a new roof. We have been major busy cant wait to just relax this weekend. Now we have to pick out patio furniture cant wait.

 

[puppymom32]

Wonder how we get TEAM in front of our Name.

 

[katstar]

hi guys. Sorry not been on here for a week or so. Blue i am so sorry to hear about your news. Its so sad. I hope ivf works for you. Well i am currently in hospital waiting for surgery. Praying they are not taking my only tube. I had the meth shot three weeks ago and i responded really well to till this week when my beta started to climb again. From 68 last week 72 this week. I have had a scan and they have found 3 cysts on my right ovary, a mass in between my left and right ovary (more to the left) and fluid behind my uterus. They dont know if the mass is in the tube or not and they dont know if the mass is pregnancy bits or a blood clot. They said that if the mass is in the tube they are going to try to preserve the tube but if its too damaged they will have to remove it. i am so shocked all this is happening as i thought it was nearly over. I am prayin the mass is not in my tube or the tube can be at least saved. I hope that if they take away my tube i can still be in this team along with blue. I have got to know you all and love taking to you. Please pray for me ladies. I will let you know what happens. X x

 

[puppymom32]

Kat,
So sorry I was wondering how you were doing. U can definetly be part of our team we are a family. I hope its becuase you still have your tube. I know how scary not knowing whats gonna happen can be. So sorry things have been so bad. I will be praying that everything goes good for you and they get it all taken care of. Let us know how you get on. Best wishes.
Amy

 

[katstar]

Hi guys i hope your all well.

What a mess!!

Well i was all preped and ready for surgery and the doctor shift change happened. My doctor who had been dealing with me all day had to go home. The new doctor came in and said 'look if we go in and the mass is in your left tube, then we ARE taking it away' We don't try and preserve anything. I was mortified by this as i had been given hope all day by the other doctor.

Then the new doctor said why not try methotrexate again. I told him that the other doctor said it will be no good. He said its worth a try and thats what i did. I know its a slim shot but i have to try and fight. At least then if they end up taking the tube anyway, i can at least say i tried.

I am so scared. Feel like a ticking time bomb.

When they told me about the mass on the left i was actually shocked because i was not having any pain or anything. Now i am having a niggle. i know its there all the time. I had the methotrexate yesterday so i hope that kicks in today or tomorrow to sort it out. All i can do now is pray and hope for the best.

I have been looking at ivf if the worse comes to the worse but it costs so much. It will take me over a year to save. Then what if the 1st cycle does not work? Another year of waiting while i save.

I thought about egg sharing to lower the cost and it is something i thought of doing after i had children anyway but i told my partner about this and he is not keen at all.

Please pray for me ladies.

 

[Blue12]

Katstar I am so sorry that you are having to go through this right now. This is so unfair.

When is all of this to take place? What are you taking the methotrexate for? (sorry for my spelling).

If it does come to ivf for you (which I hope it doesn't) would you be covered by the nhs? I am in canada and they cover a lot of the cost when you do not have tubes or they are both blocked - because then obviously it is medically impossible to get pg.

My thoughts are with you and I will pray for you.

 

[oliveoyl]

Hey Girlies,

Sorry for being MIA for so long, I'm getting tired of this TTC caper!
AF arrived yesterday, so hoping I O on the 'good' side this month.
Started acupuncture & hope that helps too.
I'm giving us till NOvember, then will book another appt with Fertility Specialist to see what is next, as next year it won't be easy for me to take time off work for appointments so would rather get things started now.


Blue - all the best with your surgery. I'll be thinking of you hun. I hope IVF works out for you - I'm just a pm away if you need to vent/chat, although we are in different time zones. xx

Puppymom - fingers crossed for this cycle for you, hope you caught that eggy

Katstar - oh hun, I'm so sorry you've had such a crap time lately. I hope the methotrexate does this trick for you and you don't have to have surgery. *fingers crossed*

Sorry can't see other replies (can't scroll back) but sorry if I've missed anyone and wishing you all the best xx

 

[katstar]

Blue - i had my first shot of methotrexate on 12th august. Then it was a pregnancy of unknown location. (It could not be seen on the scan) My levels only got to 372.

