Mandyblur
Mum of 3 soon to be 4!!!
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I seem to have found myself in a very awkward situation that is seriously beginning to stress me out.
When i had my daughter my mum and my husband were with me during labour, my mother would not stop touching my belly throughout which made me feel very uncomfortable.
After the birth she decided to stay with us a few days - given i had post natal depression immediately after birth i honestly didn't care that she was there as it was someone to see to my daughter instead of me doing it. (just to add, my daughter scared the life out of me as i swore blind she didn't like me)
Fast forward to now, me and my husband decided it would only be me and him in the delivery room so i can feel more comfortable and hopefully prevent post natal depression. My mum was quite upset that she would miss the birth so we've given her the chore of looking after my other kids whilst i'm in hospital, she seemed ok with that - until she decided she would stay for the week and i said no. Then i got the silent treatment and the whole "find someone else to look after your kids then". My husband is only taking a week off for paternity and we'd like to spend it alone as a family.
To save my mothers feelings, i said she could stay for 2 days and then come back at a later time to stay for a little longer. She's now planned it so as soon as my hubby goes back to work she is here for a full week!
Don't get me wrong i love my mum to bits but i'm finding her difficult to be around, she constantly pokes my belly which hurts when the skin is so stretched, she texts me about 3 times a day asking if i'm ok, which gets very annoying when she wants all the gory details (which i've stopped giving her) and then she moans to my husband that i don't tell her anything - the truth is i don't want her to know, this is mine and my husbands pregnancy not hers.
I'm finding her that overbearing that i'm really not looking forward to coming home with the baby and seeing her here, i just know she's going to try and butt in with everything - but i also know if i don't allow her to be here she would never speak to me again.
I feel so stressed out, i just can't cope with her and at the moment i just want to be left alone so i can enjoy the little pregnancy i have left and then enjoy bonding with my baby - it just doesn't feel like its going to happen
When i had my daughter my mum and my husband were with me during labour, my mother would not stop touching my belly throughout which made me feel very uncomfortable.
After the birth she decided to stay with us a few days - given i had post natal depression immediately after birth i honestly didn't care that she was there as it was someone to see to my daughter instead of me doing it. (just to add, my daughter scared the life out of me as i swore blind she didn't like me)
Fast forward to now, me and my husband decided it would only be me and him in the delivery room so i can feel more comfortable and hopefully prevent post natal depression. My mum was quite upset that she would miss the birth so we've given her the chore of looking after my other kids whilst i'm in hospital, she seemed ok with that - until she decided she would stay for the week and i said no. Then i got the silent treatment and the whole "find someone else to look after your kids then". My husband is only taking a week off for paternity and we'd like to spend it alone as a family.
To save my mothers feelings, i said she could stay for 2 days and then come back at a later time to stay for a little longer. She's now planned it so as soon as my hubby goes back to work she is here for a full week!
Don't get me wrong i love my mum to bits but i'm finding her difficult to be around, she constantly pokes my belly which hurts when the skin is so stretched, she texts me about 3 times a day asking if i'm ok, which gets very annoying when she wants all the gory details (which i've stopped giving her) and then she moans to my husband that i don't tell her anything - the truth is i don't want her to know, this is mine and my husbands pregnancy not hers.
I'm finding her that overbearing that i'm really not looking forward to coming home with the baby and seeing her here, i just know she's going to try and butt in with everything - but i also know if i don't allow her to be here she would never speak to me again.
I feel so stressed out, i just can't cope with her and at the moment i just want to be left alone so i can enjoy the little pregnancy i have left and then enjoy bonding with my baby - it just doesn't feel like its going to happen