Oh dear, what are we going to do with these consultants using the A word?!! Some of them just don’t understand the importance of language and how it is damaging, legally incorrect, and disempowering to women and families. It is making them feel as though they don’t have choices!
And what on earth are they talking about baby being the wrong position, and not offering different maternal positions?! It just beggers belief! The only physiological reason there should be for a failure to progress is Pelvis-cephalic disproportion (I.e babies head or body is too big to pass through the pelvis) You can have a normal breach, OR back to back, and transverse lie babies usually with uterine pressure find the right way to be (admittedly this takes longer, and is generally more intense on mum). Your current pregnancy is totally individual to your previous - your baby is very unlikely to be in the same position again!.. And as you have learnt, even if it is there are numerous things that can be done without prepping for theatre, if you and baby are not becoming distressed.
We know that if you are going into hospital to have your baby, you will be under the clock and pressure to birth in their “policy” time-frame - which is just bonkers! Of course you can always refuse all interventions.. Hey no one is even ALLOWED to touch you (this is where WE should be using this word), without your permission!!! But the pressure will be substantial, and it is hard to be relaxed if you are having to refuse and being offered interventions and constant monitoring all the time. I have my own opinions on how damaging constant monitoring is anyways.
Your MW sounds brilliant.. I have found that some consultants just don’t understand normal birth - afterall most of them don’t get to even see it! Their day to day is emergencies, (which are routine to them) and they are inclined in this environment to think that everything is emergent.. And requires there radical input!
It is YOUR decision, but as you have asked what I would do - I would plan a home birth and then you will have better 1 to 1 care with your MW and then you can always transfer if you want to. This gives you the best chance for you and your baby of having a normal labour and birth.
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