Out of options...

[Jen26]

Hi everyone, I've been Ttc for 2 years and 4 months and have all the relevant tests and checks and all have come back fine. I'm ovulating normally etc. I had a Hsg about 3 months ago and the dr said my tubes were "open with pressure" but said he didn't think this was the reason I had not gotten pregnant yet. I really thought I would fall within 3 months of having this but I haven't. We've also been told that as my husband has children already from a previous relationship that we are not entitled for IVF on the NHS. We cannot afford IVF ourselves. I was told to "watch and wait" for 6 months but this was 4 months ago and still nothing. My husbands sperm is also fine.

I feel like I'm out of options, I feel like giving up... Maybe it's just not meant to be. I stopped buying ovulation tests last month as they don't seem to make any difference, we BD regularly whether I'm ovulation or not. I wish I could just get some answers... What the hell is wrong with me???!!! I wish someone could tell me if it wil happen or not so I don't put myself through heartache every month. At least if I knew what was wrong I could either try and fix it or accept the fact it won't happen but the dr says he can't really see any reason why I'm not falling pregnant!!!

Sorry to go on and I know that there is not much anyone can say but I needed a little rant. The Ttc journey has been so up and down for me that I don't think I can take much more. Maybe I'll just buy a load of dogs instead

 

[popchick75]

I'm so sorry that you are going through all of this I've fallen into the 'unexplained' category also.

There is something that came up with us this past year that had never been brought up before (we moved on to RE number 4). He felt that I had been getting pregnant all along, but had been having very early miscarriages or the embryo wasn't implanting. He mentioned getting tested for the MTHFR gene. It's a gene that causes blood clotting and makes it hard for the embryo to attach. When REs do their general blood tests, they usually check for basic clotting issues, but because this is a genetic issue, it's not usually tested for. If you had been tested, you would know it....they have to draw around 10 vials of blood just for the one test. They also test for lupus antibodies, which is also a clotting issue. It turns out I was positive for the gene. He said that he has had many patients with unexplained infertility that have tested positive for this and then have gone on to have successful pregnancies once treated.

It might we worth looking into. Google MTHFR and read some of the research!

 

[Jen26]

Thank you. I've never even heard of this before. I'm surprised my dr hasn't mentioned it. I will look into it. Thanks again xx

 

[popchick75]

We've been doing infertility treatments for 9 years and this is the first we've heard of it also. I think it just depends on you doctor.... it always helps to get a second (or third or fourth) opinion. Some doctors 'poo poo' things that you ask about, while others take it very seriously.

 

[Jen26]

I don't mean this to sound insensitive but how do you cope? I'm struggling after just over 2 years... I couldn't imagine waiting for much longer. Let's hope we both get our BFPs very very soon x

 

[popchick75]

Some months are better than others. I tend to feel better on months when I'm actively doing something...even if it's just something small. This month I'm taking baby aspirin, using softcups, and OPKs. This is the first time for softcups. I also got a + on my opk this morning which was a surprise...i'm only on cd11 which is pretty early. So now I have it in my head that 9 years of infertility is due to not BDing on the right days, which i *know* isn't the case, but it gives me a little bit of something to hold on to

I've been reading a lot of things from people lately about getting a natural bpf after getting bfn's with IVF, IUIs, etc. I know it's not probable, but i always pray to be the exception to the rule

 

[Ducktales]

Hi Jen, first of all
LTTTC is SHIT

Have you tried Soy Isoflavones ?
It might be worth a shot - i got my BFP using them the first time in Jan 2011 (though they didnt work last month) and I know a lot of women who have had success with them
have a research, see what you think
good luck
xxxx

 

[dodgercpkl]

If either of you ladies need information on MTHFR, let me know. I was diagnosed with homo C677T MTHFR mutations (2 copies) back in August and have been researching it like crazy. I'm happy to pass on any information that I can. Sticky baby dust to you all!

 

[Chatnoir]

Being "unexplained" is awful! Especially when you hear about tests etc that the dr doesn't offer as standard but could be the key to why your not falling. They would rather push ivf or iui then find the cause and treat it!
Op, if you can't afford ivf have you looked at an iui? It's much cheaper, it might not be as successful but could be worth a try. We are paying for our own iui in the new year as our nhs trust doesn't cover it.