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[blueblue]

Loeylo - I've found taking each step at a time and not thinking too far ahead really helps (I started reading Sophie Fletcher's hypnobirthing book but it feels much too soon for me, even though you are supposed to start the courses at 25-28 weeks. It actually scares me when I wasn't scared in the first place, she's a bit full on about the whole natural birth thing - I just want LO to be ok. The Mongan method book looks less full on), along with general relaxation techniques. I'm not going to look at it again until after 28/30 weeks.

Just waiting for the post 20 week appointment with the consultant/haematologist as the midwife wants to send me due to family history of clotting (my RMC screen was clear).

Hope everyone is getting on well.

D - how are you? How was your appointment at the end of June?

Hope - hope everything is going well for you, are you going into hospital soon?

 

[Hope39]

Hi blue - yes I go in on monday, I'm feeling like I need to be there now.

Today I'm at the same gestation when isaac arrived and it's making me very on edge, I'm paranoid over movements, twinges and anything really

I got my GAP/GROW chart through today from the Perinatal Institute, my hospital aren't officially on board yet but they are keen to know my obstetricians thoughts

Xx

 

[ab75]

Hope xx

 

[wookie130]

Sending lots of hugs and support through this anxious time, Hope39. We get it (the best we can, anyway), and we're sending prayers.

 

[Tasha]

hope. Every day is a milestone now. We are all willing you along xx

 

[dairymomma]

Wookie and Tasha said it best, Hope. Your anxiety is understandable. to you.

 

[dancareoi]

Hope, thinking of you. We still want updates!

Although its not ideal to spend so long in hospital, you know it's the best place to be and you'll be a lot more relaxed about things (although not totally relaxed!)

I only spent 2 weeks in hospital and as I've said before I actually enjoyed it! You soon get a new little routine. I didn't spend all day in my night shirt, I had a shower after breakfast every morning and then got dressed, usually maternity tracksuit bottoms and a vest top. I'd maybe have a walk to the hospital shop. I did a lot of sudoku puzzles and also had the TV (buy yourself the longest package on offer as it works out better value for money)

I took my own mug from home for the free tea/coffee machine as the plastic cups weren't big enough, I also took my own decaf teabags

I had my own room at the end of the ward, during the day I would sit on my chair, with the TV on and the door open so I could watch all the coming and goings.

I saw a doctor everyday and was checked by a midwife every day, which was so reassuring.

On top of that 3 meals a day made for me, no washing up, no housework, no washing and DH running round after my other 3 children at home. It was actually a relaxing break!

This may sound a strange thing to say, but make the most of it and let yourself be looked after!

Being serious though, you will be in the best place possible and every day gets closer to your rainbow.

Big hugs xx

 

[Hope39]

Thanks everyone, I feel like I need to be there now as I am starting to drive myself mad at home about movements

I will still have my work to do (book keeping) off my laptop and my OH will visit every other day and bring different work in for me so I have something to occupy me a bit

There is a day room with a tv in anyway and wifi is £17 a month , I'm an Amazon prime member so have access to lots of films too

Just need to get into a routine and I'm actually looking forward to not climbing our stairs 20 times a day for wee, and not having to do the dishwasher everyday , ha ha

Some friends will visit too hopefully x

 

[dancareoi]

I too did work whilst in the hospital. We had an orange mobile account on the iPad so I had wifi access on that. I did all the accounts payments for our own lettings business and we used Go to my pc so I could access the office based system. I used to do this in a morning before lunch!

Also meant to add, every afternoon I used to feel a bit tired (didn't sleep too good at night as on the maternity ward and lots of people moving around all night and babies crying). So mid afternoon I would get onto my bed, sitting upright, to relax and watch tv for a bit and more often than not would fall asleep!

Most days they would put all the monitors on me to check baby's heartbeat and movements, I loved this and quite happily sat there for the 15 or minutes listening to my baby, it was lovely. Although one day both baby and I fell asleep whilst on moniter !

The first evening in there I felt bored silly and felt time was going to drag, but after the first couple of days time seemed to speed up.

On my second day they wanted to give me steroid injections, this was two injections at 12 hour intervals in my bottom! As I was gestational diabetic they had to check my sugar level every one or two hours for 24 hours! Maternity ward didn't have the staff so I was on labour ward for this. Transferred the tv down to labour room and sat up watching lord of the rings!

 

[NDH]

I'm pregnant again eeps how terrifying! I've been so busy preparing for moving (yesterday) for the past two weeks that I haven't even given a thought to where I am in my cycle or anything. Thank goodness I have an app or I wouldn't even remember my last AF date all I know is I had a 15 day and then a 12 day cycle, though mostly bled for that whole time following the last mc.
Anyway I had a preggo dream last night and realized I've been peeing loads, and then dh joked that we'll be having another baby soon since we just moved. So this morning I checked my app and realized I'm cd30. When I had to pee for the 4th time since 3am I dug through the bathroom box for a hpt and the line came up as soon as it dried. Not blaring obvious but certainly more than a squinter, probably about right for 4th pee in 6-7 hours.
My last three pregnancies I had bleeding or spotting by now as an early indication things weren't right (though the last two lasted til 10 and 7 weeks) and other than frequency of urination I have zero symptoms, which is actually more assuring to me as I had early symptoms with all my losses and symptomless pregnancies with my girls. Anyway I'm scared but also hopeful. The timing isn't wonderful though as I have so much cleaning to do this week in the old house as well as unpacking the new house, and we're flat broke as well due to the move so I can't afford to see the naturopath and TCM right now as planned. Will have to find a way though.

 

[wookie130]

Oh, NDH! Sending tons of sticky to you! Congrats!

 

[blueblue]

Hope - good luck for tomorrow, I hope it goes very quickly for you. I think the reassurance of being monitored will really help with the worries, it must be such a nervous time for you. Enjoy the lack of stairs x

NDH - I have everything crossed for you, hoping the similar symptoms to your girls pregnancies is a good sign . Hope the move goes well.

 

[nessaw]

Hope thinking of you tom.
Ndh keeping everything crossed.

 

[Squig34]

All the best, Hope. Hoping that everything goes as smoothly as possible for you this time.

 

[ginny83]

Hope - thinking of you lots.. getting closer now, just do whatever you have to to get through it xx

I hated being in hospital. I only had a to spend a handful of night on different occasions while I was pregnant and then a week afterwards. I think maybe if I didn't have DS1 at home I would have been a bit more relaxed - I needed DH with me after I had B and DS1 was just getting shifted around to different relatives. plus because I was in for blood pressure issues they wake you up every 4 hours to take your BP (I was even on every 2 hours at some points!). My hospital food sucked, but not cooking was nice. Not cleaning was the one good thing about being there (besides having B) hehe

 

[hopeful23456]

congrats NDH! thinking of you hope, wish we could all visit

 

[Radiance]

I am back once again! This gal just can not give up!! 3+3, I got my first positive at 8DPO! The picture is my 8dpo test

 

[ab75]

Good luck Radiance,I hope you get to bring this baby home xx

 

[nessaw]

Congrats radiance.x

 

[Ummi2boyz]

Radiance congrats! Sticky dust. xx

Hope: how are things going?

Ginny: how are you? And the boys?

Hi everyone! Hope your pregnancies are going well for all of you.