PAL after Recurrent Losses - come join us!

[Miracle1902]

Squig: I'm very sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you and your family during this difficult time. Although I rarely write in this forum, I make it a point to to sign on at least once a day to see how the ladies are doing. Fair to say when something bad happens to one of us, we all share the pain bc we've been there. Losing a baby 1st trimester is devastating, but I can't even begin to imagine a loss during the second or third. I hope you have a good network of people around you to share your grief n be there to support you.

 

[DSemcho]

Hey Squig - how are you doing hun?? I know it's rough but I wanted to make sure you were okay.


MrsR - I know it's my body but I realllly don't want to find out the gender without my DH. However I do have good news!!


He doesn't know this - but he's agreeing to the 3D/4D off base. I scheduled an appointment for 27Feb It's actually 250TL (which is about $101.73) AND my manager said she's giving me $50 toward it as part of my shower gift So I know he'll agree to it now!! Next Friday I get to find out what it is!!

 

[Squig34]

I'm just devastated D. I know other people have coped with this & come out the other side & I will too but for now it's just starting to sink in that we aren't getting to take our little son home & I can't stop crying. We bought him a tiny little elephant toy & comforter blanket. Anyway I won't post a lot more on here about this as PARL is not really for such cases as mine I know, but I appreciate all the kind messages.

 

[DSemcho]

I don't mind you posting hun. It's a loss regardless of how it happened. I'd be devastated too - honestly I'd probably still be in shock and not accepting of it yet. I don't handle super bad news very well honestly. And I'm sure the rest of us are wanting you to stay, especially since you need support on all sides.

 

[Tasha]

Squig im glad you bought him so things, I found it important.

You're right other people have gone through this and come out the other side, in time that will give you hope that you too will have a life that is once again normal and even happy but right now that is too far away and you need to be allowed to focused on the here and now. To allow yourself to cry and scream, emmerse yourself in your little boy and your husband. You three are the focus right now.

As for not writing here, here is exactly where you should write (if you feel able and want to), we are your friends, we've been on this journey with you and we feel so sad that you won't get to bring him home. You need us and we won't let you walk away from our support

 

[Ummi2boyz]

Squig:
I couldn't put it any better than the other ladies have. Feel free to come whenever you want.
I hope everything goes as smoothly as possible considering the circumstances.

 

[blueblue]

Squig - I'm so sorry for your loss, it must be devastating. I can't imagine how it is to go through. I'm crying after reading your news too. My thoughts are with you.

 

[dairymomma]

Squig-like Tasha said, don't be afraid to come here. PARL is it's own special place where we can talk freely because we ALL understand, at least on some level, what you are going through. Hope said before that those who haven't had a later loss or neonatal loss don't fully understand and she's right. Even though I've had a 2nd tri loss, I can't compare my experience with yours or Tasha's or Hope's because it's not the same. But what I DO know and we ALL understand on this thread is the loss of a child is so very hard. Your little boy has all these amazing women who loved him too and we are grieving along with you, even if we are separated by thousands of miles. That's what makes this thread so great-we celebrate each other's joys and share in each other's sorrows.

 

[wookie130]

Squig, again, I simply cannot imagine your pain or grief. While we've all had losses on this thread, as painful as that is, there is something so much more devastating (in my opinion) about losses that occur later in pregnancy...

Please know that you have friends on this thread, and we are here to support you...we're here to listen and we'd love to do whatever we can for you and your family.

 

[Mrs Reineke]

Good morning ladies,

Squig, like the other ladies have said...you are more than welcome to stay and say whatever you'd like on this thread. We're here to support you if you need us. You're in my prayers during this difficult time.

DSemcho, that's so exciting you are going to find out the gender next week!! Excited to hear!!

 

[ginny83]

Squig let yourself be as upset and angry as you want to be. Its a devastating thing that's happened to you and sadly it does get worse the further along you are. There's lots of time to heal in the future, let yourself have time to just grieve as well.

 

[Squig34]

Thanks everyone. Our teeny tiny (16cm) baby son Adam was born sleeping (as you know) today at 4.20pm. He has 6 toes on his left foot & 6 fingers on each hand!

Unfortunately his bones are so soft & his skin so fragile that we can't move him much or hold him properly skin to skin, but the midwife (who was lovely) will put him in a wee knitted pouch so we will be able to hold him in that.

 

[Tasha]

sweet dreams Adam.

Thinking of you all xx

 

[Ummi2boyz]

Thinking of you hun.

 

[Hope39]

Fly high little angel xx

 

[wookie130]

I hate this for you, Squig.

Little Adam will always live in your heart.

 

[dairymomma]

Thinking of you Squig.

Fly high baby Adam. You are more loved than you'll ever know.

 

[loeylo]

I don't really have any words which feel enough. Thinking of you. Adam is a wonderful name!

 

[floridamomma]

Fly high sweet little Adam. Sweet baby boy. Hugs squigxxxx so much love and prayers your wayxx

 

[mowat]

What a beautiful name. Thinking of you.