15th august beta 313
18th august beta 130
25th august beta 68 (But was told by sister nurse beta low to be discharged the follow week. Did not get number )
1st sept started work but hospital called beta at 72 was told to come straight in from work.
3rd sept scan done. Found mass measuring 1.5cm in between the left and right. More to the left. Could not confirm if it was in the tube or out of it due to not being able to see tube on scan. Also found fluid in my pelvic cavity and 3 cysts on my right ovary. (15th august had cyst on left ovary confusing)

3rd sept beta 75 - doc decided it was time for surgery and to go in. He said to drain the fluid, deal with the cysts as the biggest was 5.6cm and look at the mass. He said it may be just a clot. He said if it was in the tube they would try their best to preserve the tube. Even explained what the do. Make a small cut, scrape out the pregnancy, stitch up and give further methotrexate to make sure all pregnancy cells are gone.

I was preped for surgery and all ready within minutes for there to be a shift change and another doctor came to me and said i need to tell you that if you go in to surgery and the pregnancy is in the tube ' we will not try and save it and we will have to take it away' - At this point i was so upset and angry. So was my partner. For me to be given hope and then for it to become a fact that the tube is going to be gone. I decided to leave.
The doctor said he did not see why i could not have the methotrexate again. He said the cysts will be monitored (i have not had pain from these since thursday) my body will obsorbe the fluid and my beta to be monitored again.

4th sept 2nd meth shot given. Friday. This is the day that the pain from the cysts went and i started to feel the niggle in my left i also get pain in my left thigh.

Through all this, this is the first time i have felt ectopic symtoms so i know now its in my tube i keeping a eye on the pain and hoping the methotrexate does its magic very soon. It takes a coupld days to get into my system. If i still have pain by thursday and my beta have not changed, i will have to have surgery.

Blue - We do not qualify for NHS as we both have a child from previous relationship. His daughter is 4 and my daughter is 5. They said we would qualify if our daughters do not live with us but mine does. She is beautiful. We both feel something is missing and that is a child of our own to make our family complete.
I have been looking into egg sharing as there is a private clinic in london offering free ivf to egg donors. Its something i have always wanted to do anyway so i have been reading lots on it. My partner is not keen at all though

Oliveoly - it is so nice to hear from you. You were going through the same thing as me in 1st tri. Glad your keeping your chin up and still ttc. Good spirit love.


Thank you all for all your support. xxx

 

[puppymom32]

Kat,
What a big mess I would be so mad at that Dr. didnt seem like he was willing to try at all. With my first Ectopic they were able to go in and cut open the tube and keep it still in tact. I guess it just depends on who the Dr is. Praying that this last shot will work everything out for you and the pain will all go away.

 

[puppymom32]

olive,
Sorry you had a loss in Aug too. I had a chemical at the beginning of the month didnt end up Oing on the right side at the end of Aug so now hoping thing work out better this month. I am thinking about going back on the Clomid to give me a better chance of having an egg from the good side if it doesnt work this month. Hubby and I are still busy but not with house work stuff so should be Oing next week. Yipee here we go again. FXXX for all of you.

 

[oliveoyl]

Hey Kat, I hope yu are doing better today. *fingers crossed* the methotrexate does it thing. Thinking of you.

Puppymom - we're almost cycle buddies this month - I ovulate late next week! Clomid sounds like a good idea, I've wondered about using it, but twins would be a REALLY bad idea for us having a successful pregnancy, so I guess we will just wait it out.

xx

 

[Blue12]

Hey wonderful ladies!!!

I think about you all lots and anticipate the day of your bfps.

Olive - why are you hesitant in regards to twins - I know they are higher risk but also quite common - or is there another reason?

to all

 

[puppymom32]

Hey Blue,
thanks for the wishes. Let us know how things are going with you and when you will have your surgery. FXXX for you that everything works out.

 

[Dancingkaty1]

hi.....ive been booked in to have my fallopian tube checked in 2 weeks time....dreading the results as Ive only got the 1 tube. ( had 1 removed as a baby as it had cysts on). Husband has bad sperm, low count & motility so i dont know what they will do for us next. Cant believe its a year of ttc already Everyone around me seems to be preg & having babies i just cant handle it any more.
xx

 

[puppymom32]

hi.....ive been booked in to have my fallopian tube checked in 2 weeks time....dreading the results as Ive only got the 1 tube. ( had 1 removed as a baby as it had cysts on). Husband has bad sperm, low count & motility so i dont know what they will do for us next. Cant believe its a year of ttc already Everyone around me seems to be preg & having babies i just cant handle it any more.
xx

Dancing,
Welcome sorry you are stuck here with us one tubers. Hope you get good news in 2 weeks. Have you thought about IUI with your husbands condition. Maybe they can work it out where you O on your good side and do IUI at the same time. Best of luck I know how hard it can be and have given up several times during my journey but I know there is always hope.