kmpssbl
Mother of 1, TTC for #2
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Hi ladies
So, overbearing in-laws...
I feel like this is the only place I can express these feelings, besides maybe my mom. Ever since hubby and I told his parents we are pregnant (on Easter Sunday), I feel like they are just waaaaay too into it. It is their first grandchild, so I can understand that they are excited. But COME ON! Sometimes I wish they would just back off a bit. His dad keeps throwing out stupid names, mostly Biblical, and they're just dumb. I am not as religious as hubby's family is, so I try to bite my tongue. Plus, we've already picked out names, and neither are Biblical. The name we originally chose was, but we changed our minds. Another thing with the name is this. Hubby's dad jokingly suggests to name the child after him. His name is not flattering at all, and I decided when I was a child myself that if I ever had a son, he would be named after MY dad. Hubby has no problem with this decision, and he totally respects it. We have not told his dad we are doing this if it's a boy...
His dad jokes around a lot about things he wants to do for the baby (names, building stuff, babysitting, etc), but seriously? This is OUR child. It will not be spending all of its time with his parents! Plus, I don't want them to raise the kid the way they "think" is right. They've already disagreed with us about schooling! We are sending the kid to school, but they think it should be homeschooled, like hubby's little sister currently is. I was homeschooled 2 years when I was younger, but that was it. Our child will learn how to deal with the real world.
I am sorry for the venting, but it's just so annoying! I had to wake up at the butt-crack of dawn this morning to go have breakfast at their house this morning. All they wanted to do was talk about the baby. I was half awake and did not want to be there. The food was not good, and I just wanted to go back to bed. Thank goodness we were not there long. It's just so overwhelming, and I don't know if I can take it
I was almost worried my family would be overbearing, but my sister has #2 on the way, so it's not like all the focus is on me anyway (thank goodness). I like talking about the baby, but not so much with hubby's family. I am not like them and I hardly ever agree on their point of views.
Now I am worrying about naming the baby after my dad if it's a boy, and what hubby's dad will say. Hubby has already reassured me he won't care, and that it's OUR baby and not his and he doesn't get to name the kid.
Thanks for reading, ladies. If you have any advice or anything, please feel free to give. I just appreciate being able to post this
So, overbearing in-laws...
I feel like this is the only place I can express these feelings, besides maybe my mom. Ever since hubby and I told his parents we are pregnant (on Easter Sunday), I feel like they are just waaaaay too into it. It is their first grandchild, so I can understand that they are excited. But COME ON! Sometimes I wish they would just back off a bit. His dad keeps throwing out stupid names, mostly Biblical, and they're just dumb. I am not as religious as hubby's family is, so I try to bite my tongue. Plus, we've already picked out names, and neither are Biblical. The name we originally chose was, but we changed our minds. Another thing with the name is this. Hubby's dad jokingly suggests to name the child after him. His name is not flattering at all, and I decided when I was a child myself that if I ever had a son, he would be named after MY dad. Hubby has no problem with this decision, and he totally respects it. We have not told his dad we are doing this if it's a boy...
His dad jokes around a lot about things he wants to do for the baby (names, building stuff, babysitting, etc), but seriously? This is OUR child. It will not be spending all of its time with his parents! Plus, I don't want them to raise the kid the way they "think" is right. They've already disagreed with us about schooling! We are sending the kid to school, but they think it should be homeschooled, like hubby's little sister currently is. I was homeschooled 2 years when I was younger, but that was it. Our child will learn how to deal with the real world.
I am sorry for the venting, but it's just so annoying! I had to wake up at the butt-crack of dawn this morning to go have breakfast at their house this morning. All they wanted to do was talk about the baby. I was half awake and did not want to be there. The food was not good, and I just wanted to go back to bed. Thank goodness we were not there long. It's just so overwhelming, and I don't know if I can take it
I was almost worried my family would be overbearing, but my sister has #2 on the way, so it's not like all the focus is on me anyway (thank goodness). I like talking about the baby, but not so much with hubby's family. I am not like them and I hardly ever agree on their point of views.
Now I am worrying about naming the baby after my dad if it's a boy, and what hubby's dad will say. Hubby has already reassured me he won't care, and that it's OUR baby and not his and he doesn't get to name the kid.
Thanks for reading, ladies. If you have any advice or anything, please feel free to give. I just appreciate being able to post